Article #8 March 12 2022

It is simple to suggest that you should eliminate someone out of your life, but it is not that simple in reality. You cannot effectively cut them out of your life, especially if they are friends, family, or relatives. Yes, if the person you want to cut is a friend, it is easy for me, but if it is a family member or relative, it will be difficult.

In life, whether you like it or not, there are those people who will act nicely in front of you while backstabbing you nonstop while you are not around. This commonly happens within your compound, in your school, or, worst of all, in your humble home.

Many individuals are perplexed as to why cutting someone is a negative thing. It's fine with me as long as you realize that person is bringing you problems in life. To be honest, I'm also anxious of cutting them. It feels unethical to remove them from your life because you know it will only make things worse. But why did we genuinely think that?

When I reminisce on my younger years, I act as if I am already old. Haha. But, yes, I sometimes overhear our neighbors insulting my mother. It's heartbreaking, but it always happens in our neighborhood. I'm not sure how they can talk to my momma sweetly when they're stabbing her. I told my mother about it several times, but she merely told me not to think about it. She also asserted me that those who gossip about you when you're not around are the ones who can't stand or reach your level. That is why it is challenging for me to speak negatively about someone because it is a hint that I envy them.

Back to my main point about eliminating toxic people. It's alright, darling, specifically when they're ruining your mental health. You shouldn't have to explain why you cut them, regardless of your relationship with them. It is their problem to discover why you remove them. You would be under no obligation to disclose yourself to them.

When I was in high school, especially during my senior year, I met  lot of  friends. I had no idea that some of them were going to turn against me. I'm not sure why, but it could be because I'm too bossy to them. I once got into a fight because I overheard someone making fun of me. It wasn't a particularly intense moment, but I recall it vividly. I don't know for how long I've been oblivious to how they mistreated me, but I've always lowered my pride just to be with them. I was overly powerful at the moment, but I am incredibly weak when it comes to friendship. I'm afraid of losing them because school and friends are the only way I can address my problems in life.

However, I have a feeling that losing them will empower me. When I am not with them, I will be more mentally healthy. I did cut some of my pals, but strangely, some of them haven't given up on me. They treated me even better, assuring me that they are my friends and do not belong to those who backstabbed me.

Believe people when they say that at work, you must work and then go home. You should not befriend your coworkers since you never know when they would betray you. I recall one of my coworkers envious at me. When we're together, she's very kind to me, yet she keeps talking back to me. I only found out when one of my coworkers told me. As a result, I no longer trust my coworkers. I cut that sham friend out of my life. I don't think I'll ever talk to her again. She once inquired as to why I had stopped going to have a lunch with her during our break. I made her discover what she had done to me in order for her to have a conscience. Fortunately, the pandemic occurred, and I did not see her until today. I'm not sure if she apologized for what she did to me.

Closing Thought

Do not afraid of losing someone in you life, unless you want to lose yourself instead? If they don't respect you and you caught them backstabbing you, you should consider dumping them.  Do not allow them to do whatever they want to you. Enjoy your own company; you'll be fine.

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