You See, When We Lose, Do We Really Lose?

It was last Wednesday when I had a quick conversation with my father. Believe it or not, I'm close with my dad but we don't usually talk. We often just talk about crypto-related topics because he's a trader. He holds lots of coins and tokens I don't even know the names.

Back to the topic, while I was having my breakfast last Wednesday, he approached me.

Can I ask you a favor?

I don't know what and how to react that time. I wasn't busy but I'm already guessing what the favor would be. Sometimes it's about money, sometimes it's about twitter.

It's funny that we sometimes get annoyed when our parents ask for help when it comes to technology. When we are busy doing something and there they are, asking questions on how to navigate a certain button on their phone.

My father usually ask for help regarding twitter because of airdrops. He need to follow certain accounts, retweet with captions, and even mention his friends. When I told him how to do it, expect that he'd be needing my help regarding the same task a few weeks later. I do admit, I get annoyed at times, but knowing that our parents are also growing old and don't know how these new things work, I try to understand and be patient with them.

This time, he didn't ask for help regarding twitter, that's great! and it's not about money either, whew! So what it is about?

He asked if I can make an essay, not really an essay though, like a paragraph only of his thoughts because he wanted to join a contest.

Since I don't have anything to do at that time, I agreed.

The topic that he wanted me to write about is about having friends in a casino.

I laughed at first. He gambles because he's a trader. He plays games in online casinos as well but he doesn't go to casinos in real life.

I was about to ask him why it is his chosen topic but he explained it first. The topic is about his memorable experience in that specific online casino.

In a regular casino, one's memorable experience could be their biggest wins or their biggest loss. But here's my father, pointing out making friends in a casino as his memorable experience.

He explained the reason why. He was able to make friends when he lost one time and he doesn't have any token left to play. He was feeling down and yet, his so-called friends gave him some so he can still play with them until he recovered his tokens. My father was touched with their generosity, even if they don't know each other personally, still, they treat him as a friend.

He said because of that, he was able to feel better whenever he wins. He also share his tokens with his so-called friends and it feels great.

When we lose, we don't really lose, we gain.

As for my father, he may lost some amount of tokens but he gained friends, and that's much better than what he had lost.

After writing an essay about it, I wonder what other situations in life it applies?

When we feel like we lost something, we usually grieve for what's lost. On the other hand, we gained something - whether it's a feeling of relief, or in form of other things, we don't just usually see it but it's there.

June 17, 2022