Love Percentage: Can We Measure It?

Let's talk about percentage. When we talk about percentage, we associate the 100 as its maximum.

I already mentioned in my previous article that my friends and I had our get-together last May. We rented out a room in Zambales, near the beach.

With that, of course, alcoholic beverages are present. Some of my friends are not really into drinking but me and my other friends are into it, we usually go out for drinks for fun. Actually, we had a hard time choosing which drinks to buy because some are not into it, we're kind of worried that they will get wasted.

We opted for Mojito since it's beginner friendly. We made a pomelo flavored juice as our chaser then we directly drink the mojito. I bought snacks to munch as we talk about life. We also had liempo and grilled fish as our snacks, leftovers from dinner.

We have 4 bottles of mojito and 8 red cups for the juice.

We first talked about our lives after college, what we missed in each other's lives since we last talked.

With that topic, we already finished 2 bottles of mojito. Some of my friends went to the restroom to pee. Did you know that it's better to pee a couple of times while drinking so you'll not get wasted easily! Release and let go of those liquid- that's the key.

We started another topic to talked about when we're into the love life portion. We're all 8 in the circle, 5 of us are in a relationship while the others are still waiting for their lucky ones.

JM asked, 'How many percent of love & effort would you give to your partner?'

We were all thinking. My partner, W, who's also a part of this circle, is thinking as well. W is not beside me so we didn't talk to each other before we answered. Honestly, I was anxious. What if we don't have the same answer? But then I remembered we're in a healthy relationship and that we trust each other. Whatever our answer is, that's it. We can talk about it later on if we have differences.

The first to answer is Abb. She's NBSB - no boyfriend since birth, but she's observant enough to know the highs and lows of being in a relationship. 70-30 is her response. 70% for the partner, 30% for herself. Hmm, not bad. She explained it really well. She said it's because we need to recharge ourselves after giving a lot and that she's not hypocrite to give it all to her partner.

Contrary to that, Mims responded - 100%! She's the bold one. I used to label her as my best friend, best in effort! She'll always go beyond what is expected of her. Even if there's nothing left for her, she'll give 100%. As for her, if you love the person, give them 100% of your love.

As I listen to their answers, my perspective didn't change. What shocked me is that my partner and I have the same point of view. Lol.

For us, there's not percentage when it comes to loving. You give your 100% yes, but how would you know that it's your 100%? How would you know that it's 70% and that it's already your limit?

For us, just give your best. After all, we have our own definition of what is the best. Giving your best love and effort to your partner doesn't mean you're neglecting yourself and that there will no love left for yourself.

Loving yourself while loving your partner should already be the default system. It's given. You don't get to love someone else if you're not yet full. As they say, you can only fill one's cup if yours is filled.

How about you, How many percent of love & effort would you give to your partner?'

June 9, 2022