@isla_20 26 July 2021 edited

My friends: Long Term/Acquaintances?

*We find friends in an unexpected situation and build that relationship with them throughout the years. And as you grew older, our life will change as well as our priorities and the way we communicate with people.* *We might cut our ties with our childhood friends and would never talk to them like how we used to. But there are exceptional friendships that tend to survive the test of time and would remain strong despite the lack of bonding and communication. We might be friends with a lot of people but only or one of them would remain your friend in your life.* *In this article, I’ll be sharing with you my relationships with people whom I think are my friends and hopefully they think of me as their friend too.* **JADMIECA** JADMIECA stands for Jundel, Aiza, Diego, Mitzi, Irish, Erna, Carlo and Arliza(Me). Our friendship started when we were in our last year high school. I’ve met Erna when I was still in elementary since we’re classmates when we are still in first grade and became friend in sixth grade when became classmates again. As for Jundel, Diego, Mitzi, Irish and Carlo we’ve met when started in high school but we never really that close and you can’t call us as “Friends” at that time. Our friendship was built slowly as we go through our journey in our secondary years. Here comes our third year in high school and there it slowly started the relationship that we have up until now. Since then, we were inseparable and would do things in groups. We would eat our snacks and lunch together, since we all bring our lunch in school and would share things that we have with each other. I could still remember the way we talked about how we want to travel at that certain age, like how we would just hop in on a bus and would not pay our fare or we would perform on streets to gain an amount that we can use (I know it is impossible but that how the way we think when we are younger since we thought that life is easy as eating banana, HAHAHA). And we have done so many silly things like not wearing our shoes or sleepers when we buy our snacks in our canteen with the reason that someone wears one of our friends’ shoes, since our shoes was not allowed inside our classroom unless you wear your foot socks or foot rag in order to not get our floor dirty. That is just the two of the so many silly things that we enjoyed to do when we are still in high school. As we graduated, we didn’t have that stable communication with each other since we have taken a different path and most of us have entered college unlike while we are in high school. A get together will be organized but one or two in our group would not be able to attend because there is a lot more important thing that needs to be attended than spending their time with us and we never felt angry about because we fully understand that we are not those high schoolers anymore. We are already preparing for the things that are ahead of us. And now that almost all of us already got their diplomas and are working, our friendship remains. Despite the differences that we have right now, our friendship remained strong as if 7 years never passed. **OTHER FRIENDS** As I have my friends who stayed with me throughout the years and never changed, I also have so many friends that are very close to my hearts but one day we ended up not talking anymore. Some of them became busy with their lives and some of them just stopped talking to me with no reason. It's just so sad when you put a lot of trust to them and treated them not just your friend but as more than just a sister and they stop talking to you and you didn't know why. I have this one friend whom I share my secrets with and treated her more like a sister. We've been friends for almost 5 years. I would visit her in their house and talked with her about life for hours, spends quality time with her. We would comfort each other if anyone of us have problems or something that bothers us. I never thought that there would come a time that she would ignore me and stop talking to me because clearly I didn't see her like that and for me there was more to us, for me she's my sister. But things really do happen. And now, we might be talking but not the way that we are months ago. I'm still not over with what she did and I still feel betrayed. I know she's trying to fix us but we'll see if. I'm not closing my door to her because after all she's my friend and I'm still human, I already have forgiven her but I can't forget what she did. I'll just let time heal everything inside of me. **Realizations** People come and go and true friends are hard to find. You might have a close friend right now but after a few months or years you’ll slowly fall apart and would start to never talk again like how you used to talk right at this moment. Choose your friends wisely and be careful on who you share your life and secrets with because we never know if who you thought your friend was true or they’re just there to know your secrets so they can tell the world about it. There are also parasites camouflaged and called as “FRIENDS”, and when they have sucked all of you, they just leave you wondering what went wrong. So, if you’ve found someone who stays with you despite the changes that both of you may encounter, despite not being able to talk with each other for ages, who stays true to you and treat you not just a friend but a sister or brother, please don’t make any mistakes that might ruin you’re the friendship that you have. Because friends are your extended family.