Mistaken Intention

I spent almost half of my childhood at the custody of my sister and my brother in law. Ever since I was a child, I remember spending every summer vacations, Christmas break and every break that I can get from school with them.

They are basically the one that raise me up. They are a big part of my childhood and what I am today, they have a big contribution on it.

Specially my brother in law. This article is all about him anyway.

We are not really close but today, I just realized how I am so blessed because of him.

He's kind of strict. He's also choleric so when he said to this, we should obey quickly. He's also loud, it makes me irritated so many times. He's impatient. These are all negative because he's not perfect.

Before, I fear his word. I obey what he says but I obey out of fear. I don't really like what I do. What I know is just I have to obey him.

I remember that when my friends asks me about my brother I always answer that "he's nice but he's strict".

Since I am living with them, I have to obey. We don't have an officially written house rules but we do have a lot of spoken house rules. So so many that it makes me so angry at him so many times.

But as I grow older, I slowly realized that what he's doing is just for my own benefit. My fear for him slowly turned into respect. Now, I obey because I believe in him and I respect him.

He now gained my respect, the respect that he deserves.

Before, at such a young age I wonder why do I have to always do the dishes. Why do I need to clean the house? Why do I need to cook the rice? Why do I need to wake up early? There are so many why's that I don't know the answer.

At a very young age I was taught to do household chores. I was never a morning person but I have to get up early. And like any other kid, I was always forced to sleep during afternoon.

It made me cry when every time I have to eat vegetables, it made me to almost vomit because I can't even swallow those veggies.

But what happened from before are slowly making sense now that i'm older.

Now, household chores are so easy to do for me. And whenever I go to different places or have a sleepover or visit to a different house, I have the proper etiquette.

I know how to show courtesy. Until now I still don't like vegetables but I can eat whatever it is that is on my plate.

Before, we need to eat whatever it is on our plate. When our foods is vegetables, I have to get that on my own or else my brother will give me so many vegetables. Whatever food it is, as long as it's on our plate, no matter how full we are, we have to finish it.

And until now I have that in me. Whenever I go, whenever I eat, I make sure to finish my foods. We shouldn't waste food after all. There are so many people who starve, it's tattooed in my mind so I was always reminded to finish my foods.

As for the part where I had to wake up early, it's because it is required for us to tale meals together. And I now realized how important it is for a family.

We have such fun time having meals together. It is so essential for better communication. Through meals, we were able to talk about things. To look for the well being of each other. We have so much bonding during meal time.

I think my narration is quite vague so here are my final thoughts.

As a child, we may think negatively of thinks that the elders are are trying to make us do. Sometimes we don't like those things. We don't get the reason for it but as I grow older, as we grow older, slowly we'll realize that it is for us. It is for our own benefit.

Because that's life. Sometimes, we may think that what's happening is so unfair, but let us remember that all those things happen for a reason.

As for my own experience, maybe I learned the hard way from my brother in law but I still learned. And without him, I wouldn't be the person that I am today.

Through him I learned to value foods, to value quality time, I learned to be independent, to give courtesy, to give respect for others, to do things my own, to do household chores, and so many things. Too many that I can't list them all.

So, some things might not make sense now, but in time, all will get clearer and you'll see the purpose for everything.

I don't really talk much with my brother in law but I really appreciate him. Now, everything makes sense and I can't thank him enough for that. I am now more than ready and prepared to go outside our home, to go out of my comfort zone because I was trained by the best. He's more like a father figure rather than a brother for me and I really really thankful for him.

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So hey guys! I don't know if what I've written above make sense but that's just my realizations.

So lately, I think @TheRandomRewarder is offline. We are not getting tips from him and I have seen some user here that loses their motivation to write because of the absence of the bot.

I don't really have much but I decided to have a mini giveaway hoping that I can cheer up even a small number of people.

So here's what you have to do to join the giveaway.

• Just comment some of your realizations wherein what you think that doesn't make sense before has made it sense now. (Just like how I shared how I hate my brother's way of disciplining me from before but I now realized that it's for my own benefit).

• I'll give $0.20 to the first 1o who'll share their realizations on the comment section.

• I'll still give token of appreciation after the first 10 comment until I have something left to give.

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I hope that you get what i'm trying to say here. Cheer up, people! :))