We don't have to live the fate of our ancestors
I have a simple question. Are you living your own life? We owe the perfect harmony of our universe to physical laws (the law of magnetism, the law of gravity, etc.) as well as to spiritual laws (the law of vibration, the law of compassion, etc.). We are connected by invisible ties to all our ancestors who lived in the past, and even to all humanity. Today I will talk about our ancestors.
Our ancestors have gone through many difficulties, struggles, pain and grief throughout history. We did not only take our structural features such as the color of our eyebrows / eyes, our height from them. At the same time - let's be aware of it or not - we inherited the legacies of our ancestors who lived tens of generations ago - to serve us / our lineage on our journey of evolution. For example, if there is a migration story in your ancestors and they had difficulty in sheltering in the land they came from;
*"I have to be invisible to survive."*
*"I have to hide."*
*"I will be wronged / betrayed."*
*"I can only survive if I hide who I am."*
there may be such beliefs. And these programs can be triggered and confronted by many different situations / events / emotions when you come to the crossroads in your life.
The past is in our minds, in our genes, in our bodies. The past is never dead. The past is not even the past.
**Mark Wolyn**
For example;
You may experience financial difficulties when you attempt to start your own business (because you choose to be invisible),
-You may experience rooting problems in your business / marriage / life (because your ancestors could not shelter),
-You may not be able to get any kind of promotion at the institution you work for (due to your belief in being injured) or,
You may be betrayed by your closest relatives without understanding why (because your ancestors were also betrayed by the people they trusted in the land they came from).
These scenarios may sound familiar to many of you. So let's go a little further; You may even have taken over the roles of other ancestors in your family system. In his book Did Not Begin With You, the famous author Mark Wolynn says: “Bert Hellinger observed that when someone is rejected or excluded in the family system, that person is represented by a later member of the system. For example, if your grandfather was rejected from the family because of his drinking, gambling, and flirtatious habits, it is possible that this or more behavior will be repeated by one of the next generations. "
One of the best ways to be free from the destiny of your ancestors is to cleanse your subconscious. As you clear your subconscious, you will reach your best version, and even change the fate of you and your descendants after you.
My Internally Complex Notes - Poetry Essay
Whatever I write always drives me wrong, why?
If I am writing because of my loneliness, who is not alone?
Where are you when my sky is cold from blue?
I have bespoke pains, my expectations.
What a blessing is not peace?
Is it happiness? Is it peace? Are they the same thing? I do not know ?
All I know is that if there is no peace, nothing will happen.
You need peace of mind, or you need a mask.
I don't understand why I feel at peace in poems?
Maybe it's because they're written sincerely?
Poetry is also for me
Filling the gaps,
The light of my peace,
The biggest friend of my sadness,
Confidant
Sometimes I'm a guide,
Favorite
My sun that never rises, my night, my rain
My rainbow
Poetry you are my poet.
My devotion to poetry is one of my plays I started reading when I was little.
Please understand me, anyone, my concern is always love, the way of love, its burn, its bag, its ashes.
Whatever happened to me came from this! There is a different minded construction accepted. I am a difficult person, even someone who always gets into trouble because of a good thought.
Because I'm not good enough to think well.
Let's take 4 small steps to say NO
I will examine NO, which is one of the most difficult words to use today. Why is it so hard to say no? Actually, what do we give up when we can't say no? How can we say no more easily?
Today, our topic is the habit of "not being able to say no" that I encounter in most of the people I work with and negatively affects the quality of life. In fact, like most habits, this is a pattern of behavior that you do automatically, you feel like you will not be like yourself if you don't do it, but when you start to question it a bit, you can see that it actually does more harm than good, and more importantly, you can change it when you take a step.
Why should say no?
First of all, it is very important to be able to say no in order not to disconnect with yourself while maintaining your relationships. Because saying yes to every question or request you have to say no means to say no to your own needs and wishes. On the other hand, when you cannot say no to the person who has made a request from you, you cannot do, do not have time, or cannot say no to matters that do not fall within the field of interest and skill, the possibility of disappointing the other party is also quite high.
Being able to say no has great advantages. In fact, no matter how much you think it will hurt your relationship or break the other person, saying no helps others gain clarity about what they can expect from you and helps you set healthy boundaries in your relationships. When you say no, you will be more honest and yourself, you will not have to wear a mask. You won't feel used in the long run. Your self-esteem and self-confidence increase in your relationship with yourself. On the other hand, people stop seeing you as someone who will do whatever they want, realize that you have limits, and respect you.
“People who can say no will be more valuable!
Why is it hard to say no?
Yes, considering the rational reasons one wants to gain the ability to say no right away, but why is it so hard to say no? Because in fact, we've been trained from childhood not to say no, we've been taught to suppress our feelings that accompany charity, and are often punished when we say no. These behaviors that we reinforced in childhood caused very strong neural networks to form in our brains, and the reason we still have trouble saying no today is that these very strong networks have become our habits. I'm also someone who had a hard time saying no until my mid-20s. In fact, there were times when I unleashed psychic powers because of not being able to say no. You will know what I mean when you explain it.
To pray **"NO"**
While I was in middle school, my mother bought me a denim jacket that I liked incredibly. You know how important clothes are for girls at that age… I loved the jacket so much that I would go to my room and check if it is still there. One day, a very close friend of mine saw the jacket on me and called me in the evening and said that he wanted to drive with his mother in the evening to borrow it. Of course, I accepted unwillingly because I was not able to say no. But then I scowled and prayed that they please don't come, I don't want to give my jacket. Hours passed, no one came or went. The next day my friend phoned. While they were coming to get the jacket, their cars broke down and they got stuck on the road. I was both surprised, sad and happy that I had my jacket. In short, if you cannot say "No", do not worry, this way your psychic powers will come out like me.
Joking aside, I've discovered that I can change in saying no as I go through more troublesome processes and situations and start to lean on myself, and I feel much better in this sense for the last 10 years. I experience that my relationships become much more peaceful as I realize that I am at least as valuable as others and set my limits.
4 small steps to get into the habit of saying no
Not being able to say no is a learned habit that has strong neural connections in our brain, and the brain can change, so we can change this habit and add the ability to say no to our lives as a skill over time. So now I will give you some tips so that you can say no to...
**1.** Make a list of all the things you say yes while trying to say no. Imagine they can't say no here in general. The last minute offers of your friends are like saying yes to someone's help requests, extra work that you are afraid of what will happen if you do not do it even though you have a lot of workload.
**2.** In front of those who always say yes on the list, write down how you said no to yourself when you could not say no to others. When you can't say no, do you say no to your own rest period or sleep, or time to spend with your loved ones and family? Making these first two lists gives you an overview of what you've lost.
**3.** When faced with the request or offer, ask for time before giving any answer: “Can you give me time until Friday to think about this a bit? I will definitely return to you on Friday afternoon ”. This article saves you from making hasty decisions and gives you time to think about how politely you can say no.
**4.** When you say no, develop an alternative scenario, make an alternative offer. This is where you can say no. Let's say your friends invite you to a dinner party, and your budget and energy are not enough for this invitation. “Thank you very much for the invitation, I miss you so much, but now is not a very suitable time for me. Shall we talk again in 2 weeks? " The important thing here is to first make the person feel valuable to you and then tell him that he / she cannot accept the offer. Finally, to present a new, alternative offer.
Creating new neural networks in your brain is an experience, that is, a practical and repetitive process. To gain this habit, you need to be consistent.
Remember these when making a habit of saying no;
Don't apologize when you say no and lots of excuses sorting out.
Don't lie, always be honest.
And most importantly, keep in mind that your self-worth cannot be measured by what you do for others!
We Are The Causes of Our Shadows
Ralph Waldo Emerson said that most of the shadows in our lives consist of standing in front of our own sun. Whatever we try to accomplish and accomplish in our lives, those shadowy thoughts look for opportunities to keep us one step behind, and even to prevent us from starting out altogether.
It's a question I get so often; "***Sir, I really want to start yoga, but I have a little overweight, do you think I can do it too?***" I am glad that even this problem has come, that the vast majority of us, even without the knowledge of the trainers, decide that they are not fit enough to do yoga on their own, and maybe they do not even dare to embark on this journey that will change their lifeline. The belief that you are not enough to do something that is known to be good for doing, deepens the foundations of stress. While this pressure is present, the desire to eat, which is seen as the way to relax, increases, and perhaps the diet list deteriorates with the weight of a past day due to ordinary mishaps, and a state of feeling bad, unsuccessful and worthless before.
The feeling of worthlessness affects our lives by wearing such different disguises… Maybe after a long-lasting relationship, which was ended for very justifiable reasons, it was triggered by witnessing a photo in which the separated partner looks happy with a new person “***Why not with me but with him? What was missing in me? Why didn't he treat me like that?*** " etc. may the internal gnawing queries sound familiar?
Whatever we do, that voice is inside us and it never stops. Moreover, at times he is very sneaky. “Oh, what's going to happen to eat dirty things today, too? Tomorrow, you start the diet again "or" What is it, if they have almost the same features as your previous partner, not everyone will be the same ", even unwittingly, can lead us to make new mistakes that we will criticize ourselves mercilessly at the end of the day.
*So where did this attitude come from?*
*Whose voice is the voice that is rising without stopping from inside?*
*Those sentences, this intonation, this attitude, whose attitude?*
Although the heroes vary in everyone's story, the answers mostly come from our childhood. Even parents who want to protect and nurture their children in every sense in the most conscious way leave these records without realizing it. Because we adults' inner voices are actually how we perceive what we are experiencing, rather than what we experienced as children. Only as a result of bad timing, our joy was suppressed, we were in a desired environment where we should be quiet, and we were convinced that it was wrong to be cheerful and share it, and at that moment we decided not to find ourselves worthwhile to be cheerful and happy.
It is such a thing that our teacher, our parents, even if we often witness the self-accusing, self-accusing, clumsy, careless, and even stupid expressions of any individual we see as an authority as a result of an accidental incident. We may have developed a ruthless attitude that does not allow us to make mistakes.
Could it be possible to have different identities than we are as a result of these illusions, what do you think? Could we all have created false values? Can we define our shelter as feeling safe, not because it makes us happy and feel good and because we enjoy doing it, but because it satisfies our sense of self-worth, and at the end of the day, it is our choices that we call obligatory and life precautions for these so-called feelings of feeling safe and valuable?
As we continue to do and choose what we believe we have to, one of the worst possible scenarios may be to be successful (!) In these things. As a result, we also created a value that successfully defined concepts bring happiness. If we are successful, we must be happy. However, when we succeed, we can only be as happy as the illusion that what makes us feel compelled can make us feel safe at the same time.
Trying to perceive ourselves as friendly can make it easier for us to break away from that gnawing voice inside of us, so we can learn to develop a fairer, more compassionate, more realistic attitude towards life and ourselves. By approaching our childhood's upsetting, painful experiences, our observations that we make sense to affect the rest of our lives, with our present mind, with a sincere attitude, we can become aware of that inner voice and find the answer to the critical question of who we really are more easily, individuals who are truly happy, self-confident and enjoy life from our own story. we can create.
Maybe you have been following my articles for a while, maybe it was the first time we came across today. If you have a curiosity and an enthusiasm about the possibility that this non-judgmental and friendly attitude can easily rise from you without any coercion, then I have prepared for you 6 weeks to understand your sensations more deeply, to maintain this state of alertness, to live this experience and to support those who want to protect it. I would like to announce that my program, which will continue, "Notice Your Treasure" has started once again.
In the content of the program, I have blended my professional knowledge in the fields of yoga, meditation and conscious awareness to present you with the methods and information that are known all over the world that have contributed to making a difference in my own life, and that have led thousands of people with their positive results.
Life is very precious to all of us. My aim is to contribute to the fact that many of us regularly contact and live more with the richness of their own living spaces through these tools and information that make a big difference in my life.
With your permission, I would like to bring to your attention a few comments from those who have just finished and completed the program I had done before.
**1st comment:** It is a very understandable, simple, immaculate education from a world-sweet educator who has experienced and internalized everything he tells in himself, in his heart, and has a warm smile. It was a very enjoyable education that was far from chaos, blended with art, everything was thought out one by one. I'm grateful for touching my life, my world, my heart,
**2nd comment:** After meditation, I throw a scab over me, the calmness that comes with guided meditation, staying in the moment, the mindful state I have caught with daily practices, the happiness provided by staying in the moment, following my breathing and realizing and developing the feeling of "I am here, I am here". Thank you very much for our practices and shares that create awareness in my feelings and thoughts.
**3rd comment:** My expectation when starting meditation was to learn to manage my emotional stress. As I progressed gradually in education, I learned how to increase my awareness thanks to the techniques I learned and to be able to stop and focus on myself in this fast life flow.
These breaks, which I gave myself in the course of the day, not only increased my awareness, but also increased my focus and concentration time. Each week, as I felt I was shifting from one mood to another, I noticed a calm build-up in the infrastructure. As this calmness was reflected in my reactions, day flow and human relations, I started to experience positive changes in these areas as well.
Another thing I liked about this practice was the variety of meditation and the ease of integrating it into daily life. For example, I started doing many works I have done with pleasure. Actually, I realized how exhausting the expectations were. Instead, I realized that being in a curious perspective further benefits our acceptance of events or our progress through them.
And finally, she is a student-spirited teacher who continues to train herself in her field. It is a library with tiny legs, bringing light to every question in your mind. His radiant smile, his energetic presence invites us in this direction. On this occasion, all the knowledge, science, technique, practice etc. that you have contributed to me. thank you for the stuff. Namaste
*There is no substitute for living experience.*
No Obstacle Stops Before Our Dreams
How do you feel during your unsuccessful moments? I'm sure many of you will immediately get desperate and wonder how incompetent you are. Don't worry, you are not alone in this. Thousands, even millions of people like me and I can be pessimistic just like you. This is very normal actually. "It wasn't, I can't, I'm not like them." Many more thoughts cross our minds in such situations.
Just at that moment when these annoying thoughts enter your mind, think about the examples where primary school teachers said “This child will not be anything” and that later marked history. Who knows what bumpy roads they have passed to achieve success.
Especially there are names that fascinate us all, despite their physical disabilities, and I think words are not enough to describe them. In today's article, I would like to share with you brief information about 5 of them that perhaps most impressed me.
Helen Keller
Frankly, I don't know how to explain it or where to start. Imagine a person who is both visually impaired, hearing and speaking impaired. Despite this, it almost fascinates people with what they have done and achieved.
Helen Keller was born as a healthy baby in America in 1880. Unfortunately, she is blind and deaf as a result of an illness before the age of 2. Helen's best chance, perhaps, is meeting Anne Sullivan, her trainer and friend, with whom she will spend about 50 years, with the help of signs arranged at home until she is 7 years old.
If you don't know much about Helen Keller, I recommend reading the books written for her and watching the movies that tell about her life. You can be sure that it will take you quite a bit of time if I start listing your actions here.
I think the most important lesson we can learn from his life will be this; No matter where life starts us from, there is nothing one cannot achieve with proper training (which he was lucky to have) and a little perseverance.
Stephen hawking
For Stephen Hawking, it would not be wrong to say that he is the greatest genius of all people who have ever lived. I would like to add that the most important feature that distinguishes this genius from other scientists is that he can fight ALS for more than 50 years. You know, they say, so that it doesn't happen to my enemy, as ALS is just such a disease.
Of course, many of you have heard of ALS with the ice bucket challenge, which shook the world years ago. But how much do you know about the disease? After learning about the lives of people with ALS, I'm sure you'll understand better why I call Stephen Hawking the most genius person of all time.
If Stephen Hawking was able to sign all this scientific work using only his eyes, just imagine what we can achieve if we, if you want, really, really want.
Andrea Bocelli
Believe me, I don't know what I would do without music in my life. Although there are many bands, singers and musicians that I listen to with admiration and tirelessly as a person who listens to music of all styles, I cannot pass without mentioning that I find peace in the voices of a few of them.
You wouldn't be surprised if I say one of them is Andrea Bocelli, would you?
Although I thought he was luckier than the other names on the list, he could have taken a completely different path after his world went dark, but he wanted to accompany the world he could not see with his voice. We are lucky that this magnificent sound brought us together with peace and love and of course beautiful music.
The fact that he can be riding a horse even though he is visually impaired will perhaps inspire me who wanted so much but never tried.
Lauren Wasser
Unfortunately, there are those among us who do not know about this magnificent woman. This beautiful person, who returned from death and lost one leg due to Toxic Shock Syndrome (TSS), which he had while being a successful model, unfortunately loses his other leg after a while from his illness.
Despite all this, instead of giving up modeling, she clings to life and returns to the fields with the nickname "Golden Legs".
Considering that the first thing that comes to our mind when it comes to modeling is walking, I guess you can think about how difficult a legless model will have in the industry. However, despite everything, instead of being embittered, she uses her reputation to raise awareness so that others do not experience her experiences.
Actually, there are so many inspirations that I would like to write for the last article. For example, Frida Kahlo (can you think of a list without it !?) or Christy Brown (she's a complete success story), Nick Vujicic, Sue Austin (underwater diving is a visual feast) and much more.
However, until last week I had not even heard of it, I saw it as a result of a social media sharing, I was happy while I was crying while watching the video, I felt lucky, and later said, You can find another success story that I think is a beautiful person who has never given up and has come to this day.
Say what? Whether we are disabled or not, when there are so many inspiring examples in the world, we can achieve our dreams if we “really want”, right?
I would like to close with a word I like very much. Stay in peace with the hope that it will be good for your soul.
Our Inner Voice and Prophetic Dreams
In this period of restless days, you may not know what you need. On the other hand, you may feel that you need to be heard, seen, supported. You may not know how to relate to yourself from time to time. "I have a little bit inside me that wants to turn inside and touch me." But I know that wounds can heal. Trees with grounded roots are strong and self-healing. They feed on the soil with their roots and grow stronger.
Grounding also ensures that the tree is flexible and capable of self-healing. Thus, the tree can adapt itself to the winds of change without being uprooted or uprooted.
You can do it too, your story is very special too. Our minds are overworked, scanning the past to find reasons, afraid of the future. Sometimes we feel deep helplessness and fear. These signals do not end until the body completes the action process.
Take a small step at a time, embrace yourself, allow yourself. Open space for compassion. This space is for you!
You are very special too, and your story is also very special. Feeling heard increases the self-regulating capacity of our nervous system, strengthening the sense of “being at home, being in the body” safely within ourselves. So what do you think about your relaxation journey for yourself?
In Tibet, prophetic dreams are classified as guiding dreams and are used systematically by wise people to help find reincarnations and to hear from the future. However, although some predictions for the future were correct, it was often believed that they would not be correct. Seeing prophecies of future events pointed to excessive ego. Therefore, in the teachings, before you say that you are having a prophetic dream, you need to carefully check your inner motivation.
Although the perspective on prophetic dreams is insufficient in Western culture, it is not a very distant topic. In the spread of Christian culture to the West, in the dream of the Roman emperor Constantine the night before the war, Hz. Seeing Jesus and interpreting this as a sign of victory, it was also effective.
Freud and Jung also wrote articles that acknowledged that dreams can be telepathic. In his books, he points out that the reason for the subconscious's ability to anticipate future events may not be due to a mystical or special ability but to the vast stored knowledge: “Dreams sometimes announce situations long before they happen. This is not necessarily seeing the future. It subconsciously sees things that we cannot consciously see and transmits them to us through dreams. " This is when the subconscious mind uses the information it stores to create options to anticipate possible future consequences. We can say that preparing for the future rather than seeing the future.
Prophetic dreams can be divided into predictive and forewarning dreams. Dr. Dossey thinks that forewarning dreams are genetically given to us as they help us survive our lives. He believes that prophetic dreams are common but often passive protective measures. He also believes that some of his dreams warn him with pre-warnings and protect him. Although it is not known exactly how prophetic dreams work, we will talk about how we can make these dreams work in the next article.
I wish you dreams with awareness, and see you in my next article.
Adding Beauty to Our Life in the World
I'm sure the pandemic has changed your priorities, too. For example, we all understand the value of each other and the world more. Let's set ourselves different goals in addition to our classic new year goals such as losing weight and starting sports this year. For example, the headline of our new year goals for the upcoming years is to increase the beauties in the world and in our lives.
Some of us lost their relatives because of Covid-19, some of us got the virus themselves. Talking about home trainings and online meetings, this year has also been a year in which each of us has left our old habits behind for at least a while. While trying to protect ourselves and our family from the virus, we also tried to adapt to our new lifestyles. We had a hard time dealing with the feelings of uncertainty, emptiness, and anxiety that surrounded us from time to time.
Yes, this year has been a tough year, but one of the greatest characteristics of us humans is our ability to stand up despite the difficulties we face. So now is the time to set good goals for the future without losing hope. Remember, by setting goals, we can have the power to cope more easily with the negative emotions caused by the pandemic.
Our goals should no longer be just personal. In addition to our personal goals, we should all have goals that will make the world better. For example, we must take action on drought, which scientists often warn us about. We must strive to have more trees in the cities we are in. This pandemic will end sooner or later, but it looks like we will struggle with important dangers such as drought for a long time.
How about making setting our New Year goals into a little ritual? Let's start by beautifying our homes first. No matter how tidy your home is, there is always a place to organize at home and the items you need to throw away, old magazines. This weekend, let's roll up our sleeves and clean our homes first, like this. Let's throw away whatever we have to throw away. Let's open the windows in the house and let oxygen enter our house thoroughly. Clean smell at home, everything is in order.
Let's decorate our living room with beautiful flowers, and light our favorite scented candles. We are now ready to set our new year goals. Let's write down our personal and global goals one by one in a favorite notebook. While doing this, let's not forget that even a single person in this world can cause a beautiful change in the world.
According to the research conducted by Wiseman, the willpower is limited in most of us, so it is normal that we have difficulty with change. The researches done support Wiseman. According to the research of Scranton University, 23% of those who make New Year's Decisions give up in the first week. However, 19% of them stick to their decisions. Among the reasons for these are our unwillingness to change, the inability to follow ourselves objectively, lack of planning, excessive self-confidence, and not being aware of what we are giving up.
Transition from decisions to intentions
So if I invite you to a past, not too distant, if I asked the recent past, what New Year's resolutions you have made for new year's, what would your answers be? Compared to other years, the change this year was beyond our control rather than the decisions we made. Even if we resisted the change as much as we wanted, we lived through it. It is a pandemic with curfews, restrictions on travel abroad, not being able to go to restaurants and cinemas, social life getting close to zero, being afraid of everyone, economic difficulties, anxiety about whether something will happen to our loved ones, anxious mood and numerous effects that I will have difficulty writing here. it has affected all of our lives. We faced many obstacles to implementing these decisions, and these obstacles were more challenging than in other years. Most of us may not have implemented it either.
"What New Year's decisions have you made this year?" he asked, everyone lined up one by one. Then, "What intentions do you have?" said. We were all stuck because we did not consider decisions and intentions independently. Decision, judgment considered for a purpose; the intention is to plan to do something, to turn to the goal with will. In other words, will and will in intention are stronger, and open to change is stronger, because the focus of the mind and the passage through the heart come together.
That year, I chose to intend for the first time, and I really did more than every year I made decisions, and I had the strength to go on even if I had difficulty. While it was indispensable to start my yoga classes with intention, each special day had a separate time period to sow the seeds of my intentions.
In the former, it focuses on judgment, self-control and commitment, while intention is focused on acceptance, that is, it emerges from a very different level of consciousness. While I see ourselves as deficient, excessive or inadequate in someone, I can read it with this state of intention, but I can be better, even if I do not, life continues, so I have no loss in trying. While the pressure on the mind increases with a goal-oriented approach on judgments, with an acceptance-oriented approach, the mind can adapt to change more easily because it does not feel under pressure.
We Should Not Be Prevented From Getting Psychological Counseling
I want to write on a very important topic. If you have had one or more of the inner voices listed below for a long time, it may be time to seek psychological counseling.
"I want to make a change in my life, but I don't know where to start."
"I want to be with people, but I don't know how to build close relationships."
"I remember my parents often saying that I couldn't do many things properly."
"I eat too much to feel good when I'm afraid, overwhelmed and lonely."
“I get very intense anxiety sometimes at night. I have the feeling that I am dying. "
“I often feel guilty for wasting my life, failing and hurting others. At times like this, I feel really depressed. "
“I want to feel that I am equal and valued with others. I don't want to be in an attitude like constantly apologizing for my existence. "
“I really want to change. I don't want to be an unsuccessful person. "
"I want to see my own positive qualities and feel better."
Psychological counseling / psychotherapy has become a rapidly developing and accepted profession in recent years. Of course, the series and movies we watched have a great impact on this. Psychological counseling, formal counseling and guidance is a service provided by psychological counselors who have completed their undergraduate education. In other words, graduating from another department and having a master's degree in psychological counseling or psychology does not make that person a psychological counselor or psychologist. The person applying to the psychological counseling process is not considered as a patient, but as a client.
When we look at the literature, we see many definitions of psychological counseling. Shertzer and Stone define counseling as a healing method used to solve personal problems individually and as a group. According to Mowrer, psychological counseling is an assistance provided by a specialist (**psychological counselor**) to an individual who complains about the normal concerns created by the contradictions in the field of consciousness. Psychological counseling process is an educational process aimed at disrupting learned wrong behaviors and retraining the individual.
This process is a process that is supportive by focusing on certain aspects of the individual and restoring the personality from the beginning, analytical in a way that goes down to the history and roots of the problem, digests the individual's feelings, emphasizes their excitement, and finds the roots of the problem by revealing the subconscious. In fact, the problem may have created a neurotic situation in the individual, as it is rooted and widespread by going down to the childhood years of the individual. (Neurotic; especially the accumulation of feelings such as insecurity, anxiety, hatred and restlessness, is a mood disorder in general.) Lewis argues that psychological counseling focuses on eliminating inadequacies and weaknesses, while psychological counseling focuses on developing positive powers. Psychological counseling considers the individual for the future by accepting them as they are in the present.
Psychology was dominated by medical doctors and physiologists from its official establishment in 1879 until the 1960's, and was pathology (disease) focused. The people giving psychological help were predominantly medical doctors, so psychotherapy and psychological counseling were seen as different concepts. However, with the spread of the humanist approach in the 1960s, this distinction disappeared. Psychological aid efforts based on human relations and mutual interaction are now intertwined in terms of purpose and approach. Today, the concepts of psychotherapy and psychological counseling are used in the same sense.
Carl Rogers, the founder of humanistic psychology, does not make a distinction by using psychological counseling and psychotherapy as a synonym, and defines it as follows: Psychological counseling is the process of softening the ego structure in the atmosphere of trust provided by the relationship established with the therapist, perception of previously denied experiences and participation in the changing ego structure. Shertzer and Stone also define psychological counseling as a process that basically helps a person reveal the potential that exists in order to ensure self-sufficiency.
In short, counseling is a sustained learning interaction between the counselor and the client. Counseling deals with normal individuals and aims to assist clients in understanding and accepting themselves, thus realizing themselves. In general, psychological counseling / psychotherapy makes use of the scientific knowledge, experiments and concepts that the science of psychology has revealed on subjects such as human behavior and its underlying causes, development and deterioration of personality structure.
-In which situations should psychological counseling be sought?
-If you feel an emotional exhaustion and depression for no apparent reason,
-If you have feelings of anxiety, pessimism and hopelessness about the future,
-If you have sleep disturbance lasting more than a month and body pain that does not go away,
-If you are unable to control the act of eating, if you cannot lose weight or have lost weight very quickly,
-If you have anger and panic attacks that you cannot control.
-If you have bad relationships with family members and other people,
-If you have low self-confidence and want to improve,
-You feel intense feelings of worthlessness and inadequacy.
-If negative thoughts keep spinning in your mind,
You should seek psychological counseling.
There is an important point for consultations. However, it should not be forgotten that in order to do psychological counseling other than diploma, courses, certificates, masters with thesis and non-thesis, etc. activities cannot provide psychological counseling / psychotherapy competence.
5 Suggestions I Made To Ear Earring
It is customary to make a judgment of that day as each day ends. Like what we dreamed about, what happened. Who has entered our lives, who has been out at the most unlikely times? Or I ask myself endless questions such as in which stops we spent the most time. And at the beginning of each new year, I intend to have a healthy life with my loved ones. Despite the events taking place outside, to love, to produce, to work and to add my soul to every moment of life. For this reason, I would like to share my own prescription with you.
Reading well what life brings
When an incident happened to me, I tried to decipher the sub-message he gave me. Sometimes it made me see my weaknesses and sometimes it made me appreciate myself. To be able to do this, not from the window of good or bad to all events, "What should I add to myself from this event?" it meant for me.
To show my feelings more to my loved ones
I can say that this subject was the leading role of the past. We made our family and friends feel more affectionate, sometimes by video calls and sometimes by seeing them from a distance, for whom we are sure that they are always in our lives and whose values we do not know exactly. The fact that the reality we live in can change at any time has made us be more courageous with our feelings and emotions. Likewise, we could easily remove people we could not get out of our lives in this mood. While we were selfish we multiplied without realizing it actually.
Realizing my inner potential
As we were alone, we became aware of our inner potential. Some returned to their old hobbies, some started new pursuits, others wrapped themselves in the kitchen. What seemed simple reminded us that we didn't spare any time for ourselves. While we were focused on not spending our time alone, the sudden closeness to the house enabled us to set off on a path towards ourselves. After a long time we started to think about our dreams, our hopes and what we wanted to do. We said hello to new projects and new plans in the uncertainty of tomorrow. We produced it constantly, inspired by the present and ourselves.
Simplify
We have become simpler, both within ourselves and globally. While looking for many prerequisites for happiness, at the beginning of this year, we were happy to be able to breathe comfortably in our four wall rooms. We regarded the moments we spent at home, the movies we watched, the meals we made as happiness. We quickly got rid of money, success, and the addiction to approval.
Thinking about our life purpose
And we thought more about our purpose of coming to life. We enjoyed being more useful around us, increasing as we helped. Without realizing it, we bonded with people we never knew. We sought solutions for events that did not happen to us. We remembered our humanity more.
When I look at it like this, the past has given us great gains as well as great losses. It not only took us on a journey towards inside, but also made us more aware of what we had. I guess we can say that it was a kind of awakening year for us, just as Carl Gustav Jung said, "*The one who looks outward dreams, the one who looks inward awakens*".
**Drips of My Ink - A Small Essay**
It's not that I'm running from the truth, it's your ink on my hand. I was afraid it might be infected. I was not neutral, but my heart was tired. I always ran away because I did not have the strength to shoulder the article. My wounds would reopen as my words spilled. My heart would face the memories of the past. But I knew that I did not like the easy at all, my legs were trained to make neighbors of difficulty and obstacles.
But I think my legs were standing, but it wasn't, my limping heart, my wasted Love. I have always been overcome by my mercy flowing like a river.
There were pains, I should have written. My heart wanted to be a breath of breeze. Maybe it was the way to silence the storms inside me. Or I was going to set the small fire to a lap of wood and set it on fire.
You know me as an amateur from the games I played on the ground. There was simply no tissue matching of the time and space I lived in. Quality plays professionally in every field, just don't be fooled by the smallness or the majority of the audience.
My boundaries were wide, from losing too much on every front. Love smelled in the air from heart to heart. Whenever there was a cloud, I would understand that I fell at the door of a heart again. Every time I lost, Işınlar was rising again from my heart. I die a thousand and I am born again every morning.
Writing is being hurt, even being deceived by the love you fell for. Sometimes it is to watch and sometimes to dive into the oman. I know a way and I know a bridge.
Writing is to flow from heart to heart and settle down. It is to beat the ink in the anvil and temper it in the fire.
Let's Ask Our Inner Child - What do you need to get out?
I will write something about myself today. Actually, because of how the forms that grow, expand and fall inside me drop by drop from my mouth, how I express what is about myself in a low voice. Because of how I had a hard time asking for something, or more precisely, not asking for anything from anyone. From trying to solve everything within myself, without telling anyone about my discoveries, thinking about the curve of the work with my own mind. Actually from that big bubble I built. From the little girl who is afraid to share, the girl who believes that she will not be put in the circle, of being judged, being out, not being accepted.
On the one hand, she is from that woman who has the courage to do everything, is self-sufficient in every situation, smiles at her fears with the edge of her lips and does not blink while walking over them.
And of the "**me**" that is tired of moving back and forth between these two.
"Is it happening to you too?" I will ask. With the knowledge that you are but not troubled by me.
He even bore what kind of a burden this was, because of my state that doesn't even remember its weight anymore.
If I explain, would I stay outside?
Do I have to watch you from my house window while you are playing outside?
The situation in life is in such a place, those who blossom their own flowers in life and absorb the sweet taste of peace in that garden, and those who want to join them running while watching all of these, and waiting for permission from their mothers to go out. Did I deserve to go out?
Will this prisoner state end?
I guess we all learned that it won't end by waiting!
It will not end by waiting, perhaps by taking a step towards that door, giving up watching others and giving our attention to our own legs, taking one step. Then one more step.
And as we move away with each step, we begin to see through the window the covers in which we hide our fears. Whatever we squeezed into. Everyone is wrong, the ideologies we believe in, the situations we consider ethical, our self-pity, our inadequacy, our worthlessness. However, he is the shell created by the anger / pain of not doing what we want. Standing between us and what we want to be, our true potential.
We also go back and forth between the shores of our potential and the way we are inside, the shell right in the middle. Since the transition from there to there is not a straight line, but a jump, we consider these two separate phenomena to be the only one. And we get into the hypnosis that the state we suffer in is real rather than our potential state. Because that painful state has existed ever since we know ourselves.
Tired of all these leaps, I passed in front of the girl waiting for permission.
-Why don't you go out and share what you have with others?
- I'm afraid they won't like it.
-What if they don't like it?
- They won't play with me.
-You are not playing right now! What have you got to lose?
-I don't know what they think and I might lose what they think.
-Are you what they think?
-I do not know?
-Who knows you but you, go and tell! You get a real story, a real experience, except for assuming you have it. Don't think!
And he took a step outside, then stopped.
Why don't you continue?
-I do not know how to do it.
- Whatever you did would comfort you?
-Maybe if I believed what I got was nice.
-Is it nice?
-Yes! I love.
-How does it make you feel to share the things you love?
-Wonderful! As if I was grown up, as if I exist.
-How does it feel to be there?
-Everyone will look at me like I will appear
-What does that mean to you?
-I don't know what to do when I'm loved
I thought I wanted this, but now I realized I was afraid of it. To be loved.
-What if you are loved, what's scaring you here?
-This is a new world, I would have left my old world. And I'm so loyal to my old ways, I'm torn from my cocoon
-How does that make you feel?
-Excitement!
-Then don't stop!
- He smiled.
Then I sat down and started to write what I have on hand. I have a big smile in my hand. I have so many flowers blooming inside me, endless ideas in my mind, a constantly creating spirit and skillful hands. I have patience to work knot by knot, a motivation to tell forever, a big heart that continues to love no matter what, I have a curious mind that is not afraid of learning, I have a brave heart, my glowing intuition, my conscience, understanding, knowledge, respect, loyalty that can meet every emotion more or less. , I have talents and finally a joy that I no longer hesitate to show.
Is it insufficient?
For what? Why would anyone be insufficient?
Is it worthless?
Who, why would it be worthless?
The pattern we are in, all the features that make up us have given each of us an unpredictable "**shape**". Could it be that we behave differently in situations because we are "**different**", not just inadequate or worthless? Just as everyone is from each other.
Let's repeat what we learned as a baby;
The cube will enter the square hole and the cylindrical piece will enter the round hole. We cannot fit the cube in the round hole. Is the cube insufficient? Is the round hole brutal?
And sometimes we find that we are afraid of what we think we want most. With this energy of fear, we repel what we say we want, and "feel sorry for ourselves" in our cocoon. This game continues until we see what we're running from. Our fears are not always for disasters, sometimes we fear our treasures. When we say to embrace ourselves, we must embrace not only our shadows but also our treasures and the flowers that blossom within us. Can you do that Can you reveal your own beauties without hesitation? If your answer or intention is "**yes**";
Then would you also write, what do you have in hand?
Would you go one last time with what you have, to your little one and ask?
What do you need to go out and join the game of life?
Maybe you can share it with me later!
Love you very much!
My Thoughts on the Years I Left Behind
Huge years pass through our life. Months ago, we bid farewell to 2020, which was a very difficult year for everyone. But even though we have had a difficult year, one never stops hoping despite everything.
Of course, health comes first. I hope this year will be healthier and more peaceful for all of us.
But apart from that, there are so many beautiful things we have despite everything. Love. Love. Serenity. Success. All the more beauty we can count.
Until this age, I had never seen people go through another year where they tried to cope with dozens of negative emotions that we can count as confused, awkward, fearful, paranoid, sad, anxious, sometimes neglected, sometimes lonely, sometimes isolated, tired, desperate.
However, it is also possible to struggle with every challenge, to be together even when alone, that things can somehow walk despite difficulties, that humanity can easily adapt to innovations when necessary, that the team spirit can feel more, a mother can achieve a better balance with her child and work, the same This year I also saw that spouses or partners who stayed together for a long time at home had the experience of testing their relationship more closely and feel the love much deeper. Because being together required people to hold on to each other more.
These years have been a very clear example that a certain thing always has two sides no matter how thin you cut it.
Of course, nobody should die. This is not the choice of anybody, and we all feel the pain in the heart of a desperate person who has suffered a heavy loss. This is a very indescribable feeling, unfortunately.
But hasn't life always been like this? Have societies not managed to stand up after wars and diseases? Didn't he build a new world based on each other, holding on to each other? It may be very cliche but "**Such is life!**"
Whatever you do, the acceleration is always bumpy.
Sometimes I feel like we are in a simulation. When we try to go beyond our limits and beyond, the system gives an "**Error**" and the game goes back to the beginning and starts again. We start life again and again every time. It was a difficult year, but as I said, one can never stop hoping.
And I believe in the magic that, despite all the negativity we have experienced in these years, the more we think positively, the more beautiful things we will attract towards ourselves. I believe that there is an endless energy in human beings and that activating this energy is one's own choice.
Also, maybe we are part of something very big that we haven't figured out yet, and everything we wish to happen has a certain time. Which of us hasn't felt strong to believe that it will "pass" every time I go through a sad event? Feel the power inside and hug yourself tight! Who can bring you down after you don't accept it?
Now, we are ready for a brand new year with the mistakes and truths that this year has brought to us and that we have realized. I hope this year will be a healthy, loving year for all of us, full of miracles, in which all our dreams will come true. I wish you everything that passes through your heart.
10 Golden Knowledge To Be Myself
Welcome to the age of inventions! I have listened to similar information from many different points of view about the new order we are passing through recently. It was said that we would enter into a new structuring in 2021 after 2020, which is also known as the "Great Destruction". It's time to build innovations in place of those who have collapsed.
**Kari Samuels**, the astrologer I follow, says that this year is the year of liberation and that this year we will organize our lives much more authentically and in line with our goals. While this information may sound comforting when we read, it actually shows that, on the other hand, many conditioning that we hold tightly because we think it ourselves, but that no longer serve us, will also have to be destroyed. Of course, external factors will not remain as they are; We must also be prepared to hear the news of major change, such as the climate crisis or new inventions in the world of technology, and to adapt to these changes. I summarize the future in a single sentence as follows: Now we have no choice but to be creative and learn the nature of creation.
As the days are approaching with the speed of light, I wanted to turn 10 golden information you need to know for a more creative life into a series of articles and share it with you. The first one is live today, please stay tuned for more. Wouldn't it be great to warm up our muscles a bit before entering the new year?
The only way to change the world is to be yourself
We all want to somehow change the world, but few of us know that the only way to do this is by being ourselves. The fingerprints of no one of us are the same, but for some reason we are filled with doubt that we are unique. Many people believe that they are inadequate and worthless, and because of this belief, they confine themselves to tiny lives.
I've met people who are afraid to dream big, people who think they're uncreative, people who believe that bad things will happen to them when they have a little too much joy. I think these were the most painful things I've seen in the world. We are all unique. If you have any doubts that you are worthy and not sufficient, please take a look at this tremendous intelligence we live in. Look at your perfectly working body all day long without you needing to do anything, raise your head to the dozens of stars decorating the sky… Realize that nothing unnecessary can be here right now. See that this is not a mystical belief but a law of physics. Choose to be in environments where you feel loved, with people who know your worth. Then you might be excited to discover being yourself instead of running away from yourself.
Please choose not to go to the fortune tellers to find out who you are, but to leave yourself in the lap of life. Who you are is not a destination but a journey of discovery. The most natural way to know yourself is to be in a creation. Everything that you limit yourself by the resistance you put in, and all your shining abilities, becomes obvious when you create something. This is also necessary to stay in touch with life. Having a dream and taking steps on that path every day fills you with life. But be careful not to overdo this creation work and turn your life into a factory. Life is not a job to be managed, it is an exciting adventure.
Life is easy, it is detachment from the flow by clinging to those who do not serve you that makes it difficult. This is trying to exist where there is no life, that is, energy. Just like trying to row on a river where there is no water. When you feel broken, the first thing you need to align with life again is to create momentum in the direction in which life is flowing, with a series of movements in a different direction. Find and follow the first 3 steps you have to take in these moments. The simplest 3 things that make you feel alive… This could be a conversation with a friendly friend, a cup of coffee from your favorite cafe, or a music you like to listen to.
If you go a little with a lot of effort, you are probably stuck in thoughts and looking at life from a narrow perspective. Life is wide. Step back a bit and expand your options by uncovering possibilities that you haven't seen yet. The way to do this is to ask questions. How does it get better and easier than this? What else is possible? Ask and give some time for the possibilities to open up and please don't let anything distract you from the fact that life is easy.
**Bonus:** A Little Life Lesson
I always greet the old people when I am passing by. I make gestures to caress their hearts. Most importantly, if I'm spread out, I'll be collected immediately. I never walk in front of them. I step aside and give way gently. I chat and learn a lot. This is how we saw it from our elders.
As always, I said "How are you, auntie" as I was passing by. He motioned for me to sit down. I also caught up with him. It was such a drama that what he was telling I could not recover for a long time.
Sugar Aunt lost her parents at a young age. Aunt Sugar, who was left alone, adopted and raised her married sister. This time, her older sister, who had no children, was abandoned at a young age. Aunt sugar, who lost her sister at the age of fifteen, took advantage of the opportunity to take her brother-in-law into her bosom as a wife. His forty-year-old uncle cut off an arm and fingers with an ax so that he would not look at anyone but me, and that no one else would grab it from my hand. He left pessimistic at an early age.
There is no place and place for the persecution! The tyrant has no religion, race or nationality! Because the tyrant has no mercy on the oppressed. The only thing I know is not to be silent against the cruelty of the tyrant. We are not dumb devils. If the persecution is from us, we need beautiful people to say that I am not from us. Aunt sugar that has done every job properly until this time. It was only when he was young that he could not cut a sickle or cut a sickle from the field.
When Our Mood Falls, Let's Seek Healing Inside Us
Nothing happened as I expected. I woke up in the morning, I was tired and unhappy. As if I wasn't the person one night, a few hours ago. I was collapsed, not feeling well, and I never wanted to get out of bed. My only wish was to open the TV series and eat; Although I can hear the sound of my stomach aching because of overeating.
Never mind yesterday, I said immediately to myself, I wish I could realize it, but I was defeated. Sank fish goes sideways. It didn't happen again. You will not be able to do this job, open your directory.
I settled into the quilt and opened my knee. I started watching like I was hypnotized. Life at that moment, facts; there was nothing. There were only people and lives in that drama and series, and that was good and enough because it made me forget about myself.
While watching, my desire to eat became more and more. I opened the door of my room, I was going to the kitchen, when I heard my family's voices from the kitchen. Everyone was at home and in the kitchen. I go back to my bed. Those with eating disorders know; There is a strange situation such as sneaking and eating food. That would be very useful today!
While I was watching the series, I suddenly thought of a note that I wrote on a piece of paper and hung it on the wall of my living room last night. Last night when I was doing that whole calendar, it was right in front of my eyes whenever I looked up and I read it involuntarily every time.
The note was: *WHEN YOU ARE TIGHT, WHEN YOUR EATING ATTACKS ARE HARD, DO ONLY ONE THING: ASK IF THE TEACHER HAS A BLANK HOUR FOR EXTRA LESSON TODAY.*
Note to myself from myself. I have such notes in every corner of the house. I can skip it most of the time, but this time I had seen so many times the night before that that note entered my brain. The moment the note came to my mind, I didn't think. If I think about it, I would say, "Oh, whatever." I did not think. I can say that the timing of remembering the note and sending a message to the teacher was almost the same. And this was one of the most correct moves I've done for myself in my life up to this age.
I sent the message and dived back into the series. My teacher called 17:30 to say it is available. Again without thinking "**OK!**" I said. Because I know, if I think, “There's more, it's too late. Until then, I could not get out of bed. Besides, the weather is cold. " I would say. I know my problem because I said a lot. I said so much. You can't believe it.
And the moment I said okay, I was excited. I immediately shut down the computer; Whereas the drama was going very well! I got out of bed and looked at my plans for the day. I washed my hands and my face and started to implement the plan I designed knot by knot the night before. After my morning meditation that I had planned for myself, I started feeling even better. It was so good that I immediately took a warm shower afterwards. There's nothing like being in water for a Cancer. When I came out, I was like mentally and spiritually.
There was only three hours before my tennis lesson. Meanwhile, I asked myself what can I do while looking at what to do for the day. I never wanted to do what I planned for the time zone I was in. On the one hand, I have to stick to the program in a discipline, I know this. But on the other hand, I must proceed with compassion, without bothering, forcing myself. Thin line between the two.
Let's remember together today, why are we here? What was in the very beginning of life, time, and universe? What energy, which atom, what idea, what existence, what spirit, what human being, what story brought us to this world, this universe, this universe? How did this happen, why and how was that wonderful reason here, that extraordinary process? In that first place, what was there that we really should not forget today and always remember?
Let's read this from a magnificent work;
There is a dark field that is incomprehensible to humans on the way of matter development from the first matter state of the universe to our astronomical realm. This field; it consists of a coarse, scattered, amorphous body of matter. There are no formed matter formations in this rough environment.
Here comes a range after this field, which is the ‘first hydrogen atom, which forms the beginning of the hydrogen realm. But we use this name because people call the first atom hydrogen; In fact, the substance we are talking about and which we will refer to as the "first hydrogen atom" is not the H atom known to people. This atom, known to humans, is a highly developed, complex and advanced state of the atom here. People do not yet recognize this first hydrogen atom.
The matter, state and shapes of our world and the entire astronomical world with its spheres, systems, galaxies, are composed of various combinations of the advanced states of this hydrogen atom.
The universe is a whole. This whole, which we call worlds, systems, and realms, consists of parts, parts, parts that form a whole from a number of different parts. Every realm in the universe has a unique feature. And these attributes are tuned to the evolutionary needs of souls.
In this post today, if you are accompanying me after a long time, I want to think again. If the beginning of this time, its creation, its continuation, its coming to this day is so superior, so special and extraordinary, what have we left today at the moment of departure of that train? Is it our habit of asking questions, the hope that we will visit places we wonder, our dream of being a great writer, maybe just as simple as being able to touch the life of a person in life? What happened with us at the first moment of that time, but with the passage of time, what is erased from our essence, soul and heart at each station?
Looking at the beginning is like magic, it reflects a huge mirror into our lives, where are we, how are we, where are we going, is this what we really want, how we wish it to be, which station would we want to go to?
I want to ask all together once again, if we knew the divine order and universe more closely, would we start our day by saying another “same” day that we woke up again? What would we change? What would we differentiate? If we could return to the beginning of time right now, how would we be?
Me and the Beginning of Time
Let's imagine that we are on a long journey. Take this journey, for example, by train. Let's know that we will cross continents. Let's take our place on the bank of glass, now. Then let the train leave the station slowly. As the hours pass, let's be further away from where we first started. From that first excitement, our questions, why and where we will arrive, what might happen to us on the road, all possibilities, dozens of questions and possible answers. Let's get away from all of them slowly, live and live.
That journey, when we take a moment, how far are we from the starting point, right? Do we feel the same? Are our looks similar? Our excitement is either the same green trees that start to look similar to the eye after a while, the hills, valleys, forests on which we travel from one another to another. They are not the moment, but for me, who was on the way at that moment of the train, they even became the same.
Today, in this article, I want to go back to the beginning of everything, the beginning of our lives, our universe, our universe, and the time before this sameness started. Let's go back to that particular moment, the time when our assumptions were not yet formed, when we had not yet learned to judge, and most importantly, we did not forget to look and see the wonderful excitement and curiosity within us.
I want to go back to that beautiful point with you, where we do not even know the concept of time "yet". What would it make us feel if we had to hang on at this point, for example, what would have happened if the train had moved forward and had not let us in at that point? We would still be curious, wouldn't we, we would be full of questions, what will we see, where will we reach, who will we meet on our journey, will it be as good as we expected?
We would still look with bigger eyes, wouldn't we, our chance would still be a possibility to see that forest we had never seen, for example. We would still be more patient, wouldn't we, we had arranged everything up to this point, we were here at the train departure time, and yes, we had successfully reached that last step, and the pride, the success, the feeling of being able to do it would be overwhelming us, right. We would still be children, wouldn't we have left our dreams, our excitement, our stories and our songs, the ones that make us who we are, nowhere and for no one else.
Thus, time takes us on a journey in our lives like a train. As time passes, we forget our starting point as if we forget something at every station and leave a feature, a moment, maybe a feeling. Time passes and we worry less, time passes and we ask less questions, time passes and we become less excited, time passes and we get tired faster, we have more excuses, time passes and we are more closed, we are older, after this time it would be unbecoming, is it now its turn. Yes, time passes, and we really forget that everything started, even this universe started, and we really forget ourselves, being human, being the supreme concept that has ever been created.
Let's remember together today, why are we here? What was in the very beginning of life, time, and universe? What energy, which atom, what idea, what existence, what spirit, what human being, what story brought us to this world, this universe, this universe? How did this happen, why and how was that wonderful reason here, that extraordinary process? In that first place, what was there that we really should not forget today and always remember?
*Let's read this from a magnificent work;*
There is a dark field that is incomprehensible to humans on the way of matter development from the first matter state of the universe to our astronomical realm. This field; it consists of a coarse, scattered, amorphous body of matter. There are no formed matter formations in this rough environment.
Here comes a range after this field, which is the ‘first hydrogen atom, which forms the beginning of the hydrogen realm. But we use this name because people call the first atom hydrogen; In fact, the substance we are talking about and which we will refer to as the "first hydrogen atom" is not the H atom known to people. This atom, known to humans, is a highly developed, complex and advanced state of the atom here. People do not yet recognize this first hydrogen atom.
The matter, state and shapes of our world and the entire astronomical world with its spheres, systems, galaxies, are composed of various combinations of the advanced states of this hydrogen atom.
The universe is a whole. This whole, which we call worlds, systems, and realms, consists of parts, parts, parts that form a whole from a number of different parts. Every realm in the universe has a unique feature. And these attributes are tuned to the evolutionary needs of souls.
In this post today, if you are accompanying me after a long time, I want to think again. If the beginning of this time, its creation, its continuation, its coming to this day is so superior, so special and extraordinary, what have we left today at the moment of departure of that train? Is it our habit of asking questions, the hope that we will visit places we wonder, our dream of being a great writer, maybe just as simple as being able to touch the life of a person in life? What happened with us at the first moment of that time, but with the passage of time, what is erased from our essence, soul and heart at each station?
Looking at the beginning is like magic, it reflects a huge mirror into our lives, where are we, how are we, where are we going, is this what we really want, how we wish it to be, which station would we want to go to?
I want to ask all together once again, if we knew the divine order and universe more closely, would we start our day by saying another “***Same***” day that we woke up again? What would we change? What would we differentiate? If we could return to the beginning of time right now, how would we be?
Pay Attention to Those Who Pass Our Heart
Goals and dreams are crucial to ensuring our growth and development. It prevents us from stagnation and opens the doors to our full potential. We have been raised in a target-oriented manner and we continue to pursue what is expected of both ourselves and us in every aspect of our lives. We try to be everything we can, do everything we can, at the same time.
While some of what we have planned is real, some of it is not. While some of us can continue to be grateful for what is or may not be based on our current mood, some of us are writhing in the question of why those who are not. Although not always the case with those imposed on us, it often makes a sincere wish, the first seed of goals and dreams of our own choice.
Wishes, which are the composition of things that make us feel better, are often expressed by negative sensations and inner distress, often with the intention of moving from an unpleasant situation to a better position. We wish what we want to happen.
Wish is the first step towards what we want. If we let them see them as the first act of the list of things to do on the way to the goal rather than passive and short-term benefits, maybe it will be easier for them to make the difference we are looking for.
Allowing to wish can therefore be important. It can strengthen willingness, willingness, and action.
Yes, they just don't come true easily. But we wish, when we pray, blow a birthday cake, when we are in the middle of two people of the same name, when our eyelash falls on our cheek, when we witness a star shift. There are times when we are not even aware of what we wish for. I think the secret is here. When we look back after it happened, we can see that it was because of what happened in our hearts.
I also had a period when I was doing my own business. Throughout my whole business life, the only thing I knew was that I wanted to do my own job, but that job was not my job at that moment.
I wanted to schedule my own time myself, to meet new people, to have creativity in what I do, to contribute to life, to constantly learn, to be something that encourages learning. My baby was in my arms, but it didn't have a name. Of course, I can explain them this way now. At that time, like almost everyone else, I felt overwhelmed and walking down a road that I thought I did not know what direction to go.
He's on the right track for me. On the way my heart takes It is hardest to stop thinking that everything is falling apart, the whole order is breaking down, as if all labor is wasted. What happens when running towards goals or dreams is not actually where we reach, but our journey to meet ourselves on the way there. Perhaps we will continue to look for the answer from the moment we know ourselves to our last breath in this life, “Who am I? A journey on the answer to the question.
Until I started yoga, I met many new people and received many different trainings. I have met many different schools. If I started yoga instructor training and fell in love with yoga, maybe I was still in that analytical mind pattern. I gave myself the time I needed to be a good trainer until I was 40, and to give my white-collar life the time I felt compelled to continue. Obviously I was still not as aware of my journey as I thought it would.
What happened after that? When we didn't pay attention, the processes we summarized as fate merged and I found myself working as a full-time instructor when I was 40 years old, completely unplanned and unscheduled. However, I wished that. And again, I was the one who made this wish with the choices I made, from the moment I forgot what I wanted from my heart.
I think these days we live in have had a similar effect on many of us. While some of us are clearer about what we want to do in this life, where and with whom we want to live, or what purpose we want to serve, some of us may just feel the absence of that purpose today, but we don't know exactly what to do. If you ask if there is a magic formula, of course not. In a world where pill solutions are pumped to us, unfortunately, there is no shortcut from point A to point B.
Unfortunately, our hearts do not beat every issue. Not everything excites us. How do we find these topics that excite us?
Let me introduce you to my nice list of questions inspired by Mark Manson. These questions are good questions. When we feel stuck, it can be very helpful to ask these questions and give honest answers. It can take us to a nice place.
-What was it that you learned to do quickly and without difficulty? As if you knew before, as if you were a master of it in your previous life?
-What is something that other people don't like very much, but do you enjoy doing? Or what are you doing well / good at compared to the 10,000 people outside?
-What is the thing you want to do / experience again immediately? Are you looking forward to?
-What makes you forget to eat or go to the toilet?
These could possibly be your strengths. We don't even understand how time flies when we do things that we love and enjoy. I want to open a parenthesis about strengths here. Our strengths do not have to be something we are good at. Just as the weakness doesn't have to be an issue we are bad at. So you may be doing what you do every day very well, but you may not be enjoying it. Our strength is an activity that makes us stronger. It is an energizing work that we look forward to doing. It's not something that our feet go backwards or we don't even want to start at all.
I had created that independent, creative and communicative environment that I wanted to be in my life, and I took action by wishing a wish. The next steps were always based on my wish. We need it to express what we really need. We have that core knowledge of how to do this. No one in the world can tell us what we can and cannot want, what can and cannot make us feel good.
You know, they say; Be careful with the words coming out of your mouth. Wishes that pass through our hearts also come true. At this point, I have a few questions that I hope will bring awareness to our daily life language and the way we interpret our lives. Do what we wish in a moment of trouble really push us to something positive? Does it show contribution and hope to our lives?
Although it makes a reference to the future, what we wish derives from a state we are currently dissatisfied with, while also contributing to our ability to keep attention in the present moment and to our awareness. They see a sincere mirror as they determine what is precious to us in the journey of finding ourselves.
If you now look at your own life and have made us feel the possibility of realizing what we have dreamed of, how would you like to claim your power to realize more in the new year?
Let's Have a Positive World Perspective
These days are the best time to make new beginnings, to open a new page in our lives and to make decisions about ourselves. Last year has been a challenging year for all of us. After a year in which we worry about ourselves and our loved ones, we change our routines and habits unintentionally, and we have trouble keeping our positive perspective and hope for life with bad news, our biggest wish is to be happier and more peaceful in the new year.
Happiness, which is one of our basic feelings best known by everyone and one of the most familiar to all of us, is a journey for some and a point to be reached for some or a final life purpose. Although the definition of happiness varies from person to person, it can simply be defined as the positive feelings left by all people, behaviors, situations and experiences that give us pleasure in our daily life.
Many positive emotions such as pleasure, comfort, peace, gratitude, hope, inspiration increase our level of happiness; among the positive feelings that motivate us to move forward and improve in life. In other words, it is defined as intense positive emotions and rare or absent negative emotions.
Thousands of studies on happiness so far show that our level of happiness is closely related to some emotions, situations and behaviors in our lives. Our innate personality traits and temperament, physical health, socio-economic level and financial well-being, our attachment style and the relationships we establish, our life purpose and goals, our self-efficacy and self-confidence to achieve these goals, and even the geographical features of our location and Many factors such as the time period we live in have extremely important and powerful effects on our level of happiness.
As you can easily deduce from the definition of happiness, unhappiness is also linked to many negative emotions such as hopelessness, sadness, anxiety, anxiety, and fear. In fact, unhappiness, like happiness, is an integral part of life and we can feel happy from time to time and sometimes unhappy depending on our experiences, health, relationships, personality traits or perception of ourselves. The level of intensity of positive and negative emotions we experience determines our state of being happy or unhappy.
The fact that negative emotions are much more intense in some periods of our lives can cause us to infer that we have an unhappy life. Studies show that unhappiness and happiness are shaped by behavior and thought patterns in our lives. Behavior and thought patterns that we have built throughout our lives; it brings with it stereotyped feelings. If these emotional patterns are shaped mostly by positive emotions, we can define ourselves as happy, and if they are shaped by negative emotions, we can define ourselves as unhappy. Therefore, when we want to take a step towards increasing the feeling of happiness, we need to work with our stereotyped thoughts, our behaviors and the emotions that these patterns bring along.
The emotions, thoughts and behaviors that cause unhappiness can differ for all of us. For example; For some of us, even a very simple situation such as not having a shoe we want so much can cause unhappiness, for some of us the inability to establish close and meaningful relationships, for some of us to lose someone we love, and for some of us not being satisfied with what they do can be "a reason for unhappiness. So the way to be happy or feeling less unhappy is different for everyone. However, research shows that there are some common ways for all of us to develop the positive perspective necessary for a happier and more peaceful life. So it's possible that we can train ourselves and our brains to be happier. How Does? Let's take a look together.
How much of our happiness is under our control?
Studies show that 40% of our happiness level is linked to our genes and our personality and temperament shaped by these genes. The fact that our nutritional, shelter, care and security needs are met in the first years of life contributes 10% to the genetic infrastructure of living a happy life. Despite this 50% slice that is beyond our control, the remaining 50% that determines our happiness is the part that we can determine by taking responsibility and control of our own lives with our own decisions. So, actually, our ability to lead a happy life depends half on our own free will and choices.
In addition to developing a happier and more optimistic perspective, we can train your brain to develop psychological resilience in the face of the difficulties we face in life. Research in the field of positive psychology shows that we can use 'feeling good' as a tool to protect our physical health, mental well-being and mental health. In order to feel better, to make more room for positive emotions and to increase our level of happiness, there are 4 mental patterns that we need to work on.
Perfectionism
Perfectionism, which is a pattern that is compatible with the skills and competencies of the person and is conceptually intertwined with concrete expectations; In fact, it includes unrealistic, abstract expectations that are far beyond the person's competencies and achievements rather than concrete expectations. Inconsistent with the fact that nothing can be perfect, developing expectations far beyond our own or others' abilities and capabilities may lead to failure to meet these expectations, intensify the feeling of dissatisfaction; Secondary emotions such as disappointment and sadness can cause us to be constantly experienced and unhappy. Therefore, in order to be happier, you need to be able to evaluate with awareness what you expect from yourself, other people and what life has to offer, and how realistic these expectations are.
Comparing ourselves to others
Because we tend to find shortcomings in ourselves when we begin to compare ourselves with other people in our social environment; Comparing what we have, our lifestyle, our career, our personality traits or our bodies with those of others can reduce our life satisfaction and cause us to be unhappy. In fact, social comparison is a learning style that can benefit your life when done in a healthy way. It is possible to increase your level of happiness when you find the traits of others that inspire you and choose the ones that can contribute to your life and make an effort. In addition, comparing yourself only with yourself, that is, focusing on the differences between yourself in the past and your present, and discovering what you have developed and what you can improve yourself is one of the most important steps you can take for a happier life.
**Materialism and the will to own**
One of the most concrete examples of how dangerous it can be to link happiness to environmental resources, materialism includes our belief that we need to have something to be happy. As a result of social expectations, economic order and consumption culture, this thinking pattern that we develop as a result of a collective interaction makes our perception of happiness dependent on external resources. When this pattern of thinking, which is directly related to our material conditions, financial situation and purchasing power, becomes dominant in our minds, even the smallest change in our economic conditions and consumption habits can cause us to be unhappy. Therefore, in order to lead a happier life, we believe that our level of happiness and the positive emotions we experience can only be related to what we have; We need to regulate our consumption habits by making radical changes.
**Trying to optimize everything**
You have obsessive thought patterns such as using resources in the most efficient way, obtaining maximum results with minimum effort, and doing the most work with the least amount of time. People who try to optimize everything in their life, from eating to time spent, continue to pursue better options, even if they achieve satisfactory results. Even if they have made the best decision, their minds are always on 'other' decisions they cannot get. Since constantly pursuing the best option and trying to reach the maximum is a perspective that reduces life satisfaction and does not leave space and time to thank the person, you need to change this point of view, make it a habit to be content as much as possible and appreciate your effort.
**Suggestions for making happiness a habit**
There are thousands of ways to live a happier life, increase life satisfaction, be thankful and feel good. Some of these ways are as follows:
Develop a positive perspective. To make happiness a lifestyle, the first thing you need to do is train your mind to see the positive. The easiest way to do this is to develop your awareness by consciously trying to find the things you consider positive in your life. Create three time zones, 2 minutes each, for yourself each day to list the positive things in your life. When you wake up in the morning, during your lunch break, and before you go to bed in the evening, you can try to bring to mind the positive things in your life. After a while, you will find that your mind starts to do this automatically.
Can You Paint Happiness?
Is it possible to depict a state of highest level of sensitivity, such as happiness, which encompasses the human from within, that is not always possible to be perceived and envisioned by five senses, and whose content we can only reach by living with our spirituality, as required by our topic here?
Can your love be painted? What percentage of the paintings that have been made and currently made until today have depicted love? How many picture paintings are there in the world that can make us feel the love, in a flourishing way? I do not know this either, nor do I necessarily want to know. I know this because: Love does not fit into paintings; it shatters the lights and shadows, colors and perspectives of the paintings; It cracks their frames: it blends out, into life, among the people, encircling all its coolness: there it breathes because it widens its veins there the most.
Which painter can paint what color and line madman? He cannot paint because: love is more than art; It is somewhere deeper and further into the potentials of art, the physics and metaphysics of art. Love finds even the concept of love inadequate / inadequate; At a point where life and death intersect, it has begun to challenge even the world and God.
Besides, the volatility of love, his effort to try every possible way, the extraordinary adventures he experienced while trying, that he could not fit into some templates and schematic patterns; Is it not an indication that some mowing enthusiasts and social engineers will leave their enthusiasm in their crops from the very beginning and even before they act? Drawing boundaries and definitions for love is fundamentally contrary to its ontology and its unique pedagogy. If you are unaware of this subtle awareness, you are not in the "love time".
Are there not those who restrict love to begrudging the opposite sex, and those who reduce it to a "crotch feast" by making it vulgar? Loving, if they think, is a callous and mechanical in the simplicity of "plug-and-plug, finish". It was the moonlight, it was poetry, it was friendly, we should never forget it; If there is something called love, it is the flesh of a woman and a man. What has he committed to word and love Doesn't a man with this mentality frigid his women, and a woman with this mentality does not make his man impotent?
Yes, what I was saying: The language of love is another language, a meta-language. As I said in one of my poems: languages are a language, what you say is love Can't you fall in love with a flower, a child, a stream of thought, your parent, your teacher, a utopian system of values, and why not? The fluidity of the motion of love is spontaneous and in itself; It also does not require external mobilizers.
Let me also touch upon those who see biological-physiological old age as an obstacle to love. They mean: if the body is worn out, so is the energy to love. Waste energy cannot become operational. They say it shyly, not explicitly, implicitly; they say anyway. But being in love is more of a synergy than energy, they just don't know that. On the negative, they get stuck with a prejudice. An 18-year-old boy who talks that I have become a part of their house with a festive logic can be in love at any time; what, he has gathered flavors from almost all of his artistic values, shaped his whole life with thought-oriented factors! In the middle of such logic, wouldn't you sew a rooster feather?
I am of that conviction: chrysanthemums, misty July evenings, heartbreaking crane flights, the poor who ruffled by a southwester in the morning, its persistence in separation and its mysticism in revolutions; He likes fast food, full-time working, and rotting life in cafes, much more than the generation. For these reasons alone, it deserves love more than most of us.
This is why: Visual and digital non-communication tools portray the virtual lovemaking of these "derived generations" minute by minute, ignoring their love. As the perceptions that evoke a sense of pity, rudeness that remind of rotten gums, the states that have not met the imaginary and the philosopher become widespread; We will complain more about these tools.
Awareness on Myself When Making Change Decisions
The first day of the exchange; While it may seem like an ideal time to transform, clean your closets, or lose five inches of belly fat, the perception that the beginning of "**Time for Change**" is special is just an illusion. With this illusion that provides us with a temporary willpower, we allow ourselves to postpone until the next "perfect" date comes, to enter the path to our wishes. While every moment is perfect and convenient to start living the life we say we want; something holds us back and we wait for the beginning of the week, the beginning of the month or the first day of the new year. However, our intentions can always be realized without being confined to a deadline.
Whether we approve or reject it, dozens of people we know are now making "Time for Change Decisions". Making decisions is a fairly simple act for most of us. As we move through the ebb and flow of our mind, imperative sentences and certain expectations for certain consequences quickly appear in our inner voice. We have personality traits that we don't necessarily like, we have all kinds of addictions, we have glaring physical defects, and we constantly judge ourselves. Then we write reasoned decisions so that our faults will be "punished". We impose the items we listed on ourselves with innocent labels such as "**Time for Change Intentions**". However, psychologically, it is clear that most of these decisions cannot be fulfilled, and what we essentially do when making these decisions is actually creating stress and overwhelming pressure in our mental and physical sphere.
In everyday life, we often use the word stress to describe negative situations. This causes many people to misjudge that stress is completely bad for their psychology, but it should be noted that stress has two different aspects at this stage. If we look at the difference between the terms 'estress', which is a term related to positive stress, and 'distress', which refers to negative stress *:
***The characteristics of estress, that is, positive stress;***
-It motivates and focuses the energy.
-It is short term.
-It works in conjunction with our coping mechanism.
-It feels exciting.
-Improves performance.
-It makes it easier to implement the decisions made.
-Distress, that is, negative stress;
-It causes restlessness and anxiety.
-It can be short or long term.
-It goes beyond the jurisdiction of our coping skills.
-It instills an unpleasant sensation.
-It causes mental and physical damage.
-It interferes with the decision making process.
It is now scientifically accepted that stress, which is not excessive and beneficial, that is estress, has benefits on cognitive functions and general health. Low-level stressors also increase productivity and creativity by triggering brain cell production called neurotrophin and strengthening the connections between neurons in the brain. Many neuroscientific studies have shown that even our body muscles need to be subjected to estrogen. Without knowing these two aspects of stress, it may not be possible to take the right course in life, either. When stress is completely avoided, the process of numbness and actually disappearance begins. Decisions made can neither be applied nor a healthy body dynamics can be achieved. In cases where stress reaches a high dose, we lose control and are doomed to get the same results. It is very functional to have a balance in this regard. One of the most important reasons why people push themselves to suffer to make New Year's decisions has to do with the mind's addiction to stress. There is an awareness-raising story on this subject;
***One day a musician playing the Sitar (a stringed instrument used in Indian culture) goes to Buddha for meditation training and asks;***
"Should I keep tight control over my mind in meditation or should I let it flow?"
Buddha answers the question with the question, "What happens when you tune your instrument too tightly?"
"The strings are broken," replies the musician.
Buddha asks again; "What happens if you tie it too loosely?"
The musician replies and adds, "It doesn't sound when it's too loose;" “Strings must be neither too tight nor too loose to produce a harmonious sound”.
"That's the answer," says Buddha, "neither too tight nor too loose."
This old story actually contains metaphorical elements that can be used to live a healthy life; “When we live a balanced and measured life; We produce the 'harmony' we need, ”he whispers to our ears.
Generally, our brain has a center of stress, a center of pleasure, and a center of compassion. We can make an analogy between the wires on the scilar and the three brain centers. When one is determined, as with a very tightly tuned sitar, this decision can create pressure and tension in our mind and body, making it fragile. The stress center of the brain, which was formed in the early stages of human evolution; it developed to protect it from the dangers of the forest, not from the trivial, artificial structures of the mind. With our uncontrolled perspective on stress, we lead to the chronic activation of our nervous system and the release of excessive amounts of stress hormones such as adrenaline-cortisol into the body. After all; Most of the common New Year goals, such as balancing the budget, saving for college and retirement, paying off a 30-year mortgage, eating less junk food, building more muscle and reducing body fat, gaining salary and climbing the corporate ladder, millions of years old did not exist throughout its evolution. We continue to chronically expose ourselves to distress with these modern-time goals that are alien to our evolutionary biology.
If we take a look at the pleasure center of our brain, it would be revealing to mention a scientific experiment conducted on mice in 1953 regarding this region. In this experiment, mice were primarily subjected to extreme intense stress. Subsequently, they were directed to release dopamine that stimulates the pleasure zones. The dopamine they secrete as a result of extreme stress is so strong that mice; While they were trying to fulfill these desires, they did not even realize their basic needs. After a while, they came to the limit of death due to fatigue. These impulses also constitute the basis of addictions. Humans, as observed in mice, immediately begin to self-sabotage in order to relax after facing intense pressure. As with a very loosely tuned sitar, this time they become unable to produce any music at all. With excessive relaxation stimulating the pleasure center of the brain, they can get caught up in unhealthy habits and addictions. In summary, a person who has made the decision to lose 30 kilos in the new year can first put himself on a strict diet with this decision, and after a short time, turn to worse but enjoyable habits in order to escape the intense negative emotions created by this pressure.
The brain also has a compassion center and the name of the hormone associated with this center; It is the ‘oxytocin secreted from the posterior pituitary gland. It is also known as the hug, happiness or love hormone. The main question that arises is to whom we should be most affectionate to. That person that we make decisions and expose to the harshest state of stress, and then relieve them with unhealthy pleasures so that they can cope with stress, is actually the person who deserves compassion the most. Self-compassion is an essential feeling for a healthy mind and body, and people can only show compassion to others after this step. By taking care of ourselves; We create balance, encourage calmness, and create satisfaction at the same time. Satisfaction can often only be felt when the mind, body, and emotions are comfortably satisfied with the present moment. There is no other external situation that can truly create satisfaction.
When making decisions, we often reject our present moment and thus deepen our relationship with pain. In fact, this pain is the pain of escaping the truth and trying to exist without accepting ourselves. Our most important mechanism that can be used to avoid being trapped; It is our state of being in balance. The strings of our sitar are neither too tight nor too loose; We can harmoniously create the soundtrack of our relationship with life if it vibrates with an appropriate adjustment. Approaching ourselves with compassion and moment-to-moment awareness will also enable us to nourish our music.
The bottom line is to think that you need to make a change in your life and keep it every day. Remember that you only have the present, rather than making a decision to change the future. The present moment is where life happens; to be present carefully, to be conscious, to continue the flow of life and to experience true existence. While you are reading these lines; You can choose the intention to be fully present and awake and become free.
***Your new life can begin right now.***
Time to Meet Our Purpose of Life
Do you know your life purpose? The ancient teachings say that our souls promised a service before they were born. He adds that we thank you for this experience and we are excited to have it. Maybe that's why this longing. To remember your life purpose. Knowing what will make your heart beat, what thoughts will blast your mind, and how to maintain the continuity of that fire that awakens your body every morning. Think for a moment. Isn't it worth everything?
Think about the peace of your life, like a river, sometimes enthusiastically, sometimes calmly, by staying in the "*moment*". Remember the surprise of moving forward with all the experiences that have been passed on to you. Look at the naive state of knowing something and not being able to sense where you know it. What's there?
See the belonging, sacredness and unity state of being the branches of the same root. See that you list your plans for all the actions that will make every breath you take meaningful with your entire existence. **Ikigai** says Far East, explains the reason that got you out of bed. If you do something that you love, that you are good at, that serves humanity and that you earn money, you will reach the reason for existence called **Ikigai**. You get a kind of happy or contented state. For example, there is a concept called living your own essence. The view that all actions that make the essence happy enrich the life always remain fresh.
We humans always want to grow up when they are children and to be children after they grow up. It is not possible for this order to change, of course, but from time to time it is possible to look at the world through the eyes of children whose innocence and sincerity we believe.
How pure, clean and beautiful is the children's world. How innocent and undisputed they look at life, people and events. If we are adults, we always make life difficult. We start fires with our prejudices, selfishness, and intolerance, then we look for ways to extinguish them. We build sets around us, build walls, then look for ways out. Children are as clear as raindrops. They give such meanings to life, people, and events that even we often begin to rediscover existence with them.
It was the early 80's. It was the years when Afghanistan was under Russian occupation. Western journalists were interviewing Afghans. They also interviewed an Afghan boy. When asked by a journalist to an Afghan boy, “Why did the Russians invade your country? That's why they occupied it. " In those years, the statesmen of all the countries made big words about this war, political leaders, international relations experts, press members made statements and made numerous statements. None of these remained in my mind, but the words of that Afghan child, as pure, clear, sincere, far from all material calculations, as pure, clear, sincere, innocent words like the rain falling from the sky, the prayers rising from the sky to the sky, and I could never forget it.
To be able to look at life through the eyes of a child is living the time without worrying about the future. Plan is to accept life as it is, without ever dealing with the project, without worries such as "Alas my top is dirty, oh my feet got wet". To be able to look at life through the eyes of a child is to dream the most interesting dreams. Caressing a star in the sky is being able to ride on a flying bird and walk around. And being able to look at life through the eyes of a child is knowing how to share. Even if he has half a piece of bread in his hand, it is being able to divide the half and give it to a friend.
We always make life difficult because we forget to look at the world with childish eyes, cannot think like children, cease to dream and believe in the miracles of life. We always fall into the illusion that we can find happiness in things or people outside of us. We are always looking for it outside and away from ourselves, and when we cannot find it, we become unhappy and hopeless.
Is it possible not to love such sweet and innocent beings who hide all the beauty of life in their eyes, who run after a tiny light even in the worst conditions, who are always positive? However, we grown-ups often avoid entering their world. Not only that, we don't care about what you say, we find a thousand and one excuses to go away. However, aren't we often learning the real lessons about life from children rather than adults?
Because we forgot to look at life with our children's eyes, our souls turned blind. Therefore, we are closer to happiness as children, to the extent that we can look at people, enjoy life and be ready to play at any moment - without prejudice, without bargaining, with love, joy, enthusiasm, with an open heart. Let's enter and look at life through their eyes. Let's not be afraid of this look, because this look is pure, pure, innocent. It is warm and loving. Believe me, while looking at life from their window, new hopes will spring in our hearts and we will rediscover and love life.
The world-famous writer whose books have been translated into more than 40 languages, "**Life Starts and Ends**! "It is not how you start and when and where it ends, but what you can fit between the two," he says. In exactly that sense, it's like a wonderful gift of moving forward on your way, with your life purpose.
When you transfer your life energy lovingly to every action you do, roses grow where you plant. Your words turn into magic and quickly open their doors to your dreams. The universe also supports those who dream and aim to live this dream.
I ask you again the question I asked at the beginning: Do you know your life purpose?
**I wish you first learn and then experience.**
Let's Guide Our Future Together
Are you aware of how many people are tired of imagining? Embittered or afraid of dreaming big… Well, what if I told you that the main reason for the endless depressions and disconnections from life is that our lives are not creative enough? Yes, you can create anything you want, but only if you know how to create it.
Creativity is an innate force for every human being, and we must learn to use this power. When we can't learn, this enormous potential gnaws us in and cuts us off from life. Let's change that now! Depression and a life we do not enjoy living should not be destined! Are you ready to be one of those who have their power and shape the future?
We think we are not creative: There may be times when we get stuck and have a hard time creating because we face our resistances. However, it is a gross misconception to think that a person is incapable of creating. This is one of the most important obstacles we have to overcome. Please know that every human being is a creative! Only some of us know how to use this power, some do not. Man is a part of nature, and to think that a human cannot be creative is the same as to think that nature is uncreative.
We think creativity is an artistic endeavor: Many people think that creativity is just an artistic endeavor, and they run from courses to courses to feel creative. However, creativity is in every moment of our lives. Our conversation with a friend is because it is creative if we do not understand how time passes. Instead of sticking to the recipe while cooking, it is creative to create the meal by bringing together what comes from within. We are creative whenever we find ourselves in lightness and ease… And none of these moments come to light by accident, but because we did the right things.
Our creative muscles are not active: Yes, every human being is creative, but some have discovered the creative power within and learned to create by strengthening their muscles. Unfortunately, many people's lives pass by suppressing the creative potential within. Life always beckons him to play, but he is so convinced that he is not creative that even though his heart is in a colorful riot, he cannot act. However, all it needs is to learn the nature of creation and to be in creation to activate its creation muscles. And no, you don't have to quit your job for that.
We break away from our creativity by turning tools into goals: Many people who want to be creative but have not yet found the right tool for them, constantly try new tools in the early stages. Dance lessons, singing lessons, writing workshops… It is great to meet many different tools at the beginning of the journey. In this way, you can discover the vehicles you feel most comfortable with. However, if the tools begin to turn into purpose, then we may be disconnected from creativity again. We begin to perceive creativity as something bigger than us, and that drives us away from ourselves.
After a while, it is important to choose the vehicle you like most to spend time with, because in order to find your own voice, we have to practice it into a limb. Just as you had to make an effort to find your mouth in early childhood when you didn't know how to hold a spoon while eating, today we have to improve our relationship with our vehicle by choosing a tool and using it at every opportunity possible. Then you can start to scatter those unique colors that you have never seen before, but have always lived inside you, into the world.
We do not recognize the nature of creation: In order to use the immense creative power within us, we must recognize the nature of creation and understand very well what it means to be creative. One of the biggest mistakes we make in this way is that we think that just imagining is enough. Another mistake, as big as this, is that we cannot dream big enough. Creation has a formula, and this is not mystical, but a formula written with the laws of physics. When you look carefully at nature and the lives of successful people, you will see that they both apply the same formula. What we need is to reach this golden formula and apply it.
Success is no accident and it never happened! The people who live their dreams are not just lucky people, they are the ones who create their luck by following this formula. Can you see that nothing in this life is given to anyone as "Ready"? We need to learn how to create, and you have attempted it many times before, but if you haven't been successful, you probably haven't met this formula yet. I am sharing this formula with you in the workshop!
Anyone can create the life they dream of, if you know how! My dream is for more people to learn the nature of creation and experience its uniqueness. Wouldn't it be great if everyone lived their dreams?
We will go over many of the important points about creation for the future. We will understand what does not work and why by deciphering the formula of creation. In an enjoyable and inspiring conversation environment, we will learn how we should follow a path to create our dreams. Together we will prepare our creation boards for the new year and understand why the creation board is so important and necessary.
**Are you ready to steer the future?**
Let's Make a Difference in Our Lives
What we can do for our personal development is deep sea. There are many methods, practitioners, and books. The common purpose of all of them is to provide body and mind awareness and to help bring us into balance for our body-mind-spirit integrity. You can get as many different training from as many people as you want. But if what you have learned is limited to your good feeling when you learn it, you always look for someone else to feel good and run to the next training. This situation can be one of the handicaps of personal development. The main purpose is to create permanent change, even transformation, through these methods. The way to do this is to apply what you have learned.
I have been dealing with awareness issues related to myself for many years. I attended periodical trainings and workshops, went to sessions, read books, watched videos. I still continue. If I can infer from my experience so far; Whatever happened in the past is happening. If we do not cling to the emotion that it creates, the experience ends and life flows. If we can achieve this, we can stay in balance, but if we are stuck with past emotions, we are drifting towards imbalance. My second biggest drawback is the power of staying in the moment. In fact, this is getting rid of past emotions and being able to fully experience what is happening at that moment. The issue of staying in the moment therefore becomes linked with the first inference. Although the methods I learned and the trainings I received are different, they all come to this conclusion from my point of view.
Breathing and meditation practices were also some of these methods. It appeared in many places, and I understood its importance. When a person does regular breathing and meditation exercises, they can observe automatic responses from the past in their body and feel emotions. And when that person starts to observe these, he can stop his automatism by giving a pause and not engaging in that emotion or behavior. Thus, one by one, by getting rid of the emotional burdens of the past, they can come one step closer to living in the moment each day and regain their balance.
It was great to know these and learn about their benefits, but just because I did not mean that I could change them myself. I could always find myself in similar situations, even if I attended that much education and read books. In order to get out of that situation, I was trying to find another method, a book, and learn new things to be more useful this time. Finally, this year I realized that no matter how much I learned, I would continue to search for as long as I did not apply what I learned. However, I had all of that information. It was time to apply what I knew, not to seek a new one.
I did that too. From what I've learned, breathing and meditation exercises have made the biggest change in my life. While I used to "**know**" its utility before, now I have experienced its utility by "**applying**" it myself.
Another method was to create environments for staying in the moment. I have tried in different ways that staying in the moment calms our mind and makes it easier for us to see different possibilities by staying in the present.
We understood the importance of the application. So how can we make it organized? Personally, when I have an obligation to do a job, I get colder from that job. For this reason, I have to take it out of necessity and make it enjoyable. I have tried various methods for this and the following have helped me the most:
Making it a part of the day by applying it at certain times rather than a general request like "I will do it every day". Just like mealtimes. For me, breathing and meditation is now an activity I do in the morning before breakfast. When I said to do it during the day, I observed that there was no time left for these practices because other work was always a priority and I found such a way for myself. You can also discover the way that is good for you.
To create a special environment for the activity you want to do. A certain corner of the house, its seat. Or, depending on the activity you are going to do, it may be to make that activity more enjoyable, such as burning candles or incense or opening light music. I recommend that you determine and personalize these ways according to the ones you like. Our goal is to increase our willingness to do it by making it more enjoyable.
Thanking yourself every time you apply it. Always remember that you are someone who has the courage to integrate this into your life, and don't thank yourself for taking a concrete step for yourself. Perhaps you have read these suggestions somewhere or heard from some instructors. But do not forget that knowing is not enough… With this article, I invite you to practice knowingly by making a small reminder. The more you apply, the more benefit you will see.
***Yes, which one do we start with first?***
My Ways to Increase Abundance and Wealth
We all often complain that it is difficult to keep up with the rapid flow of life, that time is not enough, that things are not going as planned, that we are not productive enough, and that we feel stuck in something. The greatest expectation of all of us from the new year is to be able to lead a rich and prosperous life both in material and spiritual terms, to become unable to complain about the lack or scarcity of something, and to increase abundance and fertility in all areas of our lives.
Time, things, money or good moments. The way to invite abundance and abundance to all areas of our lives is actually not to have more, but to effectively utilize what we have. Therefore, in order to make room for abundance and abundance in our lives, we need to move forward not with the motivation to have more, but by finding ways to use all the resources we have effectively.
In order to make the best use of the resources we have, we first need to learn ways to use our time much more efficiently, know the tricks of productivity with a 'less but essential' perspective, and search for ways to make the thoughts that occupy our minds more organized.
The beginning of a new year is the right time to organize our whole lives, learn to use our time much better, plan and set goals in order to spend a year full of abundance and abundance. Well, to be much more productive, planned and organized in a new year; What can you do to move forward on a more solid ground and with a high level of awareness with every step you take, and to organize your whole life with your mind?
In order to be more organized and planned in your whole life, the first thing you need to do is to find ways to use your time effectively, which is your most important resource that is exhausted every second and will never be replaced again. The easiest and most effective way to put the next days, months and even the whole year into a program, in addition to seeing how much time you devote for your work, in a much clearer and more concrete way, is to use the agenda. If you like to write and use notebooks, you can use ready-made agendas in magnificent designs to suit your taste. In these days when we spend all our time on the computer, digital agendas that make our lives easier with notifications and reminders can also be a great choice for time planning. In addition to the classic agendas, you can also give a chance to the popular agenda trend ‘bullet journals of recent years, which allow you to organize your time according to your own wishes, to make monthly, annual, or daily plans if you wish. Regardless of its design, using an agenda and spending your time on what you need to do is the first step to incorporating abundance and fertility into your life.
Whether you organize your time, home, computer or phone, one of the biggest obstacles to being inefficient and productive due to its clutter is the thoughts in your mind. Although we are not aware of it most of the time, the stressful factors in our lives, the moments we are stuck in the past, our worries about the future can prevent us from using the time and resources we have at the optimum level by living the moment we are in. Keeping a diary is the easiest way to notice and organize all your thoughts that occupy your mind and prevent you from focusing on what you are doing and the moment. By sparing at the end of each day for half an hour at most, you can see what you did that day, what emotions you experienced, what ways you followed to cope with difficult situations, what was good and bad for you that day; In short, try to archive the summary of the whole day by writing it down. Whenever you have the opportunity to read what you write in your diary; You will begin to notice patterns in some of your thought patterns, behaviors, problem-solving strategies, and emotions you experience, and move forward with much more concrete goals to change your dissatisfaction.
One of the most important requirements of efficiency, productivity and creativity is to have a rested and energetic metabolism. Just like a smartphone that freezes when its charge is about to run out, fails to function and reacts late, the energy of our body and mind can be exhausted during the day and negatively affect our productivity. A quality and balanced sleep pattern is indispensable for regaining both our physical and mental energy, being able to organize our mind that is exposed to information bombardment during the day, and make a much more energetic and refreshed start to each new day. Research shows that we should definitely not miss night sleep in order to live a life in harmony with our biological rhythm and to use our life energy at the optimum level. Melatonin, which is also called the resting and relaxation hormone in the body, is most intensely secreted between 22:00 and 23:00. In order to renew your energy and be much more productive during the day, you simply need to be awake during daylight hours and in sleep and rest mode when it is not.
Your tendency to constantly complain about what life cannot offer you rather than what it has to offer means that you will constantly spend your life energy 'resisting' and 'resisting'. With your desire for abundance and abundance; Keeping your focus not on your achievements, but on what you haven't achieved, focus on your shortcomings rather than what you have, and feel worthless can be a sign that there is an inconsistency and inconsistency in the thoughts in your mind. But in order to incorporate abundance and abundance into your life, you need to align with the usual flow of life, so learn to unconditionally accept everything good or bad that life has to offer, rather than resist or complain.
To be grateful for all the resources you have; When you substitute appreciation of your talents, achievements, and skills instead of complaining, you will soon see that abundance and abundance come into your life spontaneously, without any effort or effort.
My Wisdom Born From My Dark Side
Man is afraid of the dark and the unknown. However, even the light needs darkness in order to exist. There will always be some uncertainty and darkness in every field from our relationships to our business life because this is the nature of life.
We cannot escape from the dark. Only by learning to live with it, we can get stronger!
Today is December 21, the winter solstice and the longest night. Let's take a closer look at it on this meaningful day, to get to know.
Darkness makes us stronger
Human, by processing darkness into light; he is an alchemist who manipulates the unknown into what is known. Alchemy is a natural skill for man, just as the chameleon changes color according to the different environments it enters. Every person, without exception, has this ability. However, like any talent, it needs practice to thrive.
Darkness is an area of discovery
Have you noticed that there are big breakthroughs in our lives right after the darkest days in our lives? When a relationship is over, when we are filled with anger, when we lose something we love, or when we have a disappointment, we enter a darkness… Every darkness is an area of discovery about ourselves and life. This field is the part of life that is left in the dark because "it has not yet been enlightened." The more we light the dark, the more life we fill.
Darkness unleashes the energy of creation within us
Darkness has a driving force that unleashes the creative energy within us. Our abilities that we were not even aware of before are revealed by this driving force. Lack of money is a force that drives us to discover new ways to make money with our talents. The feeling of worthlessness drives us to create a life where you enjoy living more. Loneliness comes to teach us support and connection so that we can create a social and lively life. Look at the dark moments in your life with this eye. Life happens for us, not against us. What might this darkness be trying to tell you? What secret power has it come to unleash?
20 Lessons I Learned From My Past
-When there are no people on the streets, the streets become very sad.
- Children's laughter suits the streets and parks the most.
- No digital meeting in the world can replace face-to-face meetings.
-How precious is our health.
-Each of us is much stronger than we thought.
-That we should know the value of our loved ones
-The beauty of traveling as we wish.
-The importance of solidarity.
-How endurance is the human race.
-No matter what happens, hope will always be there.
-That we should make good use of our time.
- How beautiful it is to be able to hug our loved ones comfortably and touch them.
- What wonderful times are the days when we go to concerts where we sing together with great enthusiasm, with people we do not know.
-The importance of healthcare professionals.
-We should live by giving every breath we take.
-Life is too short to break each other's hearts
-How invaluable it is to be able to roam the streets freely without fear of viruses.
-How strong we are when we hand in hand.
-How much we need each other.
-That each of us is responsible for the other's life.
-And that we need to take very good care of our blue planet, home to us.
***Remember that the light is always in your heart during your darkest nights.***
In your dark times, instead of hurryingly trying to get out of that feeling you don't like to feel, "What does life want to tell me with this experience?" Try to stay in this experience for a while by asking. Break the walls of your heart and surrender to the wisdom of the dark. You will come out lightened. Meditation can help you for this. Through regular meditation, you can become stronger by learning to relate to the dark and the unknown. Life becomes easier when you get stronger.
In the longest night, you can experience liberation from beliefs and experiences that do not serve you by using the driving force of darkness that unleashes the creative energy within us. Wouldn't it be great to step into the new year with a refreshed mind and intentions that nurture your soul?
*Remember that light is always in your heart during your darkest nights and sail into your heart through meditation.*
Life is the multiple hologram we construct
Have we realized that we are in the game we have set up, that we write and play, and even manage? Life is the multiple hologram we construct. A hologram that comes into being as we take a step with our every move, thought and dream. That we can touch and experience every point at the same time with leaps. Even the word experience sounds "**old**" in my ear. Experiencing now resonates like making life "**pretend**", not living. Being "**playing the game**" is real.
Have we realized that we are in a big game now? We are a player in this game, that we cannot play the game unless we exist in this cosmic game with our own unique abilities? Have we realized that life is not finite, material, rigid, and precise?
As humanity, we are inside and outside of life. Our relationship is going through a quarrel and peace with him. But still, if we are mostly playing games, we will expand this area more and more. Whether we fall or get offended, we will get up and continue, realizing that we are the "we forgot our existence" and we start again at that moment. It has always been like this, now knowing, continuing to be the way it is with its realization. With a slight difference, with the awareness of your own vibration, with the consciousness of being in your own creation, with the "**authority to use your power**" and your new vibration.
The new level of the game. In the previous episodes, holding on to a branch in the intense winds kept us alive. In this section, we will understand that as the blowing winds take us from our place, we understand that the wind is a being like us, and we need to be in touch with it, not to hold on to it. We will learn to communicate with our own being, our own vibration and abilities, with all other beings (formless).
With the wind, the soil, the plant, the animal, the walls, the armchair, the water, the dreams, the thoughts, the body. Without separating any of them. We will learn what it means to be ourselves among those crowded beings. We will learn to "**play**" together. All together!
Although we perceive them, beings in different forms, as for us and some as our creations, so far it is time to realize that they are our playmates. It's time to find out what the whole is. All we mean is not that a certain segment "**gets to know**" each other. The whole is the whole. Until there is not a single piece left outside!
We prepared for it, we prepared for it evolutionarily. To take the responsibility of each other and life, to experience the difference and coexistence of being both one and whole. I am not an astrologer, but an energy reader. I can feel an energy gathering right now, although I don't know the meanings of the planets. That a new frequency is transmitted to each of us and that we are already starting to use it. After the level we passed in the game, it seems like we got new tools. Now we will learn to use them actively. We have new technology feelings. We have renewed vibrations. It was as if these last days we spent were for the fine tuning of this loaded new energy. We will gradually get used to it.
If we insist on looking at things from the world of duality, that is, from the world of matter, and trying to find solutions there, if we do not get out of the hypnosis that we are in a "mortal world of rigid fate" rather than a game, we may find it difficult to perceive what is happening, somehow pushed aside, old fashion, weary, We can find it in anguish, endless repetition. Let's stop holding on to our failures, our despair, our former "**we thought we were**". Stepping into the new starts with giving ourselves this chance.
Everyone on earth, every bodied, every form, deserves existence and life. Each of them places themselves in a unique place in the game and plays the game in one way or another. Love yourself! Master player in this cosmic game; it wouldn't have happened without you!
We will continue to walk together, keep your heart cool, there will always be a life beside you that will make you feel its presence by holding your hand. Wherever you are, it will be sent to you. Because you are valuable to all of us. This is neither an end nor a beginning. This is a transition, this is information that you are walking. Look into your eyes in the mirror today and say "I'm here."
My Planning That Will Contribute to My Career World
***These days I ask myself these questions the most. It is definitely happening to you.*** Is your current job suitable for the life you dream of? Do you feel fed and energized while working instead of getting tired? Have a job list you wake up full of love to do in the morning?
Then you are on the right career path for yourself. You are processing your unique life energy in the right way and investing in a future where you will enjoy living even more as you take steps on this path.
If you do not have a loving relationship with your career yet, you are running out of work, if you think that you are serving someone else rather than living with what you have done, if you often find yourself lost and stuck in obligations, this article will be good for you.
*Career is your way to contribute to the world*
Dear reader, first of all, you should know that it is possible to have a career in which you work with ease, joy and pleasure, and that is exactly what a career means! Please don't believe anyone who tells you that this idea is utopian. This is as real as the sun and in the near future you will witness that many more people begin to live the life they dream of. This will be our new normal. Please let me explain in a little more detail.
Most of us have recognized doing business as an activity we pursue to earn money. However, the main purpose of doing business is to contribute to the world. When you contribute to the world with your actions, you feel very light and free. This is exactly what they call working without feeling working for a day.
There is a career we were born to be. Your abilities and interests were obvious when you were probably a little kid. However, because it was unseen, you were directed towards a socially accepted profession rather than the career you were born to be. In my opinion, this is one of the biggest problems of our age. Millions of people work in jobs they do not like. They don't like it because what they're doing isn't suited to their talent and interests. On top of that, most of their time is spent on this job they don't like. Their time, that is, their only life.
Each of us is unique, very different from each other, and we came to the world with unique gifts. Some of us were born with a very strong body and easily do things that require physical strength. Some of us were born with an enormously high IQ and thus easily make the technological inventions necessary for our development. Some of us are so adept at communicating that we want to talk to him for hours. Some of us are teachers by heart and spend all their time trying to teach someone else what they know. Some of us are modern time explorers. They are the ones who even go to a newly opened Cafe on the streets as if discovering a new continent. Are you aware of how original colors we are all in? We are unique like our fingerprints… Do you think what would life be like if everyone did what is easy and enjoyable for them? And why should this be utopian? We just need to know where to start, and to continue walking that path, even if conditions are difficult at first. This is a way that will get easier as we walk. There is a career we were born to be, and we actually know very well what it is.
What would a life look like where there was no distinction between life and career? Can you imagine a life like this? I mean, you actually only live, but someone pays you for living. What would you be spending your time doing in such a life?
How do you spend most of your free time today? If you had more time, what would you fill your days with? What is that thing that you can't stop yourself from doing even if no one tells you to do it?
Who are you most jealous of? What exactly is it that hurts you for being so beautiful in their life? What is that thing that they have that you think you don't have and want so much?
Whether you are aware of it or not, everything from the moment you were born has been working to show you the person you were born to be. That dream that makes you feel warm with enthusiasm every time you think about it is your vision, your road map.
Your friend, who you cannot stand seeing him because you are jealous, walks in the vision of a similar dream with you. This makes you the closest friend, not the enemy. Look sincerely at those you envy, they are your closest ones.
Everything you do with ease is easy, not because it's worthless, but because you are talented. It's easy for you, it's hard for someone else. That is why everyone should do what is easy for them and earn money this way. When everyone does what is easy and enjoyable for them, all the work will actually be done. Are you aware? It is that simple and the more people stop doing what they do not enjoy doing and start doing what they enjoy, the sooner we will have our new normal.
***All we need is some courage and a road plan.***
I Learned A Lot From Plants - Don't Be afraid to Ask for Help
**I have a chair, where I came and read a book, took notes, and even wrote this article on it right now. I have plants right in front of me.** Since I spend a lot of time in this sofa, we keep eye-to-eye with my plants. There is even one that opens during the day and turns itself off at night; When I turn on the lamp of the room in the evening, it thinks it is daytime and it opens its leaves again. Every time I find myself saying to herself: But my beauty is not the morning now. This is just the light of the lamp. You are hungry again, sprinkle your leaves. The bad thing is, I turn the light on and off. You will be confused, what are we going to do?
An image under the headline What we learn from plants on Twitter read:
*-Everyone's growth rate and shape is different. Do not compare yourself with others.*
*- Sometimes it's okay to get some support. Don't be afraid to ask for help.*
*-Some friends support you, others block your way. You should see the difference.*
*-It is natural to have needs and is not selfish. You have to do what it takes to grow.*
*-It is very natural to go beyond the container you were sewn in So leave and choose a new path.*
*-If you feel bad… You can open the curtains and feel the sun.*
*-If it's no longer good for you It is healthier to go.*
*-If life is holding you back. Know that you will grow stronger.*
It is so beautifully supported by tiny plant visuals that I intend to have a medium sized poster made and hang it in my room; right behind my plants. Perfect reminders!
I am in such communication with each of them separately. Especially the name of the sword, I don't understand when he gets longer, he takes his tiny brothers with him. Now he's coming again, a baby from the roots. I will not count all of them one by one, but there is one that is actually our topic today.
A gift from one of my closest friends. He was more of a baby when he arrived. It has been two years since we have been with each other. Now a tall young girl with a few firm branches, her leaves radiating joy. I also like it because it reminds me of my grandmother as well. This baby's grandmother was in my grandmother's house and she looked like her eyes. Now, as grandchildren, we look after each other.
As time went on, this young girl grew so big, branched out, and became unable to support her own weight. She needed support, she. I could not see, did not know. I realized when a big branch broke off its root and lays itself down with its beautiful leaves.
Then, of course, I put a stick to support the other huge branches, right next to them. Satisfied now. We are even looking at it right now, but while I was reading the teachings in the visual “what we learn from plants” I mentioned at the beginning of the article, that last piece fell into my mind.
Sometimes it's okay to get some support. Don't be afraid to ask for help. If I had recognized and supported his needs in time, that branch was still with us. Its own burden was heavy. Aren't people just like that?
I know myself, and I know very well. Where did I learn from and why I recorded it in my belief system like this; I believed I should take care of everything alone. I saw asking for help as a weakness. Even worse, I perceived it as disturbing someone and always kept silent. While laughing, I went out in public, when it was tasteless, nobody knew. My life passed like this.
Last year, during a conversation with one of my close friends, I was very surprised and impressed when I talked about how bad I felt for a past period. “I don't know how he is in this state,” she said. How did you know? In those moments, I would always hide under the duvet and show myself outside when I gathered some strength. Until the facts that swept me under the carpet and stuck me again wanted to squeeze under the carpet and overflow.
From that day on, it reminded me every day, every moment. He said that he was with me in bad days as well as in good days, that moments when people feel weak are normal, that we do not need to do anything but just want to stand next to me. I'm still telling him. I've been a little open since then, thanks to him. It is so precious. I got it after those days. It turns out that for a long time my burden was too heavy for me and my branches were broken, as well as many of my branches.
Now this young girl tells me the same; reminds me again. We do not have to bear all the burden on our own. We must know how to share loads as well as lightness. Otherwise, we may break from an unexpected place at an unexpected time and die once again with that part of ours. Or we can ask for support whenever we need it. We even need to ask for support so we can survive! Life is lived when shared, given and given support.
Such dear reader today. This is what we will tell today with the green young girl. If you too feel lonely, unsupported, and helpless from time to time; Don't be embarrassed, bored, and the closest person will be able to accept you as you are and support you with compassion without judgment, run to him no matter what situation you are. Run to him so he can breathe. Don't be out of breath. Live.
***Together to our many more fresh breaths.***
My Connections With The Universe
Being able to take steps is an easy task. We just put our feet up and try to move forward. And here comes the step. We change places. It's called going one step further. Taking a step, for example, is an easy action that many of us describe as quite simple. Well is it really so?
How does being able to take even one step resonate in this world? Could this event, which stimulates all the cells in our feet, all the ligaments and the nerves that travel throughout our body, actually be interpreted so simply?
Let's think together now; the steps we have taken throughout our lives, the connections that so many steps create in our lives. The work we carry out with so many steps, the streets we run, the cities we pass, the forests we explore, the people we meet, the loves we left.
In this article, I want to take a look at the universe and connections that are as simple as a step but at the same time complex. Let's look at another night that we simply call a step, what we call a day, what we call a human, what will happen that we call breathing easily taken, when we fall asleep carelessly so that we can wake up to a new one. Let's once again look at all this flow with "**simple**" eyes.
We have been a part of the universe since the moment we were born. But we are never a static piece, every day, every decision, every touch, every choice and every moment of ours is actually a part of this journey. Yes, we may allow it to lose its character, beauty, clarity and magnificence by saying whatever happens over the years. Now, this flow is our evolution, the reason why we are in the world is perhaps just a step we have to take, maybe it is just the same act of being with us so that we can take that step. He had to be here at this time! Maybe we changed a few lives with just one step.
Let's examine this magnificent "evolution" design with that different expression of the Divine Ordinance and the Universe, the beautiful work of our beloved Bedri Ruhselman;
The being that started living with the first mechanical instincts is now at the service of a soul. It will respond to all the needs of the soul, all its actions, and will be instrumental in its requirements that must take place among the matter in the universe. From this moment on, he will need to actively practice between the coarse atoms of the hydrogen realm that have not yet entered the phase of existence and their coarse combinations, depending on the stage of evolution that he has begun. Therefore, by collecting them, distributing them, creating new formations from them, forming bodies, managing bodies, it will continue its evolution and thus complete its preparations for the future in this world.
What people try to explain with the word "**incarnation**", which does not have a good expressive power, is actually this; In order for the being to serve the soul that owns it, more precisely, the soul has to make and use a means of influence from the substances of that realm to itself, that is, a crude body, in order to use the substances of a crude realm through the being that serves itself. Here, the being will be able to perform its activities among the crude substances and other beings, which belong to the needs of its soul, which has begun its evolution in that world, thanks to this body it has established. That is, the being will govern that body according to the behavior of the soul.
If a person is left alone in the world, he cannot have good manners and experience. If he does not have good manners and experience, he cannot serve the evolution of the soul. At this point, the necessity of various evolutionary plans in the universe of matter clearly manifests itself.
Every moment of our lives, every day, every encounter, every flow, every wrong, every positive, every negative, every good and every bad is just a magnificent part of such a big picture. What do we do? Time passes and we forget this extraordinary design of our lives, evolution, being, maturing, learning, changing by experiencing. After all, there is one more day, anyway, there is always a little more time, and the worst thing is that there are dozens of days to spend so much that can be substituted for dozens of past days anyway!
Today, I would like to ask ourselves a few important questions with you, even if we do not get the answers right away, let's ask them anyway. What does our evolution point to? Why are we in this world today in this context in this context as this person in this life? Who is our benefit? Who is our harm? Who and what will the world remember us tomorrow? What will we leave to those who are on the journey of evolution after us? Which trail will they look for and find or follow? Which word, which energy, which emotion will resonate in the universe, in the universe?
**Now let's ask again, why am I here?**
Let's Remove The Obstacles Ahead For Our Goals
If we keep our goals, wishes and desires only at the level of **MIND**, we cannot go beyond being sweet dreamer. This article was created for determined dreamers who want to take a step towards making their dreams come true. This week I'm talking about what steps we need to take to achieve the goals.
Isn't it nice to just daydream? We feel good even considering our wishes. However, sometimes, because our minds tend to see the negative, we can say "this is not the job" even at the stage of daydreaming. We do not allow our dreams even when we are still in the dream stage, and just because of this we can stop dreaming after a while. This is because instead of embodying the dream, it's just to let it stay at the level of the mind.
Another mistake is to dream and then deliver everything to the universe. I don't know if we'll get to that point one day, but most of us haven't gotten to the point of having something just willingly as a human species. Wanting is a very powerful factor, and it is very important to emphasize it. But it is not very possible to fulfill requests simply by willingness, without identifying possible obstacles, planning and taking steps. And boring. It would actually make life a little too meaningless if everything we want comes true without any effort. So let it be aside as what we should not do to keep wishes in mind without embodying them, and simply to expect from the universe.
Now we have come to what we have to do; If you wish, you can download the WOOP goal realization tool from the positive psychology tools to your computer to follow the steps more easily. WOOP reduces anxiety and worry as it includes the steps of intention creation, goal setting and decision making. Making decisions relaxes you, your negative emotions decrease, and it becomes easier to find solutions to problems. With the sense of control this exercise gives, your self-confidence increases.
First, choose any goals you want to achieve in the new year. And follow the steps on the tool you downloaded or here.
Achievable goal. The wish line asks you about your achievable goal. The important thing here is that this goal is realistic, that is, it would not be right to start this vehicle with a wish against the laws of physics. Let's say your goal is to exercise regularly.
The best result your goal can deliver. In the second step, you imagine the best outcome your goal can bring; For example, I am a regular exerciser twice a week and my body is in better shape than I expected. I feel energetic and energetic, my health problems and pain have decreased. I now make the things I wear fit myself, I enjoy dressing up. Thanks to sports, I started to pay attention to my nutrition. I get compliments from people about how much I've changed and how good I look. Thanks to me, 2 of my friends started sports.
In this step, you need to list the obstacles that could prevent you from achieving your goal. This line is the most important and most ignored line. However, identifying and removing obstacles is very important to achieving goals. There is a great saying; “*I don't think about how to be successful at a job; what will hinder that job? Have I removed the barriers, it will go on by itself.* "
What could be the obstacles to regular exercise? Not having a gym near your home? Laziness, procrastination, inability to find different offers attractive and to act with will. Here you list all the things that might hinder.
What you can do to remove the obstacles. Step 4 will include what you need to do to eliminate these obstacles. List all the things you can do to eliminate the obstacles to making your wish come true and choose the one that works best for you.
'When this happens. .I will do'
You have to fill the line for each obstacle.
For example, you can tell your friends that you will be in sports on certain days and that you need their support to do sports these days, despite the danger of alternatives such as offers to drink something from your friends during the hours you need to go to sports.
Yes, when you do this work and make an action plan regarding what you need to do in the face of obstacles, you will be one step closer to your goal. Actually, there is one more item I added as a bonus; What's the worst case scenario if you don't take the necessary steps to make your dream come true? If you are dealing with rapid weight gain, are obesity and various health risks? Avoiding dressing, getting inside people? Losing self-confidence? I want you to think about the worst possible scenario.
This is the step that will motivate you to take a step towards your goal. If the worst case scenario doesn't affect you enough, you may not have enough passion for your goal, and that goal might not be something you really want. Seeing this saves you from wasting time for the goals you want to achieve, for the sake of a goal you don't want.
***Remember;***
**The worst target is the one who lacks passion!**
My Motivation Codes for My Future
***If your answer to the following question is yes, then this article is for you, me, all of us.*** In fact, do you have trouble thinking about what your future will look like while constantly dreaming about the coming of those near-normal days in the future?
With so many uncertainties in all areas of life, it can be very difficult to stay motivated. Moreover, although we feel stuck in the same thing, nothing stays the same. When we don't feel like part of this change, it can be alarming. One part of us is also well aware of this.
This change is also valid in our relationship with Covid. While we never left our homes in the first quarantine days of the pandemic, almost all of us experienced a feeling of sore throat and itching, and now almost nobody has said that this feeling is experienced even though we are going out in this period when the severity of the epidemic has increased.
Just because we feel this way now doesn't mean we will feel that way in the future. Maybe you don't feel enthusiastic about life. Whatever your job, your profession, your lifestyle before the pandemic, this is normal. This lack of enthusiasm, this feeling down, is part of the whole process. Maybe you were someone who made plans, set goals, and implemented them. Now, as you go from the bedroom to the sofa in the living room and back to the bed in the bedroom, you lose all your fictions in the corridor between those two rooms without realizing them.
It may have made you feel guilty at first, this is the state of feeling like you are doing nothing. Or it has never been easy to set up goals and milestones before, now you are like a completely different land. When you are left without external factors that encourage you to participate in life, you may feel lost and misplaced.
Maybe it's never been easier to take ourselves down. Thousands of people have died so far, millions of people have lost their jobs. Combined with the seasonal flu that comes with mutation and cold weather conditions, we can say that we are experiencing a dark, gloomy winter. We neither have the opportunity nor the enthusiasm to celebrate the new year, which we hope, with our loved ones.
In the middle of all this, we have to work. This is necessary for our employers and the lives we want to continue. Moreover, if we are lucky enough to still have a job, this is it. Meanwhile, we are always worried about both ourselves and the lives of our loved ones. And all this feels so much.
So what should we do? How do we stay motivated after nine months in a pandemic with no end in sight? Or perhaps more beneficially: how can we come to terms with the impossibility of maintaining full motivation and productivity in deciding what our normals will be for the foreseeable future?
In my childhood, when my mother asked me to contribute to housework or tried to convince me to collect my messy teen room, which was only my own space, she addressed my resisting soul, saying, “Whatever you are doing is not to me, you are doing to yourself, son, you do the good and the bad to yourself, what you chose to do and choose not to do. you are doing ”he would say.
Perhaps recognizing what we have chosen may be the first step. Wanting to do too much and not committing violence to ourselves at the end of a day that is completed without doing any of them. Or better yet, why wouldn't it be a good starting point to want to do nothing and see that this is normal under these circumstances?
Showing ourselves the compassion behind the protective measures we often repeat to our loved ones, a self-compassionate approach can be another good step. Everything in nature grows freely in an area where it feels safe. Recognizing today's choice and accepting it as it is without judgment will build the foundation of that trust we need.
Resist; that thin border where pain turns into suffering. This step is an invitation to stop resisting. If things are not the way we want them to be yet, instead of making decisions because they are not so, if there is nothing we can do about it right now, how about stopping to resist until the time comes when we can do something? For example, I missed a lot of conversation with my friends in a cafe eye to eye, kneeling, and laughing. Giving a chance to the big positive outcomes of small innovative choices, such as organizing virtual meetups until this can happen, is a sweet example of stopping resisting.
When the mind is filled with anxiety, it can be nearly impossible to be motivated. We can support our mental health, which we think we have already lost, by taking good care of ourselves. Everything we feel in our soul happens in our body. That sadness, that fear, that unhappiness, that feeling of laziness, it's all inside the body. Not just for protection from the epidemic. I guess there are no more people who do not hear the slogan we are what we eat. Choosing healthy and delightful foods, taking a walk whenever possible in the still-green coastline and wooded areas, participating in an online exercise and / or meditation program, all seem like physical activities, but those that will nourish the soul.
So why not have the right time to give a chance to simplify the justified trend of those last years? We said we are lucky if we still have a job that earns us money. But sometimes it can be impossible even to complete that job. Being grateful may not be enough to succeed. Expecting less of ourselves than usual shouldn't be a problem; Another stop of self-compassion. This applies not only to business life, but also to all our daily routines; preparing meals, the layout of the house, our self-care and so on. What work should I do first to ensure continuity today? Which e-mails and messages should I reply before the day is over? What deficiencies should I complete about my home and work? What information should I have received from whom? We can benefit from the questions that make it easier to prioritize, lead from chaos to simplification, bringing to the moment and creating awareness, reducing the crowd on the desktop.
Most of us are more tired than enthusiasm, waiting for the time this process will end. Life does not go on, it did not stop as it was. Our choices are the determinants of what the memories we have accumulated about this process will look like in the future. I think that we should carry our choices away from the frustration of the feeling that we will continue like this forever in this period we see temporarily in order to feel and enjoy the days we longed for, when times similar to those days come.
This article maybe repeated what you know, maybe it reminded you what you have forgotten, I hope it brought a motivation, a different perspective. After all, don't mothers' wise words sometimes sum up everything? Whatever we do, we do it to ourselves.
***Let's meet with love, self-compassion and awareness in our next article.***
Our Vision is Our Roadmap in Life
*In this article, I would like to introduce you to your ability to create vision.* Somehow most of us know this but very few of us really do. When you learn to use this ability effectively, you will meet the power that will change your whole life from beginning to end.
*Lost in Wonderland, Alice asked the Cheshire Cat: "Which way should I go?"*
*Cheshire Cat: "The answer to the question depends on where you want to go"*
*Alice: “I don't really care where I go. I just need to get somewhere"*
*Cheshire Cat: “Then it doesn't matter what direction you are going. If you walk long enough, you will get somewhere"*
Remember this well-known text by Alice in Wonderland? Almost many people live like Alice. There is no way they are going in life. They don't know what direction to go because they hardly think about what they want their life to look like. Maybe they don't know that they can use their vision skills to direct life.
Setting a vision is a human special ability. Of all living things, we only have the ability to create a vision to create the life we imagine. The future is an endless sea of possibilities. Man creates his future by choosing the best experiences for himself among these endless possibilities thanks to his ability to see.
Everything that is real today was a dream someday. All the great works that we admire today, such as the Eiffel tower, were an image in the minds of the people who created it before they came true. One vision brought tens, hundreds of people together to make it happen. Einstein's world-changing inventions were just a dream in Einstein's mind long before we heard of them. At the end of long hours of work, it turned into flesh and bone. A baby was created in the mother's mind long before it fell into the womb, then reached human form by feeding and growing for months. The Internet was created because it can be thought. Long before that, it was an elusive and pale vision. Today, thanks to the internet, I can meet my readers who are miles away from me. Before this article reached you, it was an idea in my mind. If I had not been in front of this computer and put it down on paper, we would not have been able to meet you at this magnificent moment. Everything true today was born out of a vision.
A well-defined vision is your roadmap. Can't we just not create it? Sure, but then we wouldn't have had our unique life experience properly. The only way our true potential can be unleashed is to realize only the visions that will emerge from us. Are you aware that everyone has a dream, but very few people can make their dreams come true. This is because very few people follow their vision.
A vision is rude as it first comes to mind, it needs to be thought through and defined by us over and over. A well-defined vision is a roadmap. Thus, we know where we are going and can run the universe in the direction we want to go.
Like all talents, our visionary ability needs to be improved with practice. To create the life we dream of, we must learn to choose and manipulate the right vision like a designer. Just days before entering the new year, this period, in which we talk about our dreams and future plans, offers a great practical opportunity to improve our vision.
I'm holding a *Creation Workshop* this weekend. On the first day of the workshop, we will talk about why we cannot create and then decipher the formula for creation. On the second day, we will create a vision board together. Anyone who wants to live a more creative life can participate. If you wish, you can read the introduction text below for more detailed information and contact me.
Everyone can create the life he dreams, of course, if you know how to do it, I prepared a three-day compact but very effective workshop. My dream is more people to learn the nature of the creation and living the unique. Everyone wouldn't be great to have your dream?
I will pass through a very important point on creation in this workshop. We will understand what is not working by deciphering the formula of the creation. We will learn how to follow what we have dreamed in in a pleasant and inspiration chat environment. We will prepare our creation boards for the new year and we will comprehend why the creation board is so important and necessary.
I respond to the pace of life by slowing myself down
In this article, I would like to talk about the pace of life, the feeling of being exhausted at the end of the day by trying to keep up with everything, the feeling of being stuck on us when we think it is not enough no matter what we do.
When speed comes from within, if we slow down, what does this create in our lives? Wouldn't it be nice if we didn't blame ourselves for having lots of things we couldn't keep up to do again, or if we didn't feel inadequate?
In the last few years, everything has accelerated so much that even the stories we uploaded to social media start to age and disappear in twenty four hours as soon as they are shared, it is quite clear that we feel this strain on our shoulders.
When we wake up in the morning, we have the confidence that we have a whole day ahead and that we can train what we will do, while many things you cannot do before you go to sleep may come to mind and even make you sleepy. Even though the fact that many people are not going to work in the pandemic has given them the time they spend on the road, I see that we have found many alternatives to fill this gap in one way or another. Actually, I think the issue here is deeper.
Most of the time, we may be convinced that we are far behind what we need to complete. This can cause us to panic, develop anxiety, and even fear. We try to close the gap in haste, or we watch the gap widen by delaying constantly without doing anything.
At this point, we react to the situation we are in in both options. Either we try to train what we need to do with reaction, saying, or even in panic, or we take a reactive stance by going to the opposite end, doing nothing. When we choose the first option, we keep running around because we try to go back to that area where we feel safe, at whatever point it is for us, to hold that area. Unfortunately, it is not easy to get rid of the lie of "the more, the better" that the systems are based on.
Doing too many things in a short time does not always produce good results. By slowing down, we get the chance to take more effective actions, because trying to keep up with everything can sometimes cause us to spend more energy on that task than usual, and even time. Under this state of intense pressure and panic, the things we tell ourselves to do can often be things we shouldn't do.
So in this cycle, we keep running like a hamster. At this point, we see that the only thing that will break this cycle is a state of conscious slowing down. When we slow down, we can hear our surroundings and ourselves more clearly. There may be moments when we experience that we extend or even extend time. You may experience some unfolding about what you are doing. You can bring a different perspective to your work you do by heart, in speed.
In most cases, we can get the feeling that the slowdown is going back, falling back. However, I think what we are doing here is to slow down and take a glance at the spinning wheel. For this reason, it is important that we give ourselves time and not be impatient to get used to the slowdown we have recently experienced. This can sometimes be disappointing for the people around us. We may get reactions that we do not have enough motivation, that we are indifferent or even take our word, and they can be quite sad.
However, it has been observed that slowing down has many positive effects on our lives, jobs, careers and relationships. Namely: It has been noticed that we can develop effective communication by speaking more clearly and less, our listening capacity has increased, and we can express what we pass through instead of speaking impulsively. Slowing down allows us to have different perspectives and make choices that are good for us in the long run, as it gives us the opportunity to look at our situation from afar. It enables us to let go of the things that do not serve us in life, and to proceed in a focused way by identifying clearer tools.
When we slow down, it is as if an internal control mechanism is activated and gives us the opportunity to observe whether we are in harmony with our goal at any moment and to make the necessary changes. In addition to all this, it is essential to slow down in order to keep our energy and enthusiasm at the same level as we move towards our goals.
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