The Shortest Way to Ourselves

Where did I get around this? A speech by Alain de Botton, one of the prominent philosophers of the modern age, made years ago, it hit the match. I tried to write what I know about this topic.

According to Alain, the most dominant emotion of modern society is jealousy (we cannot deny it) and the basis of the feeling of jealousy is the spirit of equality. Think of Queen Elizabeth of England, she says, richer than any of us, she has a big house. Why are none of us jealous of her?

Meanwhile, the TV series The Crown came to my mind, and I was surprised to realize that I hadn't really looked at the queen once with envy. According to Alain de Botton, none of us are jealous of the queen, the reason is obvious: we don't associate ourselves with her. “When you cannot associate yourself with someone else, you cannot be jealous of him” he says. “The closer two people are of age or background, the greater the danger of jealousy”. This is the reason why we escaped from the rice days of the school every nook and cranny; because there is no such strong reference point as the people we attend to the same school. Today's world is like a huge high school; everyone wears similar things, uses similar products; we are equal in many ways, but we are not really. The real trap starts here.

What is jealousy?

Many psychologists, psychiatrists who know the job have made various definitions. Negative attitude, envy, annoyance when someone shows superiority or when it is concluded that a loved one is interested in someone else. On the other hand, "jealousy" in us corresponds to two different words in English: "jealousy", that is, jealousy as we know it and "envy", maybe a top tone of the "envy" we know. It sounds pretty harsh when you say jealousy, but think about it, can describing your situation as "strong envy" might change things a little bit?

Like desire, it is one of the sad emotions that affect the existence of many individuals. Feelings such as discontent, uselessness, misery, ruthlessness, and powerlessness are regularly gifted as well as jealousy. These feelings are combined with thoughts about uselessness and vulnerability. It is a tendency that can be felt both when it is thought that it can lose ownership and that others should have what they have. The negative disposition adopted when someone excels or is assumed to be a friend or family member. curious about another person, jealousy.

Our subject is not the shows of jealousy of a couple, friends and family. Opposition infection. "You have it, why don't I have it?" The basic issue is the disease in which the mindset that thinks as an individual is acquired. They are double lives. Seeing and needing is tying into someone else's life, copying not their own tastes and own pleasures, but the lives and tastes of others.

Jealousy and need come from madly both material and good longing. While item starvation is like cash, office, brilliance, notoriety, property, property race; The attack from the other world may resemble jealousy of harmony, love, satisfaction. Similar to a wolf, many people involved in this insult chew on themselves and their immediate environmental factors. He speaks casually about his constant demands. The soul sees and needs because it is lacking, the monkey is enthusiastic and incredibly greedy. Individuals who see themselves as incomplete and useless, or whose sense of value are actively affected by external influences, often desire.

Individuals who experience desire find it difficult to maintain their trust and confidence. They feel like an unhelpful, overlooked, ignored and disliked individual who believes they will lose the race in the opposition they believe to be continuing. Desire is a kind of terror that comes from the need to preserve what it has. According to several, this is simply the behavior of incompetent individuals who need self-confidence and consists of a sense of inadequacy.

What can we learn from our strong sense of envy?

Philosophical meditation. This method, which does not pacify the mind like meditation as we know it, but proceeds with questions, suggests the following: Everything that we envy or is wreaked by a strong sense of envy may actually be what we want to have. For example, when you hear about someone's marriage proposal, the new hair color of the other, and the promotion of the other, if you feel a “scratchy” - which could be - you have a deep desire for all this.

Worth thinking about it, right? Who knows, maybe the way you devour you is one of the shortest ways to meet yourself.