My Motivation Codes for My Future

If your answer to the following question is yes, then this article is for you, me, all of us. In fact, do you have trouble thinking about what your future will look like while constantly dreaming about the coming of those near-normal days in the future?

With so many uncertainties in all areas of life, it can be very difficult to stay motivated. Moreover, although we feel stuck in the same thing, nothing stays the same. When we don't feel like part of this change, it can be alarming. One part of us is also well aware of this.

This change is also valid in our relationship with Covid. While we never left our homes in the first quarantine days of the pandemic, almost all of us experienced a feeling of sore throat and itching, and now almost nobody has said that this feeling is experienced even though we are going out in this period when the severity of the epidemic has increased.

Just because we feel this way now doesn't mean we will feel that way in the future. Maybe you don't feel enthusiastic about life. Whatever your job, your profession, your lifestyle before the pandemic, this is normal. This lack of enthusiasm, this feeling down, is part of the whole process. Maybe you were someone who made plans, set goals, and implemented them. Now, as you go from the bedroom to the sofa in the living room and back to the bed in the bedroom, you lose all your fictions in the corridor between those two rooms without realizing them.

It may have made you feel guilty at first, this is the state of feeling like you are doing nothing. Or it has never been easy to set up goals and milestones before, now you are like a completely different land. When you are left without external factors that encourage you to participate in life, you may feel lost and misplaced.

Maybe it's never been easier to take ourselves down. Thousands of people have died so far, millions of people have lost their jobs. Combined with the seasonal flu that comes with mutation and cold weather conditions, we can say that we are experiencing a dark, gloomy winter. We neither have the opportunity nor the enthusiasm to celebrate the new year, which we hope, with our loved ones.

In the middle of all this, we have to work. This is necessary for our employers and the lives we want to continue. Moreover, if we are lucky enough to still have a job, this is it. Meanwhile, we are always worried about both ourselves and the lives of our loved ones. And all this feels so much.

So what should we do? How do we stay motivated after nine months in a pandemic with no end in sight? Or perhaps more beneficially: how can we come to terms with the impossibility of maintaining full motivation and productivity in deciding what our normals will be for the foreseeable future?

In my childhood, when my mother asked me to contribute to housework or tried to convince me to collect my messy teen room, which was only my own space, she addressed my resisting soul, saying, “Whatever you are doing is not to me, you are doing to yourself, son, you do the good and the bad to yourself, what you chose to do and choose not to do. you are doing ”he would say.

Perhaps recognizing what we have chosen may be the first step. Wanting to do too much and not committing violence to ourselves at the end of a day that is completed without doing any of them. Or better yet, why wouldn't it be a good starting point to want to do nothing and see that this is normal under these circumstances?

Showing ourselves the compassion behind the protective measures we often repeat to our loved ones, a self-compassionate approach can be another good step. Everything in nature grows freely in an area where it feels safe. Recognizing today's choice and accepting it as it is without judgment will build the foundation of that trust we need.

Resist; that thin border where pain turns into suffering. This step is an invitation to stop resisting. If things are not the way we want them to be yet, instead of making decisions because they are not so, if there is nothing we can do about it right now, how about stopping to resist until the time comes when we can do something? For example, I missed a lot of conversation with my friends in a cafe eye to eye, kneeling, and laughing. Giving a chance to the big positive outcomes of small innovative choices, such as organizing virtual meetups until this can happen, is a sweet example of stopping resisting.

When the mind is filled with anxiety, it can be nearly impossible to be motivated. We can support our mental health, which we think we have already lost, by taking good care of ourselves. Everything we feel in our soul happens in our body. That sadness, that fear, that unhappiness, that feeling of laziness, it's all inside the body. Not just for protection from the epidemic. I guess there are no more people who do not hear the slogan we are what we eat. Choosing healthy and delightful foods, taking a walk whenever possible in the still-green coastline and wooded areas, participating in an online exercise and / or meditation program, all seem like physical activities, but those that will nourish the soul.

So why not have the right time to give a chance to simplify the justified trend of those last years? We said we are lucky if we still have a job that earns us money. But sometimes it can be impossible even to complete that job. Being grateful may not be enough to succeed. Expecting less of ourselves than usual shouldn't be a problem; Another stop of self-compassion. This applies not only to business life, but also to all our daily routines; preparing meals, the layout of the house, our self-care and so on. What work should I do first to ensure continuity today? Which e-mails and messages should I reply before the day is over? What deficiencies should I complete about my home and work? What information should I have received from whom? We can benefit from the questions that make it easier to prioritize, lead from chaos to simplification, bringing to the moment and creating awareness, reducing the crowd on the desktop.

Most of us are more tired than enthusiasm, waiting for the time this process will end. Life does not go on, it did not stop as it was. Our choices are the determinants of what the memories we have accumulated about this process will look like in the future. I think that we should carry our choices away from the frustration of the feeling that we will continue like this forever in this period we see temporarily in order to feel and enjoy the days we longed for, when times similar to those days come.

This article maybe repeated what you know, maybe it reminded you what you have forgotten, I hope it brought a motivation, a different perspective. After all, don't mothers' wise words sometimes sum up everything? Whatever we do, we do it to ourselves.

Let's meet with love, self-compassion and awareness in our next article.