I set out for small changes in my life. Two questions that will remove big illusions in life: What are you doing to live? How long have you been in this world?
Our commitment to our identities is through the simplest questions we ask. The people we evaluate according to what they do and their educational background will of course try to get their value needs from these identities. This is a seemingly hidden and natural manipulation of society.
As soon as they ask you about your job, they have a "bias" about your living conditions, financial situation, possible tastes and abilities. Since this is a judgment, they need to be patient and persistent to see the truth in you. Because they have "their own judgment" to transcend. This is not about you. It is about asking.
The part about you is that you try to derive your desire to be valued in the opposite eye mirror not from your own self-worth, but from the other's judgment mechanism. So, if you do not have an affiliated profession, you may be inclined to see yourself as "loser", "inadequate", and if you have an affiliated profession, you may be inclined to see yourself at the opposite point. And in order to satisfy your need for love, you hold onto an identity that is beyond what you are, and begin to nurture it. You are trapped in relationships where you get tired and end yourself. The professions people perform do not determine what they are. People are not beings that fill professions, professions are people's kitchen aprons!
Is the heart's width measured according to the kitchen apron? What matters is the way you do whatever you do. It is attitude. The world is like an open titr market. We spend everything, even our soul, our life energy to buy. Trying to be a "thing". This is to "buy" a place in other people's eyes. It's like buying a plot from fake heaven. The promised lands are barren, but hollow.
If we change our question, we constantly remind ourselves that we are in an area where we are concerned with skill rather than identity, where we are concerned with the characteristics of the person. Our judgment towards both ourselves and others begins to melt like a soap, only with a change of questions.
People may be musicians, but they are secretaries for a living. People may be researchers, but they are businesses for a living. And you can use anything, all your skills, your knowledge to live, all of these are actually to perpetuate what you are passionate about. What you are passionate about may be life itself. You can sacrifice your identity to enjoy it!
Our second question to change is: "How old are you?"
When we ask people how old they are, we open up a window of “prejudice” again. We go on a gently sneaking trip to an area where we will validate what he says according to his age. Therefore, young children tend to "grow up" their age, and those who get older than a certain limit tend to "shrink". This is a method of escaping judgment.
Our behavior is independent of our age! The expression of our existence is independent of our age! Age is an insidious illusion. We judge the other according to age, "Too young to say this", "Too old to act like that", "Can", "Can't".
Naturally, every human being in this hypnosis gradually begins to put himself into "dictated" forms after a certain period of his journey on earth; to wrinkle, to have quiet fun, to get tired, to regard diseases as natural, to take unwanted as natural, to ignore and wait for new beginnings. One scraps himself only because of a judgment to which he is bound with infinite loyalty.
Judging people by the time they spend in the world causes us to ignore the abilities that they harbor within them. "To take certainty that someone we find mature for his age can make mistakes", "to ignore what children say and feel", "to treat old people as children, to shame them", "to ignore uneducated talents", "to wait and hold to take a step."
However, we are all travelers and visitors of this planet earth. "How long have you been in this world?" To ask is to honor his life experiences and existence. Hence your own. To be able to look at each child as a guest, to be curious about the news brought by the newcomer and what he / she will tell. It is to value the experiences of the ancients, to be open to surprises and the miracle of human beings.
Because this question brings along the knowledge that he is a wanderer, that this world is only one of the stops, that the experience of being is not limited to this life, to see the whole, that life is not all in these bodies, and the infinity, the ability and knowledge to contain life.
Change your questions! This is the manifestation of the perception of life. Greetings to all passengers, residents, departures, new arrivals!
