Why do we become attached to a person?

...What is the bond that strongly binds one person to another? Can we see and understand a person at first glance, like a steel ball that looks like silk?

...did we know what we were connecting to

when they asked us why we were attached to someone, we said 'because she's beautiful', 'handsome, smart, strong, talented'; We were listing the reasons we accepted as valid for a person to be loved.

But maybe we were attached to weaknesses, weaknesses, distortions.

While we have always tried to describe 'connection' as a flight towards the heights, perhaps commitment was a surrender to the dark abysses of death, madness, doubt, selfishness, and corruption.

Don't we always find a 'pitiful' side in our attachments that others don't see, a vulnerability that will always inspire compassion, even to those who hurt us the most?

No matter how strong, smart, beautiful, talented the people we are attached to seem to others, weren't we worried that something bad would happen to them because of their naivety, childhood, and weakness and trying to protect them?

No matter how weak and helpless our attachment to a person makes us

No matter how much it hurts us, don't we still sense a weaker and more helpless side to the person we are attached to than our own?

Isn't this what we usually intuited true?

I think strong bonds are strengthened by the great weaknesses in those we are attached to.

There is always a little pity in the great loves and great devotions, even when they make us sad or betray us, we worry for them despite our deep sorrow, thinking that what they did is due to their weakness. We are afraid of what will happen.

While others see their brightest side, we see their darkest side.

The strange whirlpool created by that radiance and that pitch-black darkness draws us in; WE COME TO THEIR SHINE, WE LOSE IN THEIR LONENESS.

...before I connect to someone

I'm afraid that I will suffer

once we get attached, we start to fear 'I wonder if he will suffer'; While our own sufferings seem tolerable to us, while we feel like we can endure any pain, we fear that they will not be able to bear any pain and that they will be crushed under their own pain.

...Why does a person become attached to another person?

Do we ourselves know why we are connected?

We find smart reasons for our feelings, but the real reason is hidden in boxes where the mind does not penetrate.

Why do the weaknesses in those hidden boxes attract us?

our own weakness? Or does the one who is attached sees himself as stronger than he is, does he believe that the person to whom he is attached cannot endure what he suffers; While attachment seems like a weakness, does the person who is attached feel his/her own strength in this commitment?

A beautiful strong weakness The darkness attracts us like an abyss of luminous blackness, it's not easy to take your eyes off once you bend over and look.

We cling to the dark, but to the bright and flaming ones.

such bright darkness can only be found in death, in depth, in betrayal and loneliness.

And while others marvel at their brilliance, we pity and are enslaved by the darkness.

That's why connecting separates us from other people.

In a garden where others gather and eat the fruits, we indulge ourselves in the intoxication of drinking the delicious and burning drinks obtained from the spoilage of those fruits, with the pleasure of discovering that drink and separating from the crowds.

When we are asked "why do we get attached to a person", we say "because we like drinks more than fruits".