Oh! You're amazing I couldn't have done what you did. You did an incredible job! Fantastic! "How to react to someone's effusive elogists, just notice what they said, unable to believe what they see in you, suspected that they are simply polite, or smile, enjoy the moment and say a comfortable," thank you "?
While a certain amount of humility is fine and stops in excess, it is also important to be able to recognize our strengths, capacity, and experience in specific areas. It is nice to allow others to appreciate and also for us to accept that some of the things we approach with relative comfort and ease can be found by others to be frightening and overwhelming.
There are often things of ourselves from which we don't think or at the rate. Our natural attitudes in areas with which we strive above all, which we take for granted almost despised. "Anyone can do it, it's nothing", we can say.
Mentality could have been reinforced by family members, teachers, religious mentors, who felt strongly that humility and praise or recognition should not be encouraged. Modesty and self-tapping were considered as admirable features and whatever else has been seen as a compartment, arrogant, biggly, and unattractive.
Consequently, we can have learned to keep ourselves and not be too stopped in our opinions, choices to avoid any healthy discussion and debate, without wanting to attract too much attention. With comments like, "People like us", "What we believe we are", playing in our ears, as we could celebrate these points of view, be so safe, the courage to defend what we think or believe! When others are automatic, better, brighter, smarter, more worthy, and more titled, we tilted more to stay where we are and we are grateful for what we have.
You may also have learned to change our convictions, meaning, and opinions of dressing, toned by everything that could have been interpreted as strong or at the top for the fear of refusal or ridiculous, fear of attracting every criticism. This fear could also have been manifested as uncertainty and impact in our kindness and normal exuberance because we doubt to appear as a blade or up.
mA, although some of our capabilities have been acquired with apparent ease, they do not reduce them. Someone who is good with numbers, a natural housewife, a great organizer or has a natural way with people who have talents that many others envy and would be happy to have dominated.
The others can look to us and see the final result, the capacity of calm to the face, the person who classifies problems, for all the time delivery of a good result. And, however, even when you admire our skills and skills, we can only see ourselves as simple that consists of this recognition.
In a work scenario, colleagues can see us as a coach or supervisor, someone who is competent in a certain set of skills, always happy to train others about good levels of competition and competition. While we can be well opened on our skill level, which can be considered as an expert in our field and be very considerate as such. We can reject this purpose, we have done this for a long period of time, but it is also a level of experience that has requested hard work. I appreciate your appreciation!
Socially we can admire the others who are richer, more attractive, or a whistle, but if we are doing it, they could be looking for our worthy features, find them attractive and convincing. They can love our values, they branch our easier lifestyle, our sense of humor, intelligence, and company. They see us through their lens, without lying down for our doubts and insecurities.
And, and if someone in the family is an academic, on the way to become an ascending star, and not! Do you seem a failure, less achieved because you won't go to college or will you continue to a professional career? But others can sincerely envy their sports skills, their artistic skills, their relaxed approach to life, and their natural style in areas where they do not have special talents. There is a need for the full range of skills, and each has its place in a rounded society.
The acceptance of praise, comments, and positive attention can be difficult since we wonder if it is true and sincere. We can really believe that people also think about us, say so incredible things about us! Yes, the self-deprecation to small doses is good, even sometimes. But learning to trust and be comfortable with honors, recognition and positive feedback are also attractive. A smile as they say. "Thank you, everything is needed is often.
Susan Leigh, South Manchester Counselor, Hypnotapeuta, Relationship Counselor, Writer & Media Collaborator offers help with relationship problems, stress management, assertiveness, and confidence. You work with individual customers, couples and provide workshops and corporate support.
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