My story today is simple, although in many opportunities I want to not have to get upset for nothing some things happen that make me think that it is difficult to bear in some opportunities not to want to scream and say some barbarities to that person that has made you lose your control.

I just take a deep breath and try to get my brain oxygenated so I don't have to do things that can't be fixed later.

Today I was very upset with a person who has been in my family for a long time but has not learned to be grateful for what she has. I have hired her for many years and paid her more than a household worker should be paid. I only do it because I appreciate her and I know she has a lot of problems at home.

The catch is, when she decides to get upset and blame me for her current bad situation. Since I like to fix things quickly, I waited until the afternoon when she was already resting from her chores and explained to her with my calmness that her problem was not what I pay her but that she has not been able to properly deal with her family.

She has a brother with Alzheimer's of around 70 years of age who she’s taking care of, but also a nephew of around 40 years of age and his own dog have come to live with her, she is the only one who feeds them all with the money she earns here.

According to the accountant, he tells me that I am paying her more than double what she is legally entitled to but she doesn't see it. This isn´t new, this is how it always was; I have always given her more than what any other person in her position should be payed, according to the law.

So today I decided to break down what she earns and little by little tell her what she should be earning and what I am giving her. For being supportive, she can go to any legal place and they can advise her of what she earns and what she is getting. She doesn't want to do that so she will continue to believe she is undervalued.

I was talking to her and told her that she should fix the problem with her family, what a person earns here in my country is not enough to pay for the consumption of a family of four, let alone when you’re the only one working to support said family. Keep in mind she has these issues even after I paid her more than double of what she should be being paid, after being paid more than what a normal person earns on their job.

I cannot take on her family problems and fix her life economically more than I am already helping her.

I don't think I am doing anything wrong; I consulted my accountant who pointed out that I am paying much more than what other people pay their household employees.

This would not have upset me any more but for the fact that I had a very bad night. First, I was stricken with abdominal pain characteristic of gastritis so I had to get up and take a gastric protector, then both my lower limbs began to ache. I tried to wait for them to relax but the pain kept increasing. I had to get up again and take an anti-inflammatory and muscle relaxant medication and to top it all off, I was getting a headache. It was past midnight and I was still waiting for my pains to subside until sleep overcame me and I woke up at 5am. My kitty is not forgiving at that hour, so he then begs for me to take him outside to the garden and from there he goes to the street.

So, I had a bad night and a bad morning. I am calm now, I talked to her about things and now I want to be well at home. I made her see that as long as she keeps allowing everyone in her family to keep abusing her, she will not improve her situation… and the raises I give her, all of the gifts and help I give and have given her all of these years, as well as my thanks, get left behind and forgotten because she thinks she should be earning more and she is not.

I am very sorry, so many people who before finding out well what their situation is as a domestic employee decide to have altercations with their employer and then they find out when they lose everything.

It’s something more of my life that I wanted to share with you.

Thank you for reading.

I am @gertu13 from Venezuela to the world.