We all have different ways of thinking, of living, of directing our lives. Very often we tend to have opinions and disagree about the way of life of people or other families around us. I used to have that habit. I didn't like how someone spoiled such and such a person, I didn't like how some people behaved with others and so I criticized many ways of others.
Until a thought came to my mind... who assures me that I am the one who is right? Who has the right to say that a person's behavior and way of being is the right one?
When these questions came to my mind they were like a way to silence the other part of me, the unwelcome criticism. Why should I criticize the way of life of others? Why don't I just live my life and respect the lives of others?
I think this decision was the best one I made. Thinking about what a normal thing or behavior is, or what is an unsuitable condition, made me spend and waste a lot of time of my life thinking inappropriately.
We all think differently. We all act differently in similar situations. Even though in some aspects of life we may have the same opinion as many other people, there are always some points that are different, because everyone has their own way of looking at life and seeing their own realities in their lives.
We are very much alike, we have similar families, we even have pets at home that seem to be the same as those of other families. But it so happens that all these family members function in a different way. They act in the way that for them is their normal way of living.
In the way we learn to live our lives, we also learn to value and respect the lives of others. Destructive criticism, or advice from some on how to improve the way others live without waiting to be asked for this advice is really very disrespectful.
To intervene in the development of the coexistence of another family we must wait to be invited to give an opinion on the subject. Any inclusion in the living habits of other people that we don’t like can be taken offensively by the person in discussion and end up as a dispute. Pointing out what I don't like about you and thus disputing each other's way of life. Disputes don’t solve differences.
There is a standard of living, a way of life. We all have a home, a father, a mother, children, pets. In living together we learn to establish our rules. It’s already difficult to live with another person and we just learn to live and respect their own way of doing things and, if you put a third person in, we don’t realize how they make it even more difficult.
What makes us to be tolerant with our family? Love. As we grow up in a family environment with all the altercations due to existing differences, love is the only thing that will keep the family together. With this in mind, anything can be settled in a dispute if we have enough love for that person. Because then we’ll try to understand their point of view and to support or discern in a respectful way. It will make the burdens easier to bear.
In families many times situations can be solved under the concept of family love, but with neighbors? With friends? This is sometimes a little more difficult.
We must evaluate ourselves before entering into constructive or destructive criticism about the behavior of the people around us, because in the end, instead of solving a conflict situation, this can lead to a conflict that is much more difficult to solve.
Let us live our lives as happily as we can and let others live with their own decisions. Long live family and fraternal life.
Live and let live. No one individual or family is perfect. They may seem ideal, but they likely have struggles of their own. We simply have to strive to do good, be good, and respect one another.