My decisions are my failures and my triumphs.

In life we always have alternatives to the circumstances in which we live. The possibilities to act in one way or another depend on ourselves, the suggestions that other people may give so that we can choose our best path is our own decision, the advice comes from others but the responsibility to choose what is right for us is our own.

I often hear people say "It’s because of this or that person that I made this bad decision". Let me correct you, without wanting to hurt feelings, that the fault, if it exists, is not of someone else, it was your own, you took the advice, you made the path, you did something wrong. It was your decision, it's your life, so it's your bad decision.

And bad decisions are paid for. Mistakes in life are paid for, in what way? In the way that makes us end up in similar situations in order to relieve that day, but this time we can make the best decision…

I remember a post I read from my friend @LykeLyca where she talked about cheating on exams. I was always against cheating on exams, but being in college a "friend" suggested to me that I could cheat on an exam that was patterned. I remember we were cramming for exams and I decided that I would accept my friend's proposition to pay and buy the answers to the exam.

And the worst happened. The friend was caught in the alleged exam theft, one day before the exam. Without being able to study I went to take an exam which of course I did not pass.

But that's not the end of it, it happens that my friend called everyone who was involved in the purchase of the answers and asked us for more money, he said it was the way to buy the silence of the person who found him stealing.

No one knew if this was true or not and whether or not it was all a scam on his part. What is certain is that we all had to pay even more for our mistakes made.

The experience was unpleasant. I never again accepted anything to do with test answers. I always studied, I don't know why I thought that I would not be able to pass the exam on my own, it was a very bad decision that I remember all my life and for the same reason I always taught my son never to do it himself.

These are choices we have in life, we are the only ones who are able to make the best decision. It’s our decision, in the end, bad or good, it is ours.

It is your attitude towards life that makes you make the right decisions. It’s your outlook, whether you assume to be an optimistic or negative person, life brings with it many unpleasant moments, spending our lives with the option of feeling sorry for ourselves, of complaining, of holding grudges… this brings nothing but more difficult moments to a life that is not simpler because we do not let it be.

 It is your choice whether you want to believe in a God who accompanies us or not to believe in Him. All my experiences with God lead me to believe in him much more. Or you may not want to have or refuse to have an experience with him, it’s your decision in the face of your personal events that will dictate your course of action.

I made the decision to have my son without a father, since he did not take any responsibility. But since I wanted to have my son, I made the decision to educate him, nurture him and make him a good man. I never regretted my decision to go through so many hardships to raise a son without a father.

Today he is a 21 year old man. He is about to finish his college education in computer engineering, he is starting to earn his first paycheck from his first job.

And now we see each other's faces and we say to each other that soon there will be no more college expenses. That means there will be more money in savings.

And today while I was making lunch, a special moment for my son and me, we both stopped everything we were doing to dedicate ourselves to cooking. In those moments we talk about many things that happen to us. And in view of so many things to come, I heard something from my son that made my heart grow fonder.

Wisdom can come from anywhere. Listening to others is always important because behind their words there can be something so important to learn, and today I learned something from my son.

As we talk he just tells me... “Now those dreams aren’t a waiting to come true anymore, now they’re our plans."

I stared at him, and just said “It's true, now we no longer have things in a distant thought. Now it is, tomorrow, the day after tomorrow the next thing is pending and also such and such must be done”

And it is all part of the position we have in life, whether we feel defeated or feel negative in the face of adversity, whether we feel that we cannot do it alone. Or to say I can do it, I will do it, my son and I made it and we overcame many difficult times, the two of us always together.

And always hand in hand with my Lord God, whom I do not allow myself to leave even for a moment. Today it is my turn to say that my dreams are now my plans.

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