Excessive Parental Control Is Child Torture

"No parent wants their child to be in pain." That's what we usually heard...

There are parents who are stone-cold. There are parents who will give up everything for the sake of their child. There are parents who will let their children affected by their bad experiences. While others just go with the flow, those parents who don't care about their kids.

To Children...

The parent remains the parent, and the child remains the child. Parents must fulfill their obligations for you, and you must fulfill your obligations as a child. Regardless of what happens, parents are our parents whom we must respect. They are the reason why we exist on this planet. Our mothers gave birth to us, and our fathers supports us in every steps we take.

But... What if your parents are serious burden in your miserable existence?

Parents killing children's dreams! It is the role of parents to raise their children. They wield considerable power through all aspects of one‘s adolescent development. Children scrutinize and understand every thought and deed taken by their parents as objective facts. Whatever their parents told, their children will listen. They're considering they know exactly what's going to take place in the future when they don't quite. Some of you do not agree with what I've said but, this is the truth. Why not ask your children what they want? What is in their hearts? We parents also learn to listen to our children. Let’s not be too strict with everything they want to do. Avoid saying "you can't, this is what you can". They're the ones know what they want and can do, respect their decisions too.

When parents go too far and try to regulate each facet of their parenting choices, they turn authoritarian parenting. Overbearing parents are emotionally and psychologically unresponsive to their child's welfare. They limit, abrogate, and subvert the psychological experiences of the children. They also impede the individual feelings. Controlling parents use culpability, pleasure pullout, frustration, disapprobation, and stigmatizing to try and control their views and preferences, thinking, or suggestions thru the parent-child connection. They strive to maintain their children emotionally dependant and entwined with them.

I sympathize if you are the miserable child of strict parents. Since they are totally dependent on their parents, adolescents find it hard to connect with controlling parenting through their own. Seeking counseling at school or seeing a health professional can help.

I know many who have their controlling parents. That is proven, that the results of being so strict are not good for children. I as a parent, I never get tired of finding a solution to the problem on my own. I don’t want to be a reason for my children to be rebellious. That is why I love to read and ask questions about parent-kid experiences.