Drama = Trauma

I encounter so many dramas in my life that I don't watch drama movies or series just because of this. My movie searches are mostly in the genres of science fiction, action, adventure and nature.

During my journey here I had the chance to read some shared family dramas, which are often touching and sad.

It can be a very tearful scene, as it would be the biggest pain for a child to not see his/her mother or father for various reasons, to lose them early or vice versa, or for a mother or father to lose their child. No parent should see their child slip out of life.

In family dramas, one or both parties often have more than one fault, with some exceptions. These mistakes repeat and start to create drama, and when it comes to marriage, the most affected parties are children.

You cannot tell any child about the incompatibility between the parents and the separation as a result, for them, the opposite of conflict and separation is to be without a mother or father and to grow up away from the family environment.

I am the only single child in our family, I have 3 sisters and 1 brother. As a result of their marriage, I have 7 nephews. Unlike my other siblings, I like being single, it gives me the freedom to live my life with the flow as it puts less responsibility on me. But the fact that you don't have a child increases your responsibility towards your nephews, I can show myself as an example because I have the opportunity to experience this.

7 Among my nephews, 2 of them are very special, they are more like sons to me than nephews. The reason for this is a drama for the family. My sister gave birth to 2 boys from her marriage. When one of them was 3 years old and the other 1 year old, their father left them behind and completely disappeared from their lives.

Being without a father at the age of 1 and 3 is the same as not knowing your father at all in your life, they never knew their father, I can guess that he is alive and where he lives, but because I would not meet someone who left his whole family behind with good feelings, we removed the father figure and personality from our lives. Since my nephews do not have a father figure in their lives, they are very much influenced by my life and what I do.

My nephews, who were 3 and 1 years old when they were abandoned by their father, are 14 and 12 today. The 14-year-old is already over my height and goes to Health Vocational High School, I don't know exactly what the father character means to them because we never talk about this in front of them. Both know that their father is alive, but they have not made any effort to even see it in the picture until today, and I do not want to offend or upset them about this.

We are currently trying to renovate a house we bought for them, we are trying to change some of its interior parts and renew parts such as kitchen and bathroom. Natural gas floors just finished. So they will get rid of living in rent with their mother and they will be promoted to be family. My sister's income is enough to provide her and her 2 children with an ideal standard of living. That's why they need moral support more than any financial support, and we are with all their brothers and sisters in providing this moral support. I love him and the 2 nephews he has with a little more privilege.

I will share a more detailed article about the renovation work in their house in the coming days, I took some pictures, but the renovation process was a bit delayed due to my corona and recovery process. In this process, my nephew, who was the biggest support, gave me the biggest support. Since my house is on the way to the school he goes to, he always asked my needs in front of the door and met some of them every time he went to school and on his way back.

Although we say, show and make them feel at every opportunity that there is nothing missing in their lives and that all our support will be with them, we do not know how the emptiness of the father they do not know has had an effect on them. Is it a correct method for them not to talk about these issues with us and for us to never open the issue so as not to upset them? Sometimes I think about the answer to this question and I take the sadness of the drama films that I do not watch and stay away from myself.

I don't know the answer to the question of how to make up for the lack of one of the family members, since my whole life has been spent in a family that is connected with everything. Is it because they are close to each other at the ages of 12 and 14, or because it is a form of fatherlessness? Unknown, as two brothers, they are very attached to each other and have an overprotective instinct. Although this has caught the attention of all of us as a family, not being able to do anything and just watching increases our sadness.

I still think that their lives were influential in my being single and acting far from marriage. People should know that responsibilities get heavier when they get married and when they have children, these responsibilities will become much heavier and they should act accordingly. There is no rule that every marriage will continue until death, but when you become a parent, you should know that this is a responsibility that will continue until you die.

It should not be forgotten that every child left behind is a wreck and that difficult stages such as cleaning and re-emergence go through. We have been raising 2 lion parts that can be beneficial to the family, our beliefs and humanity since they were abandoned at the age of 3 and 1, but we know very well the difficulty of this process. This process is our most painful and challenging experience.

Thank you for reading.