It is almost impossible to control our emotions. How can we do this? We already have these feelings from birth, controlling and managing is not a valid action for our emotions.
Anger is just one of the emotions we have. Depending on our anger level, we can sometimes tend to get out of control and fail at the point of anger control. Our anger often succeeds in igniting events that we will regret later.
Think of a football match that is watched by millions and is very important. In a balanced fight, one of the players cannot contain his anger and is ejected by cursing his opponent or the referee. The enraged player broke the rules for himself and made his job difficult in the fight, provided that his team was missing on the field. When you look at it, succumbing to his anger has damaged both himself and his team. As it is a serious violation, the player will not be able to be on the field in the next matches.
So what made him do this? It is when he succumbs to his anger and cannot think clearly from the moment he gets angry.
Imagine that someone who gets angry in a double argument smashes the phone in his hand against the wall or the floor at that moment. What was it that required him to do this to the device he was constantly using and was going to use? Of course, it was anger. Again, he succumbed to his anger and could not control his anger. When he calms down, he will regret it so much that the first thing he will do is have his phone repaired or buy a new one. (I have an extreme dislike for those who take their anger out on any object)
When angered, those who use their physical superiority over the other party, that is, those who use physical and verbal violence, face the disease, so urgent treatment is a must, a necessity and a necessity. Even if they do not accept it themselves, it should be applied by being persuaded by family members or friends to receive this treatment. If this is not successful, anger control should be provided by punishing these people, if necessary, by the force of law enforcement upon the request of the person or persons they have harmed. At the very least, it would be appropriate for both themselves and the other party to be removed from those they have the potential to harm.
At the point of providing anger control, the awareness that people are responsible for themselves should be placed at an early age. Because no matter what age group you are, the feeling of anger can never be destroyed. It will always appear as one of the elements that determine our personality. To get this feeling under control, talk to people with whom you feel close to your feelings. As you share your emotion, you will find that it diminishes and becomes controllable.
Especially listen to people with whom you may have outbursts of anger and express yourself to them. You can easily explain what might make them and you angry with a friendly conversation. It is clear that no one will be harmed by such a conversation. If you explain your anger to the other party adequately and correctly, your anger will be reasonable for the other party. Your reaction to an event that you know the reasons for will be more limited.
You should know how to digest the reactions of the people in your common living spaces, and you should be able to see the development and processes in the problems experienced. What you are trying to do here is to try to control your anger instead of destroying it. Once anger control is achieved, you will not have any problems with anger.
When it comes to anger management, I think patience is very important, patience will delay anger. I think you can learn the subject of patience with the best angling. How do I know this? Of course, from myself. I have a hobby of angling that has been going on for years, a passion such that it's the most time I've ever spent on any hobby. Fishing line, sometimes thrown from the shore and sometimes from the boat, is the ideal method to test your patience in fishing. Your patience will already provide you with an automatic anger management mechanism. It's better to be patient than sorry, right?
Thank you for your patience and time spent reading the article.
is keeping quiet helps?