As kids, our parents have been our first confidante, they we're probably the only person whom we trust. Whenever we have a problem, we ran to them to ask for advice and at the same time we have confidence that it's okay to trust and tell them how we feel.
However as we grow older, things change. Children are oftentimes annoyed by their parent's nagging, some think that their parents does not understand how they feel. Sometimes it's just too hard to communicate with them especially when you are talking and trying to tell them something and they will cut you off. So talking to them usually ends up into arguments. There are also instances when children wants to gain more freedom but it seems like it's too hard to gain their trust.
When children encounter this, at times, we think that the easiest way to avoid arguments is not to talk to our parents and do things behind their back to avoid the restrictions.
Our parents loves us very much so they want what's the best for us. That's why they give those house rules, chores, curfews, reminders, correction and they discipline us if needed.
Sometimes, we may not come in agreement with our parents and we get frustrated because of that. But here's the thing - how we view our parents affects how much we obey and reapect them.
What can help us to get along well with our parents?
We should try to change the way we view them.
Should we consider our parents as prison guards or life guards?
Prison guards were trained to get a close watch to the prisoners because they dont really trust them. They keep them confined with many restrictions. And they dictate what prisoners should do like when to get up, when and what to eat and tells them what to do and when to do things. It's really hard when someone is keeping an eye on everything you do, it's frustrating because you do not know what and how to act properly. Same with parents, we may sometimes view them like prison guards because we feel like their keeping us from doing what we want and it seems like they are watching all our moves. This happens when we are seeking for more freedom and independence.
But what of we view our parents as life guards? Just like prison guards they are also trained to watch over people but they have a different purpose. Their purpose is to keep people safe especially the swimmers. They are trained to look after the swimmers and keep them from danger. Our parents can also be likened to lifeguards who guards and warns us against the dangers we are not even aware of.
When we view our parents in a positive way, it will help us to see that what they are doing are all for our sake and it will help us to give them more respect. We can do what the bible passage says "honor your father and your mother".
P.S. This is something I learned from a virtual convention I've attended yesterday. I'm inspired by it and thought of sharing it with you all.
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Parents only do things because they are guarding us, there are some things I cannot understand before but when I became a parent myself I did understand those things I cannot understand before. Our parents are our lifeguard it's just that sometimes they went overboard.