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Written by   536
4 months ago

"One of the best things about friendship is that age doesn't matter."

Jai and her drawing ❣️

I was inspired to write this because of this four-year old kid. Her name is Jaira. She's my neighbor, and she comes to our house every day to play with my 10-year-old little sister and my cousin who currently lives with us. Unlike other kids here, I'm very fond of her because she's very smart and talkative, but she doesn't play with the things around that is not appropriate for playing. I hate kids who doesn't know the value of self-discipline and are very naughty when their parents are not around, so I seldom allow kids to go inside the house. And I don't allow my sister to play with them either. But Jai is different, at a young age, she is well-disciplined and knows how to behave herself even without her mom's supervision. And she's not a crybaby too! My brother often tease her, but she doesn't cry easily. So I often invite her to come and play with my little sister and I even feed her with the foods I cook, it's just that, she refuse most of the time.

Last night, she came to our house again but my brother who is very fond of teasing and bullying others made fun of Jai and kept on teasing her until she cried so much. We even thought that she's probably not coming here today because of what happened last night. But we're surprised when she came today with a piece of paper on her hand, saying: “Hey, I drew us together because you're my friends and I want to give this to you so that if my family moves to a different house again, you will still remember me, and we can still be friends forever.”

She's so sweet. I didn't expect her to consider me as her friend too because I'm 21 years older than her. But when I think about it, age doesn't matter when it comes to friendship actually.

I'm sure that most of us have friends. How do you look for friends? Do you only consider your peers are your friends? Other says that they don't want to be friends with people who are older than them because they may not be able to understand each other since older people are sometimes kill joy. And they don't want to be friends with someone who way younger than them because younger people tend to be childish. Or are you someone who doesn't care about age and make friends with almost anyone?

The Quest for True Friends

  • Quality over quantity. What is meant by this? Some people want to get a lot of friends. They love meeting people, being in a big group and having lots of friends. But today's world is unfriendly. I've observed some people who gave a lot of friends because he/she is well-off, but when something bad or a misfortune happens, those so-called friends disappears and only few remains. It is usually hard to find a true friend. Having a few but real friends would be better than having a lot but untrue. As the saying goes: 'Friends in need are friends indeed!” Strive to gain real friends that will always be there when you need them.

  • Be a true friend yourself. If you want to gain true friends who are loyal and trusts you as well You should try to be one yourself. Give what you want to take.

  • Choose your friends wisely. A bible passage says 'Bad associations destroys good habits', this shows how vital it is to carefully choose our close friends. Friends are usually the people who we often talk and communicate with. And people are like sponge who can easily absorb what's in the environment. If we always associate ourselves with people (or friends) with bad attitude and qualities. There's a tendency that we may imitate them and our good qualities will be lost. And we don't want that to happen of course.

  • Don’t look for friends only among people of your own age or background. Like what I already mentioned earlier, some tends to get friendly only around their peers — people with the same age as them. But it would also be good to have friends from various age because you'll learn so much from them. I have friends who are even 10 to 20 years older than me, but we get along very well. I learn a lot of lessons that are valuable in life because of them. I also love to hear about their experiences when they are younger. And yet, I also have friends who we're way younger than me, I have some friends who are still in high school and I also enjoy being in their company.

During a friend's wedding. These are all my friends which age ranges from 16-55
  • Be realistic. We can't expect someone to be perfect in today's world. 'Nobody is perfect' as the saying goes. So when we have close friendship with people, don't expect perfection from them, instead, we should work hard to keep the bonds alive. If our friend made a mistake, we should forgive them. And if needed, we may also give them advice and counsel which may be beneficial to them. Always remember that whenever we give advice, we should do it in a loving way. And if we are the o e who made a mistake and our friend forgave us, we should do our best not to repeat the same offense again in the future.

  • Focus on the positive qualities of our friends. As what I already mention earlier, no one's perfect. Our friends may have a negative as well, but to have a lasting friendship, we should not focus and always point out their flaws, focus on the positive instead, and they will surely do the same for us as well.

  • A true friend will always help us to become a better individual. Think about this, does your friend help you to bring the best in you and helps you to be a better person? If not, then it may be time for you to think about your friendship over again.

"A true friend shows love at all times, and is a brother that is born for times of distress." This is my most favorite quote about friendship and I'm happy to have few but real friends. I'm also happy that I found few good friends in this platform, you know who you are, I will not mention names as I'm afraid to overlook some. But I want to thank you all for being my friends and for always showing support 💕

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Eso es tan dulce de su parte a una edad muy joven, es tan considerada y es algo muy agradable. De repente recordé a mi mejor amiga de primaria. Es tan considerada como Jai que me dio un cuaderno para que pudiera escribirle mis historias no dichas. Pero no tengo ese cuaderno conmigo ahora, fue hace mucho tiempo. También tengo buenos amigos después de ella. Sin embargo, solo consideraba a algunos de ellos como mi mejor amigo.

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3 months ago

Dear friend, this is indeed an awesome story about friendship. I don't have a lot of friends as I tend to be a loner at times. But I want to find true friends that I can always count on.

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3 months ago

friendship is a gift from God.not everyone have opportunities to have a good friend in life

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3 months ago

Such a sweet kid. But age really doesn't matter in bonds, really. I mean, most of my closest friends are older or younger than me by a few years yet we still have the time of our lives when we see each other

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4 months ago

That's so sweet of her at a very young age she's so thoughtful and it's pretty nice thing. I suddenly remembered my elementary bestfriend. She's so thoughtful like Jai, she gave me a notebook so that I can write down my unsaid stories for her. But I don't have that notebook with me now, it was long ago. I also have good friends after her. Yet, I only considered few of them as my best friend. 😊

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4 months ago

In my life, i only have 3 real and true friends 😅 bahala na kunti bsta hndi plastic..daming friends nga, pro d ko tinuturing na true.. yung 3 lng tlga..for better and for worse anjan sla

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4 months ago

I love my friends and I also prefer the Quality over Quantity.

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4 months ago

Without friend life is impossible

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4 months ago

So lovely from the kid ❤️

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4 months ago

Yannn, yung tinuring mo sya kaibigan tapos sya plastic pala at kung ano anong pinagkakalat sa ibang tao about sa akin, di bale ng 1 o 2 ang kaibigan basta sana totoo at pwd mong sandalan pag kailangan mo ng kaibigan. Ako di naman bumabase sa age ee, minsan nga may old na mas makulit pang kaibigan kesa sa kaedadan mo, haha. Sska maganda ding kaibigan ang mas nay edad sayo kasi pag nagka problema ka, may mahihingian ka ng advice doon sa mas may experience sayo.

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4 months ago

Yun lang haha buti na lang wala akong ganyang kaibigan 😅 Mapamili kasi talaga ako sa mga kaibigan ko. Tsaka madalas mga hindi ko sila kaedad. Mas masaya talaga kapag mas matanda sayo ang mga kaibigan mo. Actually yung ibang nasa 30s 40s and 50s, gusto nila makipagkaibigan sa mga bata pa kasi kapag yung mga kaedad nila puro chismis at mga pampamilyang usapan, pero kapag mga mas bata pa, wholesome lagi ang usapan at feeling din nila mas bumabata daw sila 😁

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4 months ago

Ay wala din naman na akong kaibigan pili malang din, lalo na ngayon ahaha, iilan lang talaga. Umay na din sila na puro chismis nalang ano, mas maganda din talaga yung mga friend na mau sense kausap hindi yung puro paninirang puri ang alam gawin sa iba. Saka yong mga experience nila maikukwento din nila sayo, may aral pa na makukuha haha.

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