Each one of us already know what bullying is.

Bullying is when people repeatedly and intentionally use words or actions against someone.

Mostly, bullying occurs in school, where children learn how to interact with the other kids and free to choose new circle of friends.

I know that no parents want their child/ren to be bullied by any chance.

But what if one day, your child's school teacher calls you and tell you that your child is a bully?

No parent wants to hear that her child is a bully. It’s painful to think of your child causing harm on other kids. Some parents will take the stance of denial or feel that others are against their child.

Take a deep breath, you don't need to dwell with your child's teacher, consider bullying as a serious matter. Think about the possibilities, it can really happen.

It takes a brave and an open parent to realize that their child has a problem and will accept the truth that they need help.

What to do if your child is bullying others?

Take immediate action and address the bullying

Talk with your child right away once you know that your child has bullied other kids. Explain to your child what bullying is, and that this act is unacceptable and will not be tolerated. Just listen to his side and avoid putting the blame on him.

When talking to your child avoid any shameful language and try to keep calm.

Find out the Root Cause

You need to determine the very reason why your child chose to bully other kids. There are possible reasons why your child became a bully. He can be a one if he became a bully-victim, or he attempted to be popular at school or be a part of a small group of kids whom he shared interests with.

Talk about Bullying as a Choice

Always remind your child that they are responsible for their actions. No matter what is the reason behind their bullying, they need to recognize that bullying was a choice they made.

Teach your Child about Empathy

Try to instill in your child to empathize the kids he has bullied. Let him acknowledge their pain. Perhaps the best thing you can do is to teach him to acknowledge how the other kids feel when they are bullied by him.

You can also teach him the Golden rule.

“do unto others as you would have them do unto you” (Matt. 7:12).

Lose his privileges

Taking away gadgets, electronics or the privilege of using the social media usually effective techniques. This is to demonstrate that bullying has consequences and not tolerated. Just be sure that once you take something away, you do not give in later. Stick to your decision.

Do not Shame your Child

Many parents are shaming their kids when they found out their bad doings. But always remember, shaming is a form of bullying too and should not be used in disciplining you child.

Shaming is not useful discipline strategies instead, kids will learn that it is acceptable to humiliate others.

The discipline starts at home. Always give time to your child, for some kids are begging your attention too. If you're a busy parent, make sure to give and make time for your children. No parents wish to raised a bully and no parents want their child to be bullied.

Always talk to your child and encourage him to talk openly. Bullying can happen face to face. It can also happen online - this is called cyberbullying.

If you don't have time to do it right, when will you have time to do it over?

Stop the bullying immediately.

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