What a Woman Feels when Neglected

July 9, 2021
Friday

In any relationship, whether marriage, family, or partners, there are aspects needed to be fulfilled to make the connection or the bond grows. And honestly speaking, as a married woman, being a mum and a spouse is very challenging in some ways especially when you feel you are neglected emotionally.

Probably, it's one of the things I resisted to happen.

Couples have emotional desires to be fulfilled, a little care matters a lot, and a simple kind gesture makes a huge impact on your partner. And even listening and paying attention is a must!

What if you’re being ignored? What we women feel when we’re ignored?

Being ignored is one of the most hurtful feelings anyone in a relationship could feel. I know you will agree with me, we don’t want to be disregarded right? As we people are very tender beings, especially women, are too emotional, when we're being neglected we will attain negative emotions right after.

If you’re a man who’s in a relationship, have you ever ignored your girlfriend’s feelings even for once? If not, you’re such a great man, but if yes, avoid doing such. We, ladies, hate not being listened to. I guess no one wants to undergo it.

And it’s a heavy feeling to see no one gives attention to on your side or with your feelings. And for me, it’s like an insult, being ignored especially when you’re still conversing. And it will leave a deep scar right inside that no one knows except the one who’s talking.

When a misunderstanding arises in couples, the power of listening is very crucial. To make things better, both sides must listen and acknowledge what went wrong and look for solutions together. But when no one dares to let off their egos, and no one wants to hear another, the relationship might weaken or break.

Communication is very important in the society and relationship needs good communication to build a better or even a great bond. And when emotional neglect happens more often, there’ll be effects that might affect the person who suffered from being neglected emotionally.

Look who's talking here, I’m not an expert about relationships though I am married and a mom our relationship sometimes struggles too.

When a woman feels her feelings were being avoided she will likely find it hard to express and convey her feelings and end up suffering from her heavy emotions alone. And truthfully, I’ve been through this, it was difficult and seems like a battle but the only one who’s with me as I. And when we have misunderstandings, I can’t assert my feelings directly and I ended up fighting with my emotions independently. Because if you feel like no one listens to you, you'll start to assume that your words won’t matter to them anymore so you’ll just let it pass and moved on.

Then after that, neglect will be developed into overthinking. Most women, not all though commonly, are over thinkers and honestly, it’s not a healthy feeling too. Since their opinions and feelings were neglected, overthinking will probably enter their messed-up minds. And mostly, the thoughts will be pessimistic. There comes an idea of giving up, self-harm, self-doubt, and devaluing self-worth.

When a woman’s feelings are not heard, she will suffer difficulty in trusting her feelings to someone, as she was not being listened to, she will be afraid to tell her honest impressions and feelings as she might end up being judged. This is when fear of being rejected comes in.

No one wants to be rejected and I know we all know how heavy it is to be rejected especially by someone that matters to us the most. What more for women who are staying at home? For the women who gave up their careers just to attend to the family their whole life?

No doubt many women find it hard to overcome stress and depression because I guess; only a few only heard their voices. Because of the fear that grows inside them, a fear to be neglected again. Because if your partner or your better half cares a lot for you, he will listen and show that he cares.

Women are very fragile, very sentimental, and they will become even more emotional after having a family. Working 24/7 without rest, without salary, commission, etc. but women are willing to give up everything, their pride, dreams, and careers just for the sake of the family she has made.  Believe me, a mother's love was bonded with her children from the day she gave birth until a lifetime, and a wife’s heart and care will be on her husband ‘til eternity.

So, when your wife, your girl wanted to tell you, listen. You might not recognize how important it is for her to tell you about what she’s going to say. You will never know her true feelings if you won’t try to hear her out. Especially when you have a wife, to tell you frankly, being at home isn’t easy as you guys think.

We aren’t slacking off the whole day, we don’t leave the living room untidy the whole time, you won’t see it but we have cleaned up the house a couple of times daily especially when there are naughty kids around.

So if your wife told you she’s tired, she is. If your lady told you she wants to rest, let her. Why am I saying these out of a sudden? Simply because these are the most common words a mother or a housewife complains to their man. And these words are mostly neglected.

Because some men thought their wives only putting up some dramas again and again, because they thought, women are just complaining about everything. But remember, there will be no complaints without any reasons unless you chose an immature brat to be your spouse.

Sure, no one is told to marry and have kids, but moms and wives are just humans. For goodness sake, we are not robots and can be rechargeable! We can’t just put off and put in new batteries to function again.

So as things aren’t that worst, start to listen and care for your woman. Your workmates, your games or phones, your friends mostly won’t be there on your worst, they’ll mostly present only in your happiness. But your wife will always be there, and often you neglect her presence because you’re too busy making money and making memories with your circle of colleagues. Never forget why you asked for her hand while you two were still dating.

Show her that you care, show her how much you love her, and be the man of your words. Listen, it's just the least you can do to help her find solace in your arms.

Written by: @eommaZel ✍🏻🥀