A Sentimental Monday

December 7, 2020

Monday

The weather was still gloomy today and the cool breeze of the month continues to give us coldness throughout the day. While listening to some Christmas songs on my phone, my mom turned on the television. She's watching a noontime show and there's a segment where there are seven participants (I'm not sure about this) and they must be judged by the contestant.

It was a typical show, a game show, however, their topic makes me sad. The contestant must guess if who among those participants has gone through a miscarriage before.

The game started and the contestant also began to choose her chosen guessed of choices. While the game was still rolling, I'm there outside on the balcony, putting to sleep my little boy in a hammock, but I can't help but listen to the television. The sound and everything they say is so clear from my location. I listened to their stories and it makes me feel blue.

It would be hurtful for a mom, or for both parents to lose an unborn baby. Women are very fragile individuals. The body and the figure will eventually change drastically if she'll carry a child in her womb. Everything that she does must be full of carefulness. Because she's only not caring for herself but for her unborn too.

But what if you did everything but still lose?

As I listened to their stories on how they reacted when they found out that their babies have no heartbeat inside the womb, I can feel their agony deep inside. I'm a mother too, and I can say that pregnancy and giving birth are very complicated parts of being a woman.

They told their stories of miscarriage, and most of them said that they found out that their babies have no heartbeat inside their womb. Most ladies said they found out about it on their second or third month of pregnancy. While there's one who founds out about it during her eight months of pregnancy. In my personal experiences, pregnancy is very delicate however, it is more sensitive in the first to the following trimester. You need to be extra careful of what you eat and what you do. And that stage of pregnancy or trimester is prone to miscarriage.

Their stories made me recall what happened two years ago. A sad occurrence came about our family.

Last 2018, my cousin's wife have her first pregnancy. As I have experience of being pregnant, and as a mom, she always consulted with me about her sentiments, asked some questions about her gestation. I told her to directly have her checked by an ob gyne or in the health center. However, she didn't follow what I've said. One day in her third month of pregnancy, she hurried to my house and asked me about something. Her face was very awful and worried. She has light bleeding, I told her to rush to the nearest clinic. She's completely out of her mind, she told me the bleeding has stopped, but still, I insisted, warned her that she shouldn't be complacent. She must look after her unborn child's condition. Then after an hour or two, she came back together with my cousin. I instructed them on what to do, I knew they were in a panic that time. They went to our family's gynecologist. The gynecologist checked her baby's heartbeat through a device however, he didn't hear anything. She was requested to undergo an ultrasound to checked her baby's condition inside. Sadly, the result came out and the baby has no heartbeat inside. They can't believe it, they're doubtful about the result, so I told them to have a second opinion. They went to the hospital and the gynecologist there told them that she will give her some medications for her to take. She said it could be that the baby's heartbeat was still weak that's why it couldn't have been heard nor seen in the ultrasound. However, days passed and my cousin's wife felt extreme pain. Unfortunately, she loses the baby. She has a miscarriage. But months after, they are blessed again with a baby boy and he turned 1 year old this year.

*The good thing about it was, women who suffered a miscarriage can still be pregnant, however, the history of miscarriage will most likely to happen again. They need to be more careful and take care of themselves very well.

How and Why Miscarriage Happens

Miscarriage is an occurrence that results in the loss of a fetus before 20 weeks of pregnancy. Mostly, it happens during the early trimester or the first three months of the pregnancy.

A miscarriage occasionally takes place because a fertilized egg did not properly form a fetus. In many cases, the activity of the fetal heart stopped days or weeks before the indications or symptoms of miscarriage started.

The most common reason for pregnancy loss is a problem with the chromosomes that would make it impossible for the fetus to develop normally. Other aspects that could contribute to a miscarriage include unnatural or abnormal hormone levels in the mother.

Can you prevent it to happen?

Of course! you can, however, there are some instances that it can occur for a variety of medical reasons, many of which aren’t within someone's control.

No one wants a miscarriage to happen, most especially if you're ready-to-be parents. If you want your wife (if men) or you to have a safe pregnancy, it's significant to know the risk factors, signs, and causes can help you to understand better about this better.

Signs of Miscarriage

• heavy spotting

• vaginal bleeding

• discharge of tissue or fluid from your vagina

• severe abdominal pain or cramping

• mild to severe back pain

*Signs and symptoms of a miscarriage vary depending on what stage of pregnancy a woman is in. Several may not recognize that they are pregnant before they miscarry.

What causes a miscarriage

In this delicate time, pregnancy, there can be certain things that heighten the risks of miscarriage.

The fetus doesn't develop normally. During pregnancy, a woman's body is the one who supplies the hormones and nutrients in the developing fetus for him to grow. However, there are cases where the fetus doesn't develop normally and that resulted in a miscarriage.

Some reasons why it doesn't develop normally is genetic or chromosome issues.

Problems with the placenta can similarly lead to a miscarriage too.

Underlying conditions and lifestyle habits. There are specific conditions that can obstruct the development of the fetus which includes the following:

Poor diet or Malnutrition. The fetus needs nutrients to develop, that's why pregnant women need a proper diet and consume only healthy foods.

Drug and alcohol use. Some women are very careless of their pregnancy. I also seen some, drinking alcoholic beverages during pregnancy, and smoking. Doing these things will have a negative impact not only on her overall health but on her unborn child too. Avoid these activities if you want to have a safer pregnancy.

Obesity. In the segment I've mentioned above, there's an Ob gyne ready to answer their queries. About the miscarriage that occurred in the last trimester (8 months of pregnancy), the gynecologist explained that this could be due to some maternal issues. If the mother is obese, most likely, she will have a higher blood pressure which could lead to hypertension, and that can cause miscarriage too or early labor.

Some cases occurred because of advanced maternal age, untreated thyroid disease, issues with hormones, uncontrolled diabetes, infections, trauma, problems with the cervix, abnormally shaped uterus, severe, and food poisoning.

Tips for a Healthy Pregnancy

Before you can take care of your new baby, you need to take care of yourself and your unborn child first. Here are some tips for a healthy pregnancy from your eommaZel. 🤍

• Have yourself and unborn baby checked regularly. Never miss an appointment with your OB or the health center.

• Take a prenatal vitamin. Your Ob or healthcare worker might prescribe you to take a vitamin. Take them and always pay attention to the doses.

• Exercise regularly. Although there will be times where you ain't have the energy to move. It is best to keep moving and exercise your body. You can look for

• Write a birth plan. It is best to be prepared for the upcoming bundle of joy.

• Educate yourself. Try to read some magazines or articles related to pregnancy.

• Change or limit your chores (avoid harsh or toxic cleaners, heavy lifting)

• Limit your caffeine intake and drink plenty of fluids.Drink six 8-ounce glasses of water per day. This is to keep you hydrated.

• Don’t take over-the-counter medications or herbal remedies without medical consultation.

• Eat your healthy food. Eat your veggies, fruits and consume well-balanced meals each day but don’t overeat. You only need 300-500 additional calories per day.

• Get enough sleep. Surely you'll be lacking some sleep after giving birth. So, if you're sleepy take a rest and have enough sleep.

• Avoid bad vices or habits, such as drugs, alcohol, and smoking. Avoid secondhand smoke too it can cause harm to you and your unborn baby.

No doubt pregnancy is one of the best things that can happen to women's life. Some long-awaited for this to happen, the excitement is always there.

No one wants to lose their unborn. The depressing experience of having a miscarriage is something that only those who have been through it can understand. I feel sad for those women who suffered a miscarriage. Losing someone you loved even though you haven't seen him face to face. Their stories brought me too many sentiments today. Losing a baby before they are born, ’s a sorrow and pain, that's what I saw in their eyes while telling their stories. What a sentimental Monday it is today.

“The one who left gentle footprints on our hearts left a story worth telling.” – Unknown

Written by: @eommaZel ✍🏻🥀

Source:

https://www.healthline.com/health/miscarriage