Gone are those days that being a virgin is not just a pride to you but to your parents. But as civilization crept into our societies today, it took away our virgin lands, virgin culture and virgin ladies.
Who should we blame?
Well everyone is to be blamed. But today let me talk about the contributions of parents to this sexual immorality.
*1 Sex Education; Majority of our parents nowadays does not give their children sex education right from their young age. All they are after is western education. Read your book is all they always chant. Thinking that he or she will learn about sexuality through the books that she reads. Now in most schools, this is not thought so the child resolves into learning from social media and the porous society.
*2. Negligence of duty(I don't care attitude): Being a care giver is not just about providing food, shelter nor clothing. It requires you to monitor, educate and guide your wards. Most of our parents nowadays does not care if their children have started engaging into premarital sex. They could even notice a change of behaviour, change of dressing mode and even a change in physical appearance. In as much as their daughter is not impregnated, they are cool. To them, the ones that get impregnated is the wayward child but the ones that knows how to prevent pregnancy is the good child.
*3. Delay of marriage: If you ask some good percentage of guys and ladies why the ain't married, their response will be my parents won't allow me. Yes its true. Some parents will even tell you "how old are you that you are thinking of marriage" but if she got impregnated out of wedlock, you force the guy involved to marry her without wasting time.
*4. Transfer of responsibility: There is a say that "To marry is not a problem, to provide for the family is the issue" yes it is true. That is why as a parent your first duty is for you to show your children the way of God and the second one is to help them stand on their feet.
If a guy could feed himself, trust me he is good enough to feed his wife.
Parents should not just abandon their children be it male or female once they are married. The responsibility should continue till you are certain that they can stand on their own.
Let me buttress this point. Go to our universities today, you see guys and ladies living together (cohabitation). The question is how do they survive to stay together? It is a simple analysis. Its either both parents are sending them money, or one of the parent is taking care of the needs, or one of the students is working, or both of them are working. Now, if we encourage them to marry under this same condition, have we done anything wrong? After all being single is not a requirement to get admitted into any higher institution.
*5. Parents and bride price: Go to some family that you want to marry and let them show you the list of things you are to bring. You will wish to remain a bachelor till the rest of your life. Marriage is not poverty elevation programs. So, parents should be considerate.
For instance, go to the east, you will see a lot of people into relationships and both parents are aware but because the man is not buoyant enough to pay the exorbitant amount requested, they don't mind if they spend donkey years before finally blessing the Union.
In lieu of this, I think parents should take caution and help the society build a better atmosphere where normalcy is restored and sanity is maintained.