I considered that people who are born with self confidence are people who are lucky.
I grew up being an introvert and dependent person. By that means, I'm still depending on my mom when I make decisions in my life. I grew up not socializing and carry that behavior throughout my life.
It really became my problem when I started my college career. Making friends is really hard for me because I don't have the confidence to approach new people. Also my friends told me that the first time they saw me they are hesitant to approach or talk to me because they said that I have those snobbish aura.
Later, they end up as my small circle of friends.
Rebuilding confidence is not that easy and fast. Here are things to do when rebuilding confidence:
1. Accept your flaws
the first thing that a confidence person did to have his confidence in self is accepting that he has imperfections and flaws. It is the one that makes us unique at all. accept it for what it is and that it is a part of you. If it is unchangeable, acceptance is the only key for truly loving yourself
2. Stand tall
observe on how you walk and your posture. Are you walking with a slouchy posture?This is what it looks like for someone who walks with no confidence at all. Stand up tall, lift your head, and straighten your shoulders when you walk.
3. Eye contact
Looking someone in their eyes when you talk to them shows them that you have confidence in yourself. It is also shows that you are really paying attention and interested on what they're saying.
4. Let go of negative thoughts and doubts
Life is short to think and stuck in negative thoughts and never ending doubts. It is understandable somehow because we are scared of what will be the outcomes of our actions. Thinking positively and letting go of your self doubts will help you to move forward in your journey.
5. TAKE THE RISK
Say "I can do it" in your head and take the risk. Whatever will be the outcome always think that it will help us to grow as a person. A confident person are those who always take the risk.
Building your confidence may not be easy in first time but it will become a hobby and you'll notice that you are now a confident person