I've been thinking a lot about what happened to us this summer, how we're welcoming them. I'm still thinking. Right now, I just want to talk about self-love, that is, self-love. Because how we treat ourselves, how we exist with ourselves, so we exist in the world.
The behaviors we display in daily life are the reflection of our deepest beliefs and values. If you hate yourself, you will not come out and exist in the world at your most wonderful, most creative. If you do not love yourself, you will not be kind to people, you will not greet people you do not know with a smile, you will not motivate your teammates, you will not shine in your work, you will not enjoy the time you spend with your loved ones...
The door to success in life does not open outwards. It opens inside. So is happiness. It starts inside.
I work with many people, both as a professional coach and as a mindfulness trainer. I can say that; When success (whatever it is) comes, when we reach the goal we want, when we say, “Oh, it's done”, most of us sabotage it—ourselves. Maybe we start to eat a lot, drink a lot, maybe we are rude to the people around us, maybe we have arguments with our loved ones, we lose ourselves to games or social media. Conclusion? We sabotage ourselves.
So why is that? Because wherever you see yourself, you can only rise so high. Not higher.
If you don't think you're good enough, if you don't think you deserve it, if you're not happy with yourself, no matter how much you read, how much education you get, it's useless. But you will get as much as you value yourself. It starts with self-love.
Everything starts from within. It starts with you.
If you don't love yourself, something you see and hear in this show culture, this culture of comparison, this culture of blame, this culture of social media will trigger you. Every day, over and over again. Your old wounds will bleed. Scars in your blind spot that you didn't even know existed. Conclusion; walking around as more unhappy, weary, complaining, dissatisfied individuals.
I want to put a stop to this now. Let's start somewhere. Let your self-love be such that nothing going on outside disturbs your inner peace and balance. At least it should be easy for you to find your own balance. Don't let anything take your energy or make you feel inadequate.
Very interesting article and you are right, everything depends on us, that's why when people fall into depression and lose self-esteem it is so hard for them to revive themselves. Because they do not believe they are capable of anything.