How can I stop someone from writing "The End"

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2 years ago
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I am completely at lost right now.

How do I comfort someone?

Everything seems so fine, we talked about all the random stuff we could think of. I've been waiting this moment to comeback here at my boarding house to check on my friend who's been struggling since online class started. She's struggling and I am trying my best to persuade here, to keep trying. Keep trying to live and face her problems head on.

Am I really trying my best?

I am not upset that it seems I don't know how to help her. It's not about me. I'm just lost of words and I can't think of actions that'll be effective for her to keep going on. She's having suicidal thoughts. A lot. I talked to her. Asked if she want to seek professional help. But I think it's not reaching her. I am not upset because I need to help her, but I just want to figure out and try harder. She mustered great courage to tell me how messed up she is, I want to treasure her trust and do something for her. Maybe this is why some people don't want telling someone their problems, because they don't want him/her to be dragged down along with their misery. However, there are people who are willing to be with all your miseries and pain. They just need a chance for them to help you.

I pray that my friend will be healed soon. She told me that it's fine when she's with someone. Because she get distracted from all those anxieties and prevents her attacks. She told me she's happy that I am with her compared to when she's alone, however I start to think I'll be away again after a month and she'll be alone again and I am not sure until when she can fight those thoughts. I want to stay here with her until she can get back on her own two feet. If my words won't heal her maybe my silence will. Sometimes people don't want to hear anything, just knowing someone is rooting for them despite all, I think it's a significant help as well.

I'm lost because I don't want to leave her alone here. I want to be with her till she can do it on her own, how've the problem is, if I stayed here for too long, I have to start preparing for my board exam considering that I am just self studying, I have to browse on books and stuffs- and she don't want to see anything related to our course. Yes, we're both Chem Eng Student but she have to retake some subjects so we're not classmates anymore since online class started. And our course is a major factor why she's feeling this way. She got frustrated and afraid when she see chem eng books, chem eng students, our blockmates, tshirts connected to our course, and even our lanyard or ID lace. If I stay here with her for too long what will I do? Should I give up my plan to take the boards so I will not cause her any frustrations? I am willing to do that, I just don't want her to know that I'll do that for her, because she'll feel really bad. If I will not review while I am here, what will I do? Part-time work maybe.

I don't know about everything but my priority is to help her.

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2 years ago
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I had a friend who was suicidal too because his mother died and his school works have piled up. You know, it was really hard for him to focus in such situation. And it was also hard for me to advice as well because he wanted to stop studying. At the end, I was able to encourage him to just fight no matter what because I also asked some help from my classmates to cheer him up.

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2 years ago

I hope I'll be a ggood help to my friend too 🥺

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you will be♥️

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2 years ago

So hard on your part, but I think she needed you, and of course, she must also help herself to not think of suicidal thoughts, if whatever problem she's facing right now then ask for guidance from God for sure she will be enlightened.

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I'm praying she'll be able to help herself soon so I could also help her

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Spend as much time with it as you can. Assure her that you will never leave her. It will have a positive effect on his health.

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Yrs i really hope i will be helpful

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She really needs someone to be beside her. Please try to get someone for her, don't let her be alone cos it's dangerous. I pray God will surely heal her and she will be fine again.

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I pray the same too, thank you so much for your concern ;))

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You are welcome dear

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2 years ago

It is a serious situation, I know how the feeling of being depressed and no one is there to lift you up, it is difficult, she badly needs someone shoulder where to lean on but still your decisions will matter the most in this situation. If you think that it's very serious depression she facing right now much better to stay with her, life is more important than anything else but if you can find a way to do both much better, but prioritize life first, there is no play back when something hapenned but your board examination you can take it next time .

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I definitely agree. I am willing to sacrifice anything to save her.

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She can't overcome it if she is not willing to help herself. I have been through that and much worse than that. I have no one to talk to, and no one can understand me either. It is just me, alone, who strives to get over it. She just needs to find an inspiration to get going. She has to battle with herself, no matter if she likes it or not.

If she is having episodes while you are away, just tell her to find a hobby that could keep her thoughts busy and can divert her attention from having suicidal thoughts.

I hope this can help. 😊

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It's not that she don't want to help herself, it's just that she don't know how. Indeed it's her against her. How've, I am her to give her a little push and let her know someone is always willing to travel no matter how fsr to reach her, maybe through that she'll be able to win against the enemy inside her

Thanks for he suggestion;))

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