She was 20 years old and you're 17 when both of you are madly in love with one another. So mad that it bear a child even though it is not the right time- she's still studying and you haven't presented any ring. Her dad was mad, her mom was sad, and her sisters were heartbroken. Nevertheless, her family accepted both of you including your precious baby. You can't get married because you are still a minor, she stopped studying while you continue working like before since you didn't attend college in the first place. Life is hard but her family is there to support you, after all she's their precious daughter, and now you became their son. After 9 months, a healthy baby girl came who brings happiness to the family. Where are you when she's in pain in labor room and soon as she enter delivery room? You're nowhere to be found and her mother have to fetch you at your house because you went there. Maybe, it's understandable. You're just 17 and maybe afraid of this sudden turn of events. Your daughter is healthy and all her needs are supported again by her parents because you are living with them and for the reason that it's their granddaughter and they love her. A lot of sacrifices were made. Whenever you cause trouble, her family is there to help you, they help you more than your own family. That's a fact and I know you are well aware of it.
Her sisters, older and younger take turns to take care of your child- your daughter is literally a cry baby. After just a year, she's blessed with another child again. You went far away to work and earn money, but things didn't turn to something that was supposed to. You seldom send them money, and there are issues that you have other girl beside you. Cheater. How can you go drinking every now and then without caring if your wife who is pregnant and your one year old kid is eating anything. She was so stress by all these but what worries her the most is still your safety. Months passed, a boy came to the family but he's not healthy. Your son was born with congenital heart disease and the time when his heart is developing while his stay in his mom's womb, is also the same time his mom is stressed because of his dad's I don't know how to put this in words but I tell you're a total bastard.
No one blamed you for this, instead they did everything they can to raise your son. Since he has a weak heart, they make sure that he'll eat healthy foods and took care of him with so much love and care. Despite how careful they are, your son's weak heart and immune system make your wife's heart break every single day.
Every month, your son is hospitalized because he catch colds easily and leads to pneumonia. Hospital bills are covered by your mother-in-law, she's a nurse and worked in a hospital so everytime your son need medical assistance, she allowed herself being indebted in her workplace so during payday she don't have money at all. Take note that your mother in law is also raising her own kids who at that time two of them are still in highschool. Are you not ashamed? You don't show any effort, instead of helping your father in law in collecting firewoods where are you? Her dad decided that you should start living on your own so he let you (and also her daughter and grandchildren) live in a separate house which is just near their own house. What happened? Sometimes you don't come home and let your wife and children alone in that house. She still ask for food in her father's household. Your electricity and water is still covered by her parents. Can't you see? They're supporting you even though they are not rich and all you have to do is show love with the family you built and help in a way you can because dude you're a man and there are a lot of houseworks you can do since you're a man and her siblings are only consist of girls so all the man works are done by her dad. You never help unless her mother told you to do this and that countless time. Her dad just can't seem to accept you, but can you blame her dad? Her mom show kindness to you even after you went home and left your family. There are on and off, separate and get back together moments of you and your wife. All this problems while your sick child is growing. There are times they thought they will lose this prince, so they went to to the big hospital, travel 9 hours from the province so they can complete all the check ups and granted free for his heart operation. This is not easy because they went back in forth sometimes every month just to complete all procedures. Imagine how much money is spent.
When your son reached 4, he undergo his surgery. Her dad, even with his health conditions went to the city with her daughter and grandchild. The reason you can't come? You don't have money. What the actual heck! Your son will undergo a freakin heart surgery, he is only four! The operation is free because of he effort of your wife and her family and the only amount you should look for is for bus fare and food expenses while you're on hospital. I don't know why but it seems your own family is not helping you, I mean this is major thing and your wife needs you for support.
The operation is successful. Your son starts to grow like the normal children. He can now eat foods that are prohibited before. He can now play and run longer than before. You're not perfect, no one is, but as a person we have to do everything we can to be better. No one is saying that they don't appreciate the good things you did, it's just that the fact that it's too few. No one can say you don't show love at all at your family because who knows you do and showed it just to her. Everyone thought you're starting to change for the better. Since your children are growing, you have to keep maturing for them. You become a man when her dad is struggling with his health, you're there and showed your support. Unfortunately, her dad died. It's devastating for her and her whole family. You supported your wife.
Years passed, it seems your drinking habits are getting worst. Every payday (payday is weekly) you drink and don't go home. You have a family and your children are now 8 and 7 years old but you're still depending on her family (food expenses, bills). You just buy food sometimes. It's been 8 years but still no development, you're still depending on them. Maybe old habits do die hard. Now, you're not coming home, you and your wife are separated. Your wife is already done with you (at last!).
You were 17 and she was 20, when she delivered her first child her youngest sister is 14. At 14, her youngest sister learned to raise a baby she don't own. She learned how to take care of them all by herself especially when your wife look for work since you, the husband can't even provide.
That 14 year old girl is now a 21 yr old lady. That girl who witnessed her sister's struggle at a young age is me. I will tell you we don't need you, my sister and her children can get by without you.
Good luck Cheater.
It's quite unfortunate how situations like this happen. It is more saddening that it is happening with you. Through it all, your sister made it through with the help of your family. At the end of the day, we have our family to depend on. That is what is family is all about. They are the ones who will support us still no matter what.