Sapiosexual, what it is?
The physical is almost always one of the key aspects that people look at when they want to start a sexual or sentimental relationship with someone. But it is not always like that, there are people who do not feel attracted to the physique. Do you want to know who they are? Do you know what a sapiosexual is?
What is sapiosexual?
Sapiosexual is the concept that reflects the fact of feeling sexual attraction and desire for the intelligence or for the moral qualities of people. Although you have never heard this term, it does not mean that it is something new, this type of attraction has always existed.
The most classic examples are those of students who are attracted by the knowledge of the teacher. There is also the fact of feeling desire towards older or more mature people.
In other words, sapiosexuality is the sexual orientation defined by the attraction directed not towards a specific sex, but towards the intellectual characteristics of the person. However, it is possible to distinguish affection or romance from sexuality. That is, there are those who feel sexual desire but not infatuation and vice versa.
As these are links established by the knowledge of a person, it is very common for the connection to arise after a friendship or after a time of relationship, regardless of its nature.
Advantages of being sapiosexual?
You might be wondering if there are any benefits to this. And yes, in general, a relationship goes through different phases that are very defined.
In what is called mature love, routine can represent a determining factor for the couple's cooling off and breakup; this is where being sapiosexual can be an advantage. This is because these types of people are not only attracted to intelligence, but are also often creative and articulate individuals. Characteristics that guarantee greater ease to maintain or rekindle the spark in relationships. This is a capacity that is called erotic intelligence.
It is also necessary to mention that there is a small inconvenience that some sapiosexuals suffer without knowing it. They can involuntarily fall in love platonically, an action that can lower their self-esteem.
When a sapiosexual passes the barrier of mere excitement and falls in love, it is possible that he tends to idealize the person and think that he is not within her reach. Negatively conditioning the future of a possible relationship because it is undervalued, and when we do not esteem ourselves, the relationships we establish are not healthy.
To avoid these situations, it must be clear that even if a person is intelligent, this does not mean that they are emotionally compatible with us.
Different intelligences
When we mention the word intelligence, we tend to think of it as a characteristic associated with a person's knowledge, information, or culture. However, there are many types of intelligence.
For example:
Emotional intelligence: related to the management of feelings, emotions, empathy, etc.
Social intelligence: observable in interrelationships, knowing how to be present, being extroverted, a sense of humor, knowing how to win people over and many other traits.
Sexual and erotic intelligence: those who know how to create sexual or erotic games that arouse and enhance desire and seduction in the other person have it.
We must remember that the main and most efficient sexual organ is our brain. Therefore, intelligence, whatever its type, can arouse intense attraction and make us sapiosexual.
You already know what a sapiosexual is, so if you identify as such, I recommend that you let yourself go. Enjoy your preference and connect with interesting people, but above all, let it flow.
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