Keeping Grudge is the act of avoiding someone after fight or argument. When you fight with people, sometimes the result is keeping malice with the one whom you have fought with. It has been said that having grudge with people is common among the women which I have found to be true. Women are the chief keeper of grudge. They know how to keep people malice even after a little fight with their friends or anyone around. Their fight can be for a very long periods of time and can hardly forgive except on rare cases.
Some guys on the other hand are just like women who can keep grudge for a long period of time. Their behaviors are just like the women and are not ready to have settlement. Don't pray to meet such set of guys or else, you will have yourself to be blamed. When they are keeping Grudge with people, they will also want their friends to follow suite or else they will turn the whole story to face their friends. I'm speaking from experience, because I have a friend who is just like this. The one who he is fighting with must also turn out to be my enemy which I most of the time avoid. I love making friends and don't like keeping people malice or keep grudge with people. So, even if he question me for talking to those whom he has gotten faceoff with, I don't always agree with him.
There are so many things which may cause grudge and can lead to so many havock.
What can grudge cause in one's life
It can make you loose opportunities: The one you are having faceoff with may be the one who can help you out in life. It may be that due to the grudge you have with him, he as taken what he supposed to giver to you to someone else. Keeping Grudge is very dangerous and can always be avoided so that any kind of opportunities that comes they way of the one whom you are keeping Grudge with can easily be passed to you. The one you are keeping grudging mind with might.have a great opportunity which he or she may wanted to fix you in, but due to the grudge you have with him or her such opportunity will just slip off you.
It will make you go hunger: The fact remains that you may not be buoyant enough to buy somethings, but the one you are keeping grudging mind with may be in the best position to help you out. So , when that one happens, it may be difficult for you to meet up with h or her to release help to you.
It can cause misunderstanding at homes: When two brothers or a couple is having a grudge among themselves, it will make the two fighters miss a lot among each other.
As a Christian, you don't need to keep grudge or malice as this can tannish your personality and image. So, you should learn how to Always make friends and stop the having grudge with people. A Christian suppose to remain calm and cool headed instead of keeping Grudge. Which picture are you painting yourself with? You are not just doing yourself but making people to have doubt on the Christians. They will assume that you can never preach the gospel to them if you can misbehave. God created everyone equal and with one voice. He created us unique and without fault not until we invite the devil into our lives. Do you think that having grudge with people can make you progress? The answer is typically NO. You cannot progress when you are having faceoff with people.
Change in your character because you may pass it to your children. Your children are very special and do not want to be like you who always fight with people. You should be in the best position to caution your children not to have this kind of character instead of you having it all.
I think I am the only woman in my family who lets things go lol. Interesting perspectives you have there. Maybe a bit generalised ... but I get the gist of what you are saying as regards keeping a grudge and we are on the same page there. It's not worth it :-) Keep writing friend :-)