Five Things I Wish to Change in Our Society

The society is not perfect. And it may never be. There are norms that are not acceptable. Society established things that may not be right for us.

There are some changes, both good and bad. But, the things that did not change are the things that should have.

There are some notions that I hate about our society. The society is not perfect and that’s understandable because we, who are part of it, is not perfect either. However, I do wish that we slowly progress and change the things that should be changed.

After watching Bridgerton, its first season, I have noticed some things that I really hate about society. The series may have a setting that dates a few centuries back, it still relates to the present – the unreasonable things about society.

These are the things I really want to change about our society.

Women are for marriage only

The show is about young women coming out to find a husband for themselves. What’s saddening is the series show that finding a husband and building a family is all that a woman should do in its life.

Their duty to have a family is the only reason for their existence. And there are still people right now who thinks women are not capable of more than that.

Women should not only be limited to being a housekeeper or the light of a family. There are different places for a woman in the society. We strive for fairness and justice, and so we must not prison women into one purpose. I hope all people would come to realize that.

Men have more or better opportunities than women

This is not to say that men do not deserve those opportunities. It is not wrong for men to have such opportunities because everyone deserves them. That is exactly why women deserve equal chances as men. Women always need to prove so much before they can get something, unlike men who only needs so little.

An example are women leaders whom people criticize so much. People would say women cannot be leaders because they are emotional. But, they can’t say that to men even when men are also emotional people. We should give women many opportunities as men and we should criticize men as much as we criticize those women. Double standards is not pleasant.

Women doesn’t have a right to choice

In the series, the heroine had his brother chose for him, even his partner-to-be. It’s simply because people think lowly of women that they cannot even allow them the liberty to choose.

Women are deemed to be submissive. But, that shouldn’t be. Some people think women are inferior. However, women have the freedom and strength to make their own choices. It is their life after all.

Having a big flaw makes us unlovable

When we have imperfections, we seem to think that we do not deserve some love. That is because that is how society thinks. The society define people with their flaws. Society deems people less worthy if they are far from perfect.

If someone has a disability, some people in our society think that life has no sense to them. If someone is not conventionally pretty, they think they are less deserving of love.

I do not like such notions. I hope we would all appreciate our flaws. I hope we should not think of some things as flaws. Even normal things like body hair, skin pigmentation, skin colors and other things become a flaw to judgmental eyes. We should change that.

We must live up to other people’s expectations of us

The society places big expectations to us and we must become just as that. But, that’s really pressuring. It’s suffocating to be someone you’re not.

Some people should stop thinking that they have a say in other people’s lives. They don’t have control over it. We must remember that we are the leaders of our life.

Our society would only change through us. I hope we’ll be able to change.

It's raining here. It feels really peaceful. I wish for your peace too.

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