The Toxic Side Of The Pinoys

Filipinos are known to be kind, polite, generous, resilient, and family-oriented too. I'm not saying this because I'm a biased Filipino but based on my observation, the majority of the Filipinos are like that.

I'm also sure that some foreigners who have encountered Filipinos would also agree with me on this. But we also have these worst of the worst attitude that even most of us here are not proud of.

For instance, Filipinos are known to be family-oriented to the point that your relative thinks it's okay to ask a favor many times coz they are a family. It's like you're obligated to share and if you try to refuse, they will start talking behind your back.

One mistake will make you look like the enemy in the family. An example of this is a member of our family. Although she wouldn't see this post ever, I still prefer not to disclose much about her identity. But let's just call her 'HER'.

So HER has been planning to buy a new TV coz their tv set has been with them for ages. She wanted a flat-screen and since our internet connection here is quite better than the previous one we had, she preferred a smart tv. Who wouldn't want that, right? I mean smart tv is a good investment, especially if you love to watch movies and other tv series. Plus, it also allows you to watch videos on YouTube or watch something on Netflix. Stuff like that. But she doesn't have the budget for the tv.

Her is also a part of the closest circle in the family, so no wonder why my mom and sister would entrust her that much when it comes to withdrawing some money on their behalf. Then she noticed that my sister has a lot. Actually, that's my mom's money in my sister's account.

So, HER tried to borrow some from my sister but she refused. She explained though that, that money isn't hers. So, she went to my mom instead and asked if she could borrow some money so they could buy a new tv. She promised to pay as soon as they receive their bonus. But mom refused coz she still owes her a huge amount of money.

And since then, HER stopped coming to our house. She is upset about being rejected. She badly wanted to have the tv, but my mom won't lend her some. I know she's disappointed but it's just so annoying to think how some relatives think it's okay to borrow any amount without obliging themselves to pay back and get upset when they get a rejection from people they owe in the first place.

Another case is with my brother. He has a decent job and his wife is also a nurse. Whenever he runs out of allowance, he would message his mom instead of his wife. I've been telling him many times not to bother mom coz she also needs money. But my annoying brother still got the nerve to ask and get mad when mom would say no. Grrrr.

I'm single and as much as possible, I try to pay my loans with my own money. That is one of the reasons why I save money whenever I can coz I don't want to be a burden to this family. Besides, we are all adults now, and we should be the ones giving mom some money, not the other way around.

So this is one of the toxicities of the Filipinos. There are more to mention, but I'll just focus on this.

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