Because of social media, the internet, K-pop, Tiktok, and everything in the digital world, many are aiming for perfection. They want to look like their idols. They want a perfect body, perfect skin, perfect look, perfect in everything.
Some even think having a white complexion is the definition of being pretty and being morena (light brown skin) or black is not. I honestly think everyone is beautiful in their own way. Being beautiful doesn't mean you need to be perfect from head to toe. Being beautiful is someone who has flaws, knows her flaws, and can still smile and laugh about their flaws.
Just because you have imperfections doesn't make you less of a person. It's just part of being you, so don't worry about having one or many because we are all born with something different in ourselves. But know that you are beautiful, way beyond any eyes could see.
It's alright though to buy stuff that will enhance your look if that's what makes you happy. If it can boost your confidence, then go for it! But what's not okay is when you just want to look your best because you think you're not good enough in other people's opinion.
So if you want to look better, be sure to do it because you want it, and not because they say so.
I was once an insecure person before during my first two decades. Every time I see random people, especially girls, I felt belittled to myself. I felt like I don't belong and that I don't have a life. To hide my disappointments, I would just pretend I was happy all the time. I smiled and laughed like I'm perfectly fine when deep inside, I was struggling to survive.
Every time I see people who can do anything they please, I felt useless. I was really unhappy about myself back then to the point that I would cry often in my room. My life was totally the opposite of what I'm feeling right now, but I'm so glad I survived.
After so many years of trying to survive life, I managed to understand the true meaning of beauty, and that's how I became happy. I realized that acceptance of one's self is the key. I realized that I don't need to be accepted by many to be happy but all I needed was to accept my imperfections.
It wasn't easy. There were days that depression would kick in and out of my daily routine. Luckily, I managed to stay strong with the same issue over and over again. Now, I am no longer ashamed of telling the world my story. Now, I am no longer that same sad soul who couldn't stop comparing herself to others.
Before, I used to cry and cry until there were no more tears to shed. It's only when I finally accepted myself that I finally find peace in my heart. Since then, I don't worry anymore about how people look at me when they see me. Now, I'm a better version of my 2-decade self.
Closing thoughts
Happiness starts when you finally learn to love yourself, accept your imperfections (even laugh about them), and use them as your motivation and inspiration to do something better rather than being sad about them all the time.
Love yourself first and you'll see the difference. Don't worry if the people you want to accept and love you won't or can't because someday, someone else will.
I would say "Love yourself first, then you can be loved by others. And then a relationship and baby will follow." 😅
No, honestly, compared to most women in the western world who are extremely full of themselves, I can see that working out for you a lot better. It seems like you worked on yourself and are a humble person. However, it seems like you are a bit afraid of having a relationship.
If I were you, I would try to find the nicest guy you can find (pretty much not caring much about his looks as long as they are acceptable) and see how the relationship goes. 😅🙈