Take just one minute to kiss!
Kiss each other deeply before your ways part in the morning. I promise you that one kiss can create a lot of intimacy in your marriage. (You can't say you don't have one minute for that).
Go to bed at the same time!
If you cannot manage to go to bed the same time every night, try to do it at least a few nights a week. It will give you time to just switch off at the same time, to just chat and it creates an opportunity for sex.
(My hubby and I have an agreement at 10 pm every night it is our time. We spend one hour together even if we go on working after that.)
Memories are very special.
Try to recall your special moments once in a while. Going back in time and talking about a special memory also make you connect again, remind both of you of what you had and can still have!
Don't stop calling each other the pet names that once was dear to you.
There was a reason why you called him your big bear once. It creates a uniqueness in your relationship. There may be not one other couple that calls each other by your special names for each other. It also creates intimacy when you have special pet names for each other. It may even be something strange or kinky and would not make sense to anybody else than you but you know what it is about and what it means for the both of you.
When you accomplish something together give each other high five's.
We do it with our children, why not with your spouse? Even if you just accomplished through your special efforts for your son to ate his vegetables. It gives a special sense of accomplishment of your team effort. Acknowledge that together you are better!
Get a code word to signal a one minute time out!
When life is happening and you feel like its spinning out of control just say the word and disappear for one minute. Get to a quiet corner even the bathroom if necessary and hug and hold each other for one minute. Just one minute of quietness. You would be surprised what that can do to your state of mind and sanity. Also, reassure each other that tomorrow will be a better day!
Touch whenever you can!
Even when driving to work together, just put your hand on his or her leg. It makes you connect and brings togetherness. When you get time to watch TV together sit close and hold hands. When walking down the street hold hands, it reminds you that you are one and that you should never be separated.
After a hard days work go shower together.
This can be very rewarding what feels better than somebody else washing your back? It also creates feelings of oneness and togetherness. Doing things together makes you reconnect!
Get naked before you climb in bed at night.
Experts have found that couples who sleep naked have a better sex life than those who sleep fully clothed. If you feel that is too much for you, try it at least once a week. If you must sleep with clothes on, please don't dress like your grandmother or grandfather, always put on something sexy for night time.
Making saying goodnight something special.
The same as your goodbye kiss in the morning, give each other a special and deep goodnight kiss. Even if you are both very tired just lie in each other's arms for five minutes and then kiss goodnight. You may even drift off into sleep in your embrace.
All of the above are quick but good ways to reconnect and create new intimacy between the two of you.
Thank you for reading.
Am still in the kitchen and he fell asleep, do you think we can go to bed together?