Loneliness: a feeling that isolates us

There are moments in our lives when we are affected by loneliness. Phrases like: "they don't love me", "I'm alone", "I don't have anyone" are very common in people who are surrounded by friends, family or friends; There are even people who are famous and have many followers on their social networks and they often say these phrases, and what really is that they do not feel empathy with anyone, and want to convey with these words is that they feel alone.

Loneliness is a feeling that is difficult for us to explain, where a series of feelings are mixed, discouragement, discouragement, lack, but above all a deep emptiness.

According to the WHO, health is: "the state of complete physical, mental and social well-being, and not only the absence of diseases or illnesses." Which does not imply that our well-being depends mainly on the quality of the relationships we can establish with the people around us.

Loneliness is a feeling that negatively impacts our health, which can cause negative effects on our emotional and psychological well-being. When loneliness is implanted in people, it brings sadness, stress, demotivation, despair, anguish, fear among other feelings as consequences, and if emotional and psychological support is not available it can deteriorate personal self-esteem.

Can there be types of loneliness?

Within the context of loneliness we can find: emotional loneliness and social loneliness:

What is emotional loneliness ?: It is the sensation or feeling when we break a friendship bond, even when we have problems with our families. We associate emotional loneliness with that feeling that invades us when people who are important to us disappear from our lives, whether due to separation, death or any other cause.

In those moments we face loss and we find ourselves in the need to cope; but we feel lost in the face of loneliness and emptiness and we do not find those supports on which we leaned to face our day to day.

What is social loneliness? This manifests itself when we lack a social life or do not have social groups where we can share interests and activities. When we are part of a group and we cannot integrate ourselves either in the way we act, or in its values, it is usually very frustrating, since we are part of a group but we do not fit into it. The feeling of loneliness, we can interpret as the consequence of the beliefs that the person usually has and the assessment that she makes about her emotional and / or social situation.

What do we do when we feel alone?

Loneliness is a feeling that gives us the signal that we lack an emotional or social relationship, but, in many cases, the problem is not the feeling of loneliness, but what we can do with it and how we handle it. This warning sign can lead us to act in different ways, to find a way to interact with other people in a more active way, but it can also have a negative effect and lead us to isolate ourselves, as a form of protection so that no one may harm us.

How can loneliness affect us?

Loneliness can affect our immune system, making it more sensitive to all kinds of diseases and conditions.

• The body and mind suffer from exhaustion, since they do not have adequate rest, due to the constant state of alert in which the person lives.

• When people feel lonely they live in constant anguish, they become depressed and hostile. These people do not usually practice any type of physical activity and do not think about the effects that this can cause to their health.

• People who live with the feeling of loneliness often plunge into vicious circles, they feel lonely and depressed and that's when they feel more lonely and depressed than before.

• They lose interest in everything and feel like they don't have a reason to get up every day.

The feelings of loneliness do not disappear on their own, and re-interacting with people is not easy, but we must have an active attitude, interact with other people who share your tastes, And if we feel that we cannot alone seek help from a professional in cognitive-behavioral psychology.

Thanks for reading, until a next post.

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