People's age increases not in age, but in experience. Human experience is not created automatically without doing anything, every wrong decision creates human experience.
No human decision ever goes wrong, unless that decision leads to an accident. From that point of view, all human decisions are the right decisions. Even a wrong decision, which seems wrong at the moment, if it brings any benefit in the future, is the right decision. There is nothing wrong with saying right or wrong. The result of each of our actions tells us which of our decisions was right and which was wrong. Even if two people do exactly the same thing, there is no guarantee that the result will be the same.
A tall man standing on top of the same tool on which a short man at a height can easily pull the jar of pickle from the ceiling can get hit in the head, and even an accident can happen with the ceiling-fan inadvertently. My aunt is a very tall man, she has a problem getting up on the bed and pulling the mosquito net, so my uncle is a little shorter than my aunt, so it was her responsibility to hang the mosquito net every day. Kakima may have assumed that she would have an accident as soon as she went to hang the mosquito net, perhaps from the idea that the 'inhuman duty' was forced on Kaku's neck.
One morning I woke up and went to pick up the mosquito net as usual. I forgot my mind and went to the ceiling-fan. At that moment, my uncle's two fingers became completely different! Since then, Kakimai has been hanging mosquito nets every day. Of course, I don't know whether to hang them or not, maybe she has made some other arrangement, but since then, I don't know how to pull mosquito nets anymore.
One way for people to experience is to learn to make new decisions as much as possible. Making multiple decisions also increases the amount of mistakes, maybe sometimes a lot of hardships, many people become stupid, but it is also certain that the repetition of the same mistake decreases somewhere else, at least for a while the amount of mistakes goes to zero. . Again we make new decisions, the experience of learning from old mistakes may not be useful in all new decisions, but the mental power to make mistakes and to accept mistakes is multiplied. People decide not to learn or to do something wrong, but to think that it will work. Just as seemingly right decisions can lead to misery in the future, there are many decisions that we can do in a benevolent way, even if we do not care about them. Any event that changes our lives is like magic.
Again, the same work can give different results depending on the situation. The more the person suffers, the more the person learns, it is wrong. The more superstitious a person is in his decision, the more he suffers. The person who sees the same amount of success and failure in all his decisions is equal, the amount of happiness and sorrow is also equal.
Two of my childhood classmates ran away and got married in the first year of HSC without the consent of their parents, but the same work of the two has brought two completely different results. After a marriage has become more beautiful than before, the talented boy who once ran away holding his hand, the talented boy today is the father of his two children, a successful businessman. My classmate also did Honors-Masters in English, she is sitting in her father-in-law's business with her husband despite getting very good results, she has no worries about getting a job.
Meanwhile, both the children go to school. The eldest son is in class six, the youngest is in class two. Their other thought now, maybe thinking of doing something bigger, is that the father-in-law has also dragged his son-in-law into business with his son without leaving him at home. But when she ran away and married this boy, there was nothing in her house to bring the talented boy to stand in front of his parents. The boy seemed to be intoxicated, but he continued his studies by rubbing the table, and now everyone in the house, including his father-in-law and mother-in-law, ate the boy's food.
Meanwhile, another classmate's miserable condition. Today, ten years later, in the same outfit, he returned to his father with the son of the great rich man, ten years ago, in the same outfit. Even though the father-in-law has crores of rupees, the husband is an unemployed cannabis addict. But when she ran away, her husband-son's face was so innocent, so handsome and so bright that there was no way to see her and understand that in the future she would drop out of school and enter the world of drugs. Meanwhile, my classmate has become physically and mentally ill after being beaten by her husband every day, and it has not been possible to continue her studies under the pressure of her in-laws!
He is now worried about himself and his two children. The father-in-law, who once had a lot of money, is also separated from his mother-in-law by marrying another little college girl, sometimes he comes home only once a month and a half to pay for the market.
At the same time, it may not have been in the minds of either of them at the time how the two people made the same decision at the same time, but over time, the two paths completely twisted and went in the opposite direction. One just had the courage to set foot on a new path with his love partner, the other might have thought then, he got it all at once; Thought maybe, along with her husband's beauty, maybe her father-in-law's money also ruined her future, she confirmed.
The next part… we also thought at that time that Smita had married a beautiful boy, and we used to talk, her father-in-law or many houses, how many shops in a market, how many businesses are scattered here and there, but look, Banani looks like a drug addict She married the boy, how confused she is when she sees him, she knows very well what she found in that boy! There is no appearance, there is no money. Not to mention that studying on it. I heard that the father-in-law or the farm is not a fish business! Then I would look at Banani and then I would look at Smita. At the same time the two were discussed. Then I thought, Smita won, and Banani is a whole bull! But time has shown us how wrong we were.
Smita was holding the hand of a boy whom she had secured financially with, but Banani was just holding on to her love, her love was her confidence, her wealth. Today, after so many years, when I see the two of them in two completely different ways, I am amazed and think, how many people have misconceptions in the present.
It is better to say one thing here. The above incident could have happened as we thought and guessed but! In fact, we are not the ones to judge someone, someone's condition, someone's future. Time tells everything when the time comes. The best thing is to observe the incident silently. It is wise not to come to any conclusion about that. It is better not to give an opinion about the life in which we have not lived, or are not living yet. Who knows where the pain is, who knows where the happiness is, only he knows, he never knows time.