We are all afraid of emotional pain, because it takes away the pleasure and happiness from our lives. We always find ways to avoid it, but it is also an inevitable part of our life. Without facing emotional pain we find ourselves lacking in facing the various intricacies of relationship and life.
But emotional pain is not bad; in fact it is good for us. We all hope for a pain free life but it is required to connect to our inner self as well as the outer world.
It helps us to move ahead in our lives. Pain is like a vortex; at first it pulls us down to the emotional depths of pain where everything looks sad and dark. It scars the very raw nerves of our emotions which we rely on to give us happiness and pleasure. Though we get submerged in this vortex of pain but then a time comes when the heart desires to move ahead in life. We realize that we cannot continue this way and we need to move on. That is the time we take a counter action to move out of the vortex and move on. In the beginning the pain overcomes us, now we overcome that pain and it is the pain only that gives us the strength to overcome the pain. Then those scars start to heal and a new dawn appears in our life which shows the road ahead. Once we get out of this pain, we come out stronger than before.
It makes us grow emotionally. The emotional pain makes us realize the real meaning of happiness and how to approach it. It teaches us that this is not the last of the emotional pain I will be getting but it also teaches us that when the next wave comes then I will be ready for it. It gives us the inner strength to make us stronger out of that experience. We recognize our selves better when we pass through the various shades of our emotions. One of the best things is that it makes us realize how much negative thoughts we can develop in an emotionally distraught situation, and it will even surprise us.
It gives us experience. Pain is a good teacher. It gives us practical lessons on about the ups and down of life. It teaches us that when we hit the rock bottom of our lives, then how we should spring back. We realize that not only what goes up comes down but what goes down also comes up. We get years of maturity out of this emotional pain which otherwise would not have come. And this maturity helps us take the right decisions for the future. When we go through an emotional turmoil and come out of it then we are in a better position to help others. If we go to the funeral of our friend’s father and convey our condolence, without going through it ourselves through that situation, then we actually won’t be able to understand the pain related to it.
Pain can be a good motivator. It dares us to change ourselves which we might have been off setting till now. Pin indicates us that something is wrong in our life and something needs to be done to change it. That realization makes us stand up and make changes both in our life and in our relationships. The emotional pain then acts like the spring board which can propel us to try and achieve new success in life. It motivates us to grapple with our weaknesses which were stopping us till now.
Emotional pain enhances our capacity for love compassion empathy and understanding. Pain creates a better connection between people than pleasure and happiness. The bond and communication formed between two people passing through similar emotional condition is stronger. It also teaches us the importance of compassion and forgiveness.
Emotional pain can also have physical manifestations. It is important to notice how the body reacts to the feeling of emotional pain; it can be in the form of a feeling of physical pain, heaviness, stress, headache etc. When we pass through these physical manifestations we tend to co relate better between our emotional form and physical form.
Once we are passing through such a phase it is imperative that we do not get stuck in it, but take the life’s lessons and open our mind and heart. We should use this fire to fuel the power of positive feeling inside us.
When we will look back in our lives then we can proudly say to ourselves that you tested me but I passed with flying colors.
Your title should be emotional pain instead of welcome pain because that is what I read in your article.
I won't be welcoming pain in my life because for me pain is not the teacher. Life is and pain is the lesson.