We tend to overwhelm these aspects because being sensitive can be greasy. Sometimes, we can even ask people like psychologists whether it is weakness to be emotional. Whereas, being sensitive gives a person the opportunity to see and live the world with another eye. So what does psychology say about this topic? What do people interested in psychology such as psychologists and psychiatrists say?
How would you describe yourself? Someone who is sometimes sensitive or fragile, or even hurt in some areas? .. Or maybe you are one of those who say that they are as solid as steel, that I will never get hurt .. I ask this question because we usually think with sharp judgments like black and white when defining ourselves. "Being sensitive is weakness!" Don't you think they're very sharp judgments? Being sensitive can sometimes be judged by weakness in society. Consequently, we are afraid of being judged and trying to numb and suppress our fragile aspects. We've been used to it since our childhood. Instead of saying "You don't have to be perfect, you deserve to be loved in every way", "you should be very successful, you should aim for the best!" We were accustomed to the reward penalty system. However, one of the characteristics of being human is to be full of light and dark grays, we forgot that.
Ideal Self and True Self
We strive to adapt to our own or society's ideals throughout life. In fact, Carl Rogers explains it this way: The person's self that has formed in a certain time is the true self. The self he aspires to be, and which he expects to achieve, is the ideal self. If these two selves are at a harmonious distance to each other, this ideal becomes healthy and motivational for self-realization. However, sometimes these ideals can conflict with our own feelings. We may want to get away from the person we are and create a completely different ideal. This includes denying our vulnerabilities.
The Power of Being Sensitive and Fragile
Several powerful and important traits appear in sensitive personalities. Connection, Courage and Compassion.
The connection is because those who have this personality can make a realistic connection between the true self and the ideal self. With these aspects, it becomes easier and more feasible for them to establish healthy and motivational ideals.
Courage because accepting ourselves as we are does not come easily. It takes courage to realize that we may have flaws and to be aware of our sensitivity. Isn't it a sign of great strength to be able to accept our stories as they are and tell them with all our hearts?
Compassion, because we learn this attitude with ourselves first. Being able to admit our own flaws is through compassion and compassion. Showing compassion for our flaws, not being judgmental, thus makes it easier for us to show the same understanding for others.
2 Tips for Sensitive Personalities
Gratitude Attitude
Annoying situations can happen to all of us from time to time. You can question why these situations happen to you as much as you want. You can complain as much as you want, blame yourself for being bored. However, I want you to question how this will do you. There is something very important to remember. Being sensitive and fragile is the biggest sign that you are alive. You are alive with your whole self and life. After realizing this, developing a gratitude attitude and saying “I'm grateful” instead of complaining will help you embrace yourself and go through difficult processes more easily.
Remembering We Are "Enough"
Sometimes thoughts come and go when we question ourselves and feel difficult. Often, they feed the situations in which we have difficulties and cause us to make disasters. At this point, I want you to stop and breathe. Having sensitivity does not mean that we are insufficient. On the contrary, it enables us to live with awareness of our strong and fragile sides. This awareness is what makes us strong. At this point, you will be surprised how good it feels to give yourself the sentence "I am enough" and show compassion.
