CONVERSATIONAL INTIMACY
Women, who tend to nurture emotional intimacy by talking, often find lack of meaningful conversation with their partners distressing. They want to talk about their feelings, daily interpersonal events, and deep wishes, fears, or thoughts with their soulmates only to find their partner bored or disinterested. Because women have spent their lives talking with friends as a means of maintaining and strengthening emotional connections, and tend to equate talking with emotional support, the lack of conversational intimacy often signifies to them that something essential is missing in relationship.
Men on the other hand, have been socialized to value physical activity and proximity as the means to emotional closeness. boys bond with each other by playing games together and gisting rather than talking seriously with each other. The watch sports on TV and talk about business, investment, travel, politics, etc. Men also tend to prefer physical closeness with women including sexual or affectional contact.
One man said that he preferred thinking about things in his head rather than chatting about nothing with his wife. He wanted to do things with her, such as taking long walks, as a way of enjoying her company. physical proximity was clearly more important to him than real verbal intimacy, whereas the reverse was true for her.
CONVERSATIONAL INTIMACY Women, who tend to nurture emotional intimacy by talking, often find lack of meaningful conversation with their partners distressing. They want to talk about their feelings, daily interpersonal events, and deep wishes, fears, or thoughts with their soulmates only to find their partner bored or disinterested. Because women have spent their lives talking with friends as a means of maintaining and strengthening emotional connections, and tend to equate talking with emotional support, the lack of conversational intimacy often signifies to them that something essential is missing in relationship.
Men on the other hand, have been socialized to value physical activity and proximity as the means to emotional closeness. boys bond with each other by playing games together and gisting rather than talking seriously with each other. The watch sports on TV and talk about business, investment, travel, politics, etc. Men also tend to prefer physical closeness with women including sexual or affectional contact.
One man said that he preferred thinking about things in his head rather than chatting about nothing with his wife. He wanted to do things with her, such as taking long walks, as a way of enjoying her company. physical proximity was clearly more important to him than real verbal intimacy, whereas the reverse was true for her.