How to treat love

Everyone yearns for a kind and beautiful lover, a harmonious family, and a happy and beautiful life. These are all derived from having sweet and wonderful love. If there is no love, the couple will divorce, the family will be broken, and life will be broken. There is no happiness at all.

So, how to treat love? Accumulating my 60 years of life experience, I have come up with the following four basic attitudes towards love.

1. Love is not one thing at a time, but a lifetime.

Many times, a pair of strange men and women often fall in love at first sight when they meet. The so-called love at first sight is actually just a good feeling between each other, that is not love. Because love cannot be concluded in one or two days or one or two months. The men and women who succeeded in holding hands in "If You Are the One" only have the intention to develop into love. It does not mean that they have started love. In fact, even if they succeed in holding hands, there are very few couples who can develop into love.

Some people mistake a momentary emotional impulse for love. In fact, it's just a momentary favor for the other person. Over time, more understanding, aesthetic fatigue, and loss of freshness, they will be bored and bored. That must not be true. Love is not the correct attitude towards love.

Treating love is not only a temporary passion, but a lifetime stay.

2. Love cannot be wishful thinking, but passionate.

Everyone knows that love is a match between two parties, and wishful thinking is unrequited love, not love. Regardless of the attitude of the other person, some people think that as long as they want to love, it is love, and even obsessed with it, they deduce many tragedies caused by falling in love.

Love comes and goes, and when you are in love, mutual love is love. In the old society, even though the older generations were the words of matchmakers, they became lovers by their parents. They also needed to get married and then fall in love. If one party refuses to compromise, it will also lead to the disintegration of the family.

In today's materialistic society, some people can find "love" even if wishful thinking due to their wealth. In fact, it is obvious that the other party loves money, not love. Of course, everyone has their own choice of pursuing different lifestyles, and their understanding of love is more different. It is reasonable to have variuos situations and it is understandable.

3. Love cannot be done once and for all, but must be kept fresh all the time.

I think that love is not as simple as a child’s playing at home, and it will not be too complicated, but love can never be done once and for all. I think that since you become a lover and enter a family, there is no need to talk about love anymore. Now, this is a blasphemy of love.

Although there is a consensus among people, it is "few couples are always companions", "love when you are young, and affection when you are old." It's just a difference in form, but love in essence. Because the perfect combination of love and affection is love, when love is strong, love is weak. With the growth of age and the aging of the body, love needs to be kept fresh, so as to achieve mutual affection between lovers and grow old.

Fourth, love can't go its own way, it's a matter of life.

People often think that love is just a matter between a man and a woman, and even the emergence and reproduction of human society seems to be a matter between men and women, but this is not the case. Because the love of any couple of men and women cannot exist beyond society and exist independently. It is not a castle in the sky or a mirage that transcends the real society, but is firmly dependent on the entire society.

Everyone has their own parents, their relatives and friends, and their own jobs. They are inseparable from the social environment in which they live. Whether the relationship between a man and a woman can develop into love, it must be taken into account for many objective factors, taking into account the acceptance of all aspects, otherwise, the arrogant love can hardly bear the various aspects from all aspects. Temptation or various blows will die.

I sincerely wish everyone a happy love and a happy life.