Part II Goodbye Childish Act Hellow to being an Adult

This is part II of the Goodbye Childish Act Hellow to being an Adult but this is different story. This story is also connected to the title.

Being an adult is taking responsibility for your actions. If you’re an adult, your perspective in life is about sustainability: How to sustain your family financially? How to sustain the closeness/relationship of the family? How to be a role model for everybody? But when do people think that they are already an adult? Sometimes being an adult can be forced to work out, specially when you got pregnant at the young age and be a parent.

Tanya was a fifteen years old when she got pregnant. After graduating high school, she gave birth to a baby boy. She named her baby Mathew. She said that turning into a mother at the young age is hard for you need to learn how to be a good, responsible and independent parent. Tanya needed to stop her studies for one year because her son needed her. There’s a bit of regret, but after seeing her son her regret turns out to be a blessing. Her son is her new inspiration in life it came too early but she needs to accept and face her life now. She had a son now, waiting and relying on her.

There are times that she felt down and tired but she need to be strong for she was already a mother. There are times that she missed her childhood days where she just think to just play and hanging around her friends. She missed those days just watching Korean movies overnight, going outside and going late at home. If she could turn back time, she would choose to listen to her parents and be careful with her friends. Because of her friends, she learns to party at night until Baby Mathew happens.

After Baby Matthew turning one Tanya decided to study again, for she believes that education can lift her family someday. Tanya finds it hard to study when she got bullied calling her flirty and a disgraced to the society but she knows that she to be strong not for her own dreams but for her baby looking after her. Tanya finds many reasons to stop but upon seeing her baby she finds strength and courage to continue what she had started.

Tanya is thankful to her parents for they are supporting her in many ways despite of not listening to them before. She hopes that she will be a good mother to her own son, like her own mother to her. Her own mother is also one of her inspiration in life to strive harder not because she owes her a lot but because she accepts her together with her baby. Tanya feels like she owes a lot to her mother and to the whole family, for without them, she couldn’t do many things. With the help of her family she was able to study and to rest for sometimes. She claimed that it’s really true that when you become a mother at the young age you are forced to be an adult for there is someone relying on you. You need to be matured enough even it’s not time yet in taking responsibility. She added that to be an adult you need to think of your actions if it is good for your family.

Tanya realized that her own family will always be her own hero, for without their guidance and support she wouldn’t raise her baby Mathew healthy and safe. According to her, raising alone her child without her family's help it wouldn’t be possible for her to raise her baby because she didn’t know anything about parenting. Her mother is the one who really takes care of her son. Seeing her mother smiling and happy because of Mathew makes her proud of her son and of herself. She feels like she had done something big.

In the beginning Tanya feels like she’s not worthy to be a mother for she’s not ready in parenting a child yet. In fact, she’s scared and nervous and at that time she’s still thinking to do the things she wanted to do like travelling in different places, watching movies overnight and many more. When she found out that she was pregnant, her mother told her that “stop being selfish and stop your childish act now, learn to act an adult for you are already a mother now”. Tanya cried that time, for she’s not ready yet. She is not ready to just give up her happiness and to forget her childhood days.

Tanya miss her freedom but she couldn’t forget that because she use her freedom so much it brought her to be a parent at the young age. She wished to thank her mom for everything. When they had a vacation at Coron with her mom, she take that opportunity to thank her “Mom thank you for everything for being always there for my baby, for taking care of him all the time. Sorry Mom for disappointing you. I know this is not want you wanted me to ‘be. Thank you for everything mom and sorry for everything” Atfer saying this Tanya hug her Mom “Tanya whatever happens you’re still my daughter. Always remember that everything happens for a reason. Yes, you disappointed me but after seeing you striving harder to be a dutiful daughter and and to be a wonderful mother to baby Mathew, I feel proud of you for I couldn’t do what you are doing. I feel proud of you for taking your responsibility as a mother at the young age. Always remember that I will always be here for you and for baby Mathew” After this conversation Tanya felt relieve, loved and motivated.

Tanya realized many things in life after experiencing being a mother. She understands her mother more when she experience how to be a parent. She learned to manage her time and to make her freedom worthwhile. She couldn’t believe that becoming a parent is never easy for you need to sacrifice a lot your own happiness, your dreams, your childhood days, and most specially you to need to say goodbye to your childish act and say hellow new life welcome to be an adult.