Selfishness

Having a lot of friends is a gift, because the more friends the more friendship, the more sustenance. there are various types and characters of friends, there are soft, hard and so on.

In a group of friends there must be people who are categorized as selfish, want to win alone and will make us go awry and in a dilemma facing the model of friends who have this trait, why? because it will often make us hurt.

We really have to have a way of how to deal with them. Here are some ways to deal with selfish people :

~ Don't take his words seriously.

Selfish people tend to justify any means to achieve their goals without knowing the others are hurt or not. the important thing is that he can fulfill his selfish desires to achieve what he wants.

~ Remind them nicely.

If we are tired of all their words and behavior, then find the right time to remind them with good communication.

Selfish people also tend not to look up to others, reminding them that they need to be careful. Instead, reminding them that if it's not on time, it will really offend us. If they are offended, their speech and behavior can get out of control which will definitely hurt us.

~ Stop doing good.

Usually they come to us when they need them, but in friendship there is always reciprocity. the point is, sometimes their wishes are not always fulfilled, when we say no to their desires, sometimes it is a way that can make them realize that not all desires can be fulfilled.

~ Stop connecting with them.

If they can't be reminded, they can't change and we only get something negative from them being selfish, it's better to stop dealing with them.

Life must be useful for many people, we need a circle of friends that is shaded by something that is certainly positive, we need friends who can support us, can remind us, are always there when we are happy or sad, can listen to us and don't just criticize.

Indeed, we are taught from childhood not to be picky in friendship, that's true. but what we do is how we can select friends who can lead us to a better direction.