How much do you understand the word ANGER?How do you control your Anger? Some find it hard to control it because it like a demon living inside of you. Some can control it but it sometimes hurt them and break them.
Wait before we proceed, What is anger?
According to Oxford language book, Anger is a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility.
"a strong feeling of being upset or annoyed because of something wrong or bad : the feeling that makes someone want to hurt other people, to shout, etc. : the feeling of being angry" merriam Webster.
But to me Anger is a demon who lives in living things to destroy them.
Anger has too many ways of dealing with its users. Those that find it hard to control destroy things around them,hurt people around them,break themselves into pieces. Some even find pleasure cutting themselves whenever they are angry. How often do you understand your own anger part and how you deal with it. Some get angry over little things and some get angry over what is worth getting angry for but how do you control that anger.
My Anger Experience
I use to have a friend who find peace in cutting himself with razor anytime he's angry with someone. I use to do these all the time which I do caution him on,but one day he was provoked to anger and he mistakenly stab himself forgetting no one is home. He was bleeding heavily,he realised his mistake and put a call to me to come over,I rushed to his place but its too late,he gave up the ghost before I got there.
Another experience was a lady friend, she is such a nice,beautiful, ambitious, generous, caring and adorable person but only one thing that spoil all these compliments is her ability not to control her anger. She had a boyfriend who they both have been together for years but she ruined it with her anger and inpatient. The guy proposed to her and they both planned to get married few months after. They visited both families and a date was fixed. But, unfortunately something happened and the wedding was cancelled. She didn't know her fiancee has a sister who live abroad and it was planned to be a surprise by the family. The day the sister came She went to her brother's house and was so relaxed. My friend came around and met her but didn't allow her talk before she start beating her up,she beat her till she was admitted to the hospital, the husband family got angry and arrested her but when the parents of my friend begged she was released and the wedding was cancelled.
I use to know a married couple,the wife has anger issue and she destroy virtually everything she layed her hands on. She breaks things especially TV . The husband always try not to get her upset but we can't cheat nature we can only control our ability to to deal with it.
There are some anger that are kind of funny like mine,whenever I'm angry I loose valuable things especially money. When I started my business,whenever I go to work and something or someone provoke me to anger I will surely loose huge amount of money. So many times these have happened but my eyes wasn't open to see this. The day it does I cried out and started asking for forgiveness from God. You see now whenever I am provoke I make sure I talk to the person so he/she can realise how I felt and I tried to take it off my mind. Sometimes when I see nobody to talk to I just go to the toilet start talk inside when I'm done I flush it and it all over.I am sometimes awfully greedy; I want everything from life. I want to be a woman and to be a man, to have many friends and to have loneliness, to work much and write good books, to travel and enjoy myself, to be selfish and to be unselfish… but deep down I know it is difficult to get all which I want in life. And then when I do not succeed I get mad with anger. Whenever I'm angry at times I love to drink which I know is bad but still I will drink to stupor.
In conclusion,try to understand your Anger so you can get to know how to deal with it so you don't hurt anyone nor yourself. Best way I think you can control your Anger is to be silence,keep to yourself and avoid too much company else you can't get away with it. Find your Anger controller today and you will live a happy person.
Anger can be destructive. I'm so sorry to hear about your friend who lost his life due to his anger