The things I have learned from him.

One thing that I have learned from life is that , it is not always about me. All the things that is happening around me is not always about me and not always in favor of me. Sometimes we need to think of others. Others feeling? Others welfare? Others thoughts and many more others.

I am raised by my father to fight what is right and because of that I grew up defending all my actions as long as I know that I am right. I don't care if other people got offended or hurt as long as I express my feelings. My thinking that time is I am just expressing the real me and that's make me satisfied because thats what I believed in. I didn't choose a person to make arguments with , I made it with my mother , my father , even to my grandmother who is in heaven now. I am a person like that until this person came into my life making me realize that making arguments are sometimes not the solution for everything and learn to listen on someones side before insisting that you're right.

When he was courting me , I experienced to wait for him about an hour because he was stuck on a traffic. As a person who hates on waiting I got annoyed because I was so bored at the place where I stand and I don't know the exact time he will come. When he arrived he noticed that I am not in a mood and he said sorry. I just remain silent at that moment and he said something to me.

After I arrived , you didn't asked me if how's my trip? If I had a hard time commuting or I had a problem encountered during my trip. You didn't ask yourself if Im okay or do I have a sit in a bus or maybe I lost my wallet or what and you feel annoyed to me because you have waited for long time but look at yourself you are safe at this place while me is outside.

I didn't answer back because he has a point. Because of that incident I tried to be wait patiently everytime even if he is not the person I am waiting. I just divert my attention to any stuffs while waiting to avoid boredomness.

The second one happened way back May 1, 2017. It was Labor day that time and he has no work while me was on midshift that time. I assumed that he will going to pick me up at home and go together at the office but I was disappointed. Again , I got annoyed and ask him why he didn't pick me up. He just say sorry to me and said he was sleeping that time and we have no conversation about picking me up on our house. That incident passed until it comes to a point that I am there in thier apartment in Makati and I need to get my things in Sta. Mesa and back to Makati again. That time I feel so tired and realized how tired he is everytime he is with me. Imagine , he works at 7 AM to 7 PM as a construction worker and then from BGC he will travel to Makati just to see me and be with me up to Sta. Mesa and then go home in Makati late at night and woke up early on the other day.

After that incident , I didn't asked him to take me home everyday as I know how tired he was just to make me happy with my so called relationship goals.

I have many realizations because of my husband. I learned how to control my emotions everytime I am mad. Before when I am mad I will say what I want to say without a break but now I am changed. I learned how to stay calm and think of the situation before saying anything because like what he always say to me words are powerful and you cant rewind it because the damage has been done onced you said it.

I learned how to make myself neutral on the things that I saw and think first before reacting to it. I learned how to use the saying " don't he so quick to judge " because we all have different stories. My judgement will base after I witnessed something that is showing fact and giving justification on what was happened.

I also avoid posting anything in social media. Before I always post anything that is happening in my life as in everything and he hates that because it is not appropriate to spread whatever the happenings in your life just to asked for sympathy as you didn't know who is really true to you. I'm happy that I overcome this habit and continue to be a private person and only opened it to the people I trusted.

Like what I said I am now not a fan of arguments. Sometimes not commenting on a certain topic or issue is not being coward or being play safe. It's just a way of letting yourself free from any negative vibes on it. After all arguments are not healthy when you know that arguments will be remain arguments whatever you do so why be involved?

And lastly , I learned how to keep silent even if it already triggering me. If it's not worth to answer why would I ✌️😂