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It's my way of avoiding rejections.
When @ellimacandrea published an article about first impressions , I commented on it that I also want to asked my friends about thier first impressions to me even if I already knew thier answers as I know I am not to approachable as a person but I added one question and that question was " ***then after you know more about me. Is that first impression change?*** First I posted it on my Facebook account and then I messaged some of my friends in different circles. After I posted on my Facebook wall , there's a few who commented. They are the people around me that I can say not to close enough and here's thier replies. ***Looks like hard to approach.*** ***Snobber at first but friendly.*** ***Feels like her smile has a price.*** I was bit hurt when I saw these comments and I asked myself , am I too snobber? Though I knew to myself that I am and all of their replies were true but these are only first impression as I know to myself that I am not like that when you knew me better. I am a type of person who is not always smiling. I have always have the mataray look that why a lot of people find me snobber and hard to approach but they didn't know that this kind of personality of mine is kind of my defense mechanism to avoid myself from rejection. Yes , you heard it right. Despite of my frown face , there's a thought in my head that I want to be friendly but I am afraid to greet or smile to them because they might not do the same. That's why I admire those friendly person. So what happened typically was I will smile to the one who smiled at me first and I talked to someone who approach me first. I remember when I was working in my previous company , so I have a seatmate there in the other station , we are in the middle shift that time and you know what? It's because didn't care to asked me or talked to me then I do the same and we didn't talked the whole month. Then we had a hiking after that shift and we had a chance to talk then she said to me , Ate Jen you're so talkative , you have many stories to tell. I thought you're a snobber that's why I didn't approached you. I told her that it's okay because I am so used to it. Then this is three of the replies to the ones I messaged in my different circle of friends. This is from my college friend that remains my close friend until now. *Snobber, but after i met you you're still snobber hahaha just kidding! A serious type of person and sometimes a little bit weird.* This is from my friend when I was working in Level Up. *A silent type of person and yeah snobber. Sometimes silent but sometimes talkative especially when we had a conversation about life. For me you're not maldita Yen , you are just a silent type of person especially to the ones that you didn't know we'll yet.* And lastly , a friend from my previous job in a BPO company. *Look snobber but friendly,Well if im being honest, nothing change you are the most wonderful human being i could've ever met with a strong personality. Highly authentic people don't pretend, even though you're "SUPLADA" still i like you for being real than to be fake.* Yeah , I am aware that I am not into greeting people most of the time. Sometimes I also asked myself why I am like this. I am not friendly like the other and I am not approachable enough to the point that people judge me but still blessed because there's a few people who know me better as a friend, cousin, daughter , wife and mother. And the reason why I am more open to strangers is that I can freely express myself to them with no judgements.
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I could relate to you. Most of the people around me especially not close ones would judge me as strict but I guess first impression wouldn't last especially when they get to know the other side of me. I believe Naman normal and mas safe Kung Hindi Tayo masyadong friendly.
Neutral Lang no?
For me oo. Tsaka it's okay lang. Kasi for me it's a way of keeping myself away from wrong people.
Hugot ba Ito? Hehe
slight hehe
We have relatable attitudes but for me, I ma type of person that friendly but not approachable, I can easily determine whats the person attitude base on their movements and shown attitude. Like what you've said it's a defense mechanism to avoid those toxic people that may harm us.
Takot Kasi ako mareject haha. Yung baka Kasi I approach ko tapos diman din ako pansinin
>Snobber at first but friendly. this was me, snubber with a mission char.. I don't really talk at first especially those I don't know what the real intention haha.. then when the time comes I have seen great I will show how the naughty and semi-bully (Pranks Burger) I am haha
Yes, that's true po. Mas naeexpress pa natin yung sarili natin sa ibang tao or stranger kase wala tayong judgement na nakukuha sa kanila unlike kung sa close friends natin or sa pamilya nahihiya tayo kase may tendency na ma judge nila tayo. Ganyan din po ako, yung mga nangyayari sa buhay ko or sa mga problema ko sa ibang tao ko nasishare
Diba? Parang mas magaan kapag Hindi ka nila kilala hehe
Opo😁
I don't know you and I wouldn't even tell if you are snobby or not. But I guess we tend to have that one thing in common. I mean people thinking we are snobby because of our strict looks. Most people say this to me as well and I don't always mind because that strict look has saved me from a lot of dramas and shits.
Kaya ako madali makipag close sa nakikilala ko sa virtual world ee, kasi mas madaling mag labas ng saloobin ba. No judgement. Buti wala akong friend, waka tuloy ako matanungan ng ganyan hahaya
Enebeyen madam. Meron Yan .
Same impression sakn madam.. Kht dto sabi ni bata prang ang mahal daw ng smile ko 🤣
Karamihan yata sa virtual world mga ganito haha
Ma personal man o socmed sis, napagsabihan rin akong snob or mayabang daw kasi di nakikipaghalubilo o di man lang ngumiti. Well, personality natin yun eh bat't namin babaguhin para sa kanila. Let those people who appreciate us to only stay. We don't need fakes one after a di ba po. Hehe
Cheers hihi.
I agree with you. Though di ako napagsabihan ng snob, mataray talaga daw. Dahil daw always ako nakapony tail and nakasimangot. Ganon pala yon? But just like you, takot din kasi ako na baka pag nag smile ako, di ako smile back. Sakeeeert non ey.
Kaya nga hehe. Kaya neutral nalang
Para iwas pain. Truth talaga e.
kaya pala madali kita naka chicka mommy hehehe..