Is there a right and wrong parenting?

Do you believe that there's a right and a wrong parenting? Or it's just on the parents preference on things that they believe? This is one of the topic that my husband and I talk about last week and I write about it just now because I really need a concentration to write this topic.

You all know that I am taking good care of two toddlers here in our house which is my son and my niece. My husband and I had a discussion about my niece behavior because sometimes she has an attitude when my sister is with her side like there's someone who will tolerate her.

Why tolerate?

Here's the scenario. For example in the kitchen, my sister let's my niece play the kitchen utensils and other things in the kitchen and when I saw it I will told her that it's not right because kitchen utensils is not a toy. For me it's not right to play those stuff but her mother which is my sister don't speak or even told her daughter that it's not right and maybe my niece was confused what's wrong and what right. My Aunt told me it's not right but my mother let me play those and because my niece want to play it and her mother didn't told her it's not right then she will continue playing it.

Another scenario.

I saw my niece with a lipstick in her lips because her mother put it in her lips. For me a 2 year old kid don't need to have lipstick on thier lips. Make up should be for adults and if I have a daughter I will not put any cosmetic on her face especially for her young age. It's just me because for me make up is not for young people because young skin is sensitive and we can't tell if there's a substance on cosmetics that is harmful for young skin and lastly I don't want that phrase that I heard like if you wear make up you are beautiful. I don't want that. If I have a daughter I will tell them that we are all beautiful with or without make up.

My sister is really into skincare thats why and I am not.

Then my husband and I talked about how our parents raised us.

My father allowed us to speak up especially when we know we are right. My explanation of my father is parents is not always right and we should listen to our children because sometimes they have a point.

But my husbands father is not like that. You don't have the right to speak up to him because you are only his children that's why they never speak up and thier father is always right.

Another scenario.

My father allowed us to drink alcohol but he said to us never tried to smoke. He lets us drink but in moderation. We are legal to drink and sometimes we drink together.

But some parents are not allowing thier children to drink alcohol or even allow them to travel or to go overnight with friends.

So I will ask the question again. Is there a right and a wrong parenting?

Feel free to share your answer in the comment section especially the parents here.