I am just only like this. I am not generating a high income or be successful because I don't have any education. Do you still proud of me? I have no say compared to your sister's boyfriend who is seaman.
This words came from his mouth when we were talking and I laugh at him when I am starting to tell him my answer.
You know what? I am so blessed to have you. My relatives told me that too. Do you know why? Because they see you as a good man because you showed good manners to them and you showed the real you. Did they questioned your income? No. As long as you did your best to support us , it's fine. Do we have depts? Yes we have but not because we are lack of money but because we want to buy something that is useful for our daily living. Do you have any vises? No. You are not smoking , you didn't drink alcohol and our neighborhood are amazed because it's so rare to see a man who don't have any vises. So tell me? Did you make me proud?
He also had a conversation with my Uncle and he received a compliment to him and my Uncle gives some advice to him and told him that he will be a good father and provider to us because he has no vises. Knowing that my Uncle has a good impression to him makes me happy and proud. He also share some of his experience raising my cousins during thier college life and now my 2 cousins already finished college because of the hard work of my Uncle who is also not a degree holder.
He was teary eyed when I told him those compliments. This is not my own observation to him but it's the observation of the other people around us. To be honest he's more closed on our neighborhood that I did because my husband is so approachable and friends not like me who always want silent pace and don't want to socialize.
Aside from our relatives and neighborhood observation and comments on him. There are so many reason why I should be proud of him and I will share it to you. I know it's a little embarrassing to share this but it's all true. For some people it's just a little reason but it means a lot to me
He was the one who taught me on proper washing of clothes and also folding. I know , I'm a lady and I should be neat as other lady too but I am not. I didn't wash the clothes property. Sometimes I put some bleach to his clothes and the clothes will become useless because it has some white spot. Sometimes I put the white clothes and colored ones resulting the white shirt got some colors. He also taught me proper folding when the clothes looks like so neat. Before I just put all my clothes in the dura box and they are all there but he told me that it's not too late to change my routine and be organized.
He always said to used the word please when I am asking for favor. Before I am asking for favor without using the word " pakisuyo or paki ". He doesn't want to hear that I am asking for favor without that word. If he didn't hear the magic word he didn't follow what I said and because of that the word pakisuyo became my routine when I am asking for some favors.
He never add fuel to the fire. When I am annoyed or in anger , he didn't talk to me and make the fire more burning. Instead he will keep in silent. If I shouted at him because I am mad , he just whispered to me and said please raise you voice more higher so that the neighborhood will hear you. He just let me get mad and cool down because he knows that after that I will realized that it was mistakes and I am asking for apologies afterwards. He knows me already.
He is so selfless and has a deep understanding. Sometimes I questioned him why he was like that but after being together for years , I admire his generousity without expecting in return. Remember my article back then when I ask him , why do you give? He answered me because they need something. He gives because someone needs someone without thinking if he has some for himself. I witnessed it and admire him a lot. He always told me maybe other people thinks that I am stupid and people take advantage of my kindness , I just let them think of that way. What important is what God thinks of me and I help people even if I don't have any for myself.
He didn't thought of revenge and taking advantage to others. He didn't fight and speak up that he is right just to justify himself and show people that he's right. He is always humble and he always teach my son to be also humble. He didn't thought of revenge just to fulfill his ego. He told me that I know the feeling of that , why I need to do the same. Instead of taking a revenge , I just prayed for them. And because ody husband attitude I also want that kind and I am happy that I also controlled my emotion and think a lot of times before I throw words to someone. I choose to remained silent and not to rant or fight.
So that's the few characteristic and attitude of my husband that I am so proud. Yes , he has not holding any diploma or achieved any degree but being a good people , a good father , a good husband , a good son in-laws to me and my family is what matters most. Seeing by other people that we are happy and contented is what makes us happy too.