Faced your problem together.

Relationship aren't always sweet. The reality is not like a fairytale that we used to see on movie and read on a book. Misunderstandings and argument were formed sometimes. You will encounter different kind of problems in a different areas of your life. One of the reasons why couple do fight because they have different opinions. When you got married, you and your spouse became one in the eyes of God and people but in reality both of you are still different individuals who have different likes, insights and principles. You have different feelings, different moods, taste, prefference on certains things.

Some couples choose not to talk about it and ignore it without knowing that other problem will soon to be formed because they didnt faced the last one. Do you think it is good on the relationship if they choose to ignore the problem or it is better when you both faced the problem despite of all the consequences.

Here are the few ways to be able to solve problems.

1.Talk about the problem

Talk about the problem doesnt mean you will say all the words the you want to say. If you do it both in that way, there's a tendency that your argument will never be solved. Theres a right way of talking the problem. Let your partner speaks first , when your partner speaks all you have to do is listen. Just listen to your partner. When you feel annoyed or anger, avoid to express it while your partner is speaking. Remember that even you have misunderstanding , you love your partner. When your partner finished to speak, then its your turn to speak up. Tell your partner all the words that you want to say and what you've feel. Most important thing to do when you both talking the problem is speak for the truth. Always calm yourself when talking because through that way the conversation will not turn to arguments.

2. Listen and Understanding.

After talking the problem, next thing you will do is listen. When we say listen, its not literally you listen. You need to listen and undesrtand what your partner wants to say. It is important to listen on your partner regarding his/her own thoughts and what he/she feels. It is also a sign of being humble when you choose to listen on your partner. Dont pretend that you are listening. Some couples do this thing when they began to feel irritated on their partner and they begin to say that they agreed and understood their partner but the truth is they want their partner to stop talking. Dont do that. The problem will not be solved if you do it that way.

3.Decision Making.

If you already talked about the problem and you listen on each other side with a better understanding thats the time to do the decision making. It's not easy to do but when you practice this kind of routine in your relationship it will be easy for the both of you to solved your problems.

If you will faced your problem together, I am sure that your relationship will become more stronger. If you have problems in the past just dont looked back on it and start thinking for the better future to the both of you. Always remember that you promised to be someone's strength and you also promised that you will be for him/her despite of all the situation that you will soon be encountered.

I wrote this article because this is the current situation of our relationship 😄 And believed me. It helps a lot to us. This article is also inspired on Jehovah's Witnesses booklet. I just thought of it because we already tackled this topic in the past and everytime we had a fight I always thought of that topic 😉