This is a true story of mine. This is also an eye opener to those girls who had a relationship with the guy who is taken already but still choose to keep that relationship.
Can you call me a mistress? He's not married yet. In terms of law and in also in church, I guess you cant call me that but in the eye of the people, maybe yes. They will judge you for being like that.
It was started when my ex boyfriend broke up with me. It was 11PM that time when I received a text coming from him saying that he wants to end our relationship with no valid reason. He just said the this relationship will no longer work and let's end this. After that he blocked me on all his social media account. I cant able to call him because he also blocked me.
I want to end my life that time. I dont want to eat, I dont want to go to the office. I just want to be in my room and be alone. I cried a lot. I am afraid of starting over again. I dont know what to do, I dont want to fix myself. All I need is him. I want him back.
Days passed I decided to continue my life without him and to make it short, I met this man. I met this man on one of our drinking session with my friend. He's a cousin of my college friend. After that drinking session he texted me and we meet again. The fact that I am lonely, I am longing with some attention , I missed a person who cares for you. Like texting you how's your day. Something like that.
Our feeling become mutual. But here's the thing. He has a girlfriend and they have an LDR relationship. Yes, I know from the start it was all wrong. It comes to the point that we treated each other as girlfriend and boyfriend but we have no label. I know you judged me already. Its fine with me. I know I am wrong. We keep that kind of relationship for a couple of months and he promised that he was just finding a timing to broke up with his girlfriend. And I believe him 😅
He already introduced me to his parents and I already introduced him to my parents as friends. My friends knows our set up, I tell them all what was happening to my life. I know they want to give me some advice but they choose to remain silent and support me because I am old enough to decide for myself.
Its been 8 months but his promised that he will broke up to her girlfriend seems untrue. It just like they want me because of sex. They want me because I am the one who's near and I am the one who can fullfill the shortcomings of her girlfriend.
One day, the husband of my friend talked to me frankly. He said " If you want to gain respect to other people, you should respect yourself first " I know what he meant with those words. I have no words to rebutt from him because I admit that I was wrong. He also added this words. " You should find yourself first. You should go on travel, make some friends. Find your happiness without any man involved. Dont let people disrespect you. You know what, I felt pity on you " I started to cry when he said those words and I feel pity for myself too.
After that heart to heart conversation, I decided to talked to the guy and made him choose between me and her girlfriend. And I know you have an idea who he choose. And yes he choose her girlfriend.
I didnt cry after what happened. I just continue my life and followed the advice of my husband's friend. I go to travel, that's why I discovered to hike on mountains hehe. I learned to engaged with other people, I also try dating sites not to find a guy but just have a random talk to stranger. After a month, I enjoyed my life without a man and all I know that time was, I need to fixed myself until God allowed me to meet the guy that I've always prayed for. At he never failed me.
If people fail to see your value, it is not their fault. Just that you've failed to appreciate and respect yourself. You are letting yourself down.
Olawale DanieI
I think the hardest part when you entered this situation was going out and forgiving yourself. I know how it feels. Been there, done that. He also gave the same promises to me. 😅😂 But in the end, I was not who he really wants. It took me long time to forgive myself and bring back the old me that he broke. But when you've finally fixed yourself and realized your worth, the feeling of contentment is amazing. ❤❤