All about misunderstanding.

Misunderstanding is one of the main reason why relationship are getting broken. It is not just all about the couple but also in friends , workmates or even other people. If we truly understand what is misunderstanding really means , we can avoid it and analyze it. The relationship is more happy and at peace if there's no misunderstanding between the two people involved.

Did you try to avoid misunderstanding before? What did you do?

There are two types of misunderstanding. The first one is to be misunderstood and second is to misunderstand but before that let's get to know what misunderstanding is.

Misunderstanding.

Misunderstanding can cause no good on the relationship. It is a failure to understand someone or something and because of that the contrary and fight started. Misunderstanding is also a false thinking about a person because you didn't understand them. If you didn't understand things better , it is already misunderstanding.

The most common cause of misunderstanding is lack of communication. It can be happened for both person that is involved in the relationship or sometimes it is just one sided but whatever the situation is we need to always avoid it

Effects of misunderstanding in a relationship.

Misunderstanding has a great impact on the relationship. Conflict starts because of it.

I know you already see fights and break ups and some of those happened because of just a simple misunderstanding. Are you somehow related with the statement? A miscommunication of a couple can make the other think the thier partner do something. Then the doubt started and the wrong ideas spread on the head and lead to negative thoughts.

Do you believe that misunderstanding is about perception , perspective and presumption?

We can try to avoid misunderstanding if we know the root and why it happened. If we always practice to do that we can have a healthy relationship.

Misunderstanding happens when?

• A person say the words wrongly and the other person misunderstanding it.

• A person didn't understand it correctly because it is not delivered in a right way.

• Two persons has not in the same thinking or mood.

• You already made up a decision that contradict to someone's idea.

• You have a experience that you use as a reference and you insisted it even if it is not the case.

• You are listening to other peoples thought and because of the yojr perception changed.

• You don't have trust to that person or you have envious feeling.

• Wrong views and judgement on people and situation.

• Assuming a negative reasons because of delay response.

• Didn't understand the whole idea clearly.

• Carried away with you emotions without understanding other people.

Misunderstanding mostly happened when people assume something without knowing the truth. You think of ideas that has no justifying reasons and because of that misunderstanding happens. In this case it is all about your attitude and no because of the communication.

You are trying to have a conclusion on your even if you didn't know what happened. This is all because of the idea stored on your mind and you are being biased because you already completed the picture.

Avoiding misunderstanding.

The solution to avoid misunderstanding is communication. Mostly misunderstanding happens because of lack of communication, different opinions and the way of thinking.

There's a some ways to avoid it but for me LOVE can prevent the misunderstanding. Yes , LOVE.

LOVE is an acronym that stands for Listen, Observe, Verify and Evaluate.

Listen- listen carefully. Be attentive and understand what you listened to. Misunderstanding happen when we do not listen fully on what was the speaker said.

Observe- be observant. Be sure that you don't miss any sign because every details is important. We you missed even a small action it can lead to misunderstanding.

Verify- Verify your thoughts before saying it. Verify also the person I mean the body language or the facial expressions before proceeding on talking

Evaluate- evaluate your observations and verify. Check it your understanding is same as yours. You can ask for clarification and give time people to explain before going to conclusions.

Avoid being misunderstood.

• Think before you speak

• Choose the right words carefully.

• Deliver your sentence well with a calm tone.

• In virtual , proper use of emoticons , punctuations and capital letters.

• Always prefer a face to face conversation.

• Always reply actively because sometimes silence create misunderstanding.

We never know when will have another chance to clarify our doubts so we need to do it to avoid misunderstanding because as time passes by our pride builds and it will became a wall to the two of you. If you noticed there's a lot of people who misunderstood each other and didn't talk for years and then lose the interest to be friends again.

Closing thoughts.

Life is short. We never know what will happened tomorrow so better to clarify issues now and don't keep it. Always have an open communication and talk about everything that needs to talk about.

A question to you.

Do you experienced to misunderstand anyone or being misunderstood?

What do you think is the reason?

Have you ever tried to avoid it?

What did you do?