How To Stop Worrying Over What People Think About You

While at work today, a colleague came to me with so much grief in her heart. 'Can I ask you a question ' she asked feebly. I suspended what I was doing to pay attention to whatever she wanted asking me.

She continued 'Lisa, we've worked in this hospital for over 3 years now, why doesn't people negative talks gets to you, like it does to me? . I smiled and offered her a sit because i Knew it was going to be a long talk. I know alot of people are like my colleague who allows people's negative talk and opinion matters to them, which was never meant to be so.

One of the reasons people worry about what others think about them is because of lack of self value. Such an individual is much concerned about what what is happening in the life of others than focusing on her own. She want to live her life pleasing them, in other to be in their good books everyday.

One of the biggest trick to live a life, you don't worry about what others think or say, is to masked your energy. This doesn't mean you'll stop, appreciating them, of they compliment you, but you don't need to let it get to you. People change , the same person who applauded you today could be the same person to spread negative comments about you to others. So masking up your energy will help cushion you from such event. I was once like that, I allowed whatever negativity and positivity people had to get to me, I still remember those where the worst year of my life. I had no self love, self value and so I was depending on people to give to me what I should've given to myself. But the moment I realized I could really better for myself, everyone around me began complaining that I have changed, since what they ever did never bothered me any longer.

The second hint is, understanding your true purpose In life. A lot of young people out there have lost focus, now all they care about is living a life that will wade people off their back. Everyone wants to be a computer wizard, crypto traders and other trending jobs. It's fine, if you really want to do that but hope you won't be worried about what people will say when you are not making progress. Rather than moving with the trend, why not pray to God to opened your eyes, so you really know your purpose in life ? You were not here to do things to please others, but to please God. You are not alive because of reviews others make on your life, you are because he loves you. Don't allow trends push you off your purpose. If you feel you had gone off the radar of God, pray to him to redirect your steps.

Thirdly, Never build your confidence round materialistic acquisition. The social media have become a hub for daily comparison. A lot of people go online just to know how much progress a friend, colleague or spouse has acquire. This takes a negative toil as such an individual begins to worry about what others will think about them, especially when they were close friends or sibling to the more successful person. It is bad! You are in no competition with anyone. Brace up and focus on your life. You don't have to worry about a beautiful house, expensive cars and lifestyle of others, most times this doesn't confer confidence. Focusing on yourself should be your goal. I do tell people even if you are given the most expensive car in the world, and you don't have self confidence, you may not still be satisfied, because you might be worried about the color of the car.

Fourthly, stop comparing yourself with others , there is always bound to people doing better than you. So why do you really want to compare yourself if you know this? I still remember in college when I was so concerned about people's opinion, I used to study other people's grade. I was so concerned about how, a friend got a better grade than I and it ended up ruining me academically. I was performing more worst than before, then I stopped the comparison, and they were tremendous changes in my grades. Comparing yourself with others is like chasing rats, while your house is on fire. We tend to leave our important stuffs just to compare our success with others. You are bound to be sad because somewhere somehow, someone will be doing better than you.

The last point I told her was funny but true, stop worrying about what people think about you because no one actually cares, no cares if you exist or not, worrying about what people think, is a sign of inferiority complex, you were never meant to be bothered . Live your life to the fullest and be happy. Your success is nobody's business, so why bothered with their negativity. She thanked me and left. I knew she was a little better because of how she smiled and laughed after our little discussion.

Conclusion

You are in charge of the affairs of your life and you should guide it with jealousy, don't allow negative energy push you off guard. Caring about what others think about you should be the least thing on your mind because they don't actually care. Snap off your mirage and go live your life to the fullest, do have a blessed time...

So much love from me to you..❤❤❤❤

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